I've been trying to resist posting about my honey jar, since every newbie does it, but here I go. Sorry so long… a little back story.
My guy (who now has a girlfriend) and I had a falling out a few weeks ago and I decided to start a honey jar, in addition to a break-up spell that I have. I’m kicking myself now because I read somewhere in the forum about how you can never be too sweet regarding making a honey jar and at the time I though ‘my situation is good I don‘t need one.’ Well, hindsight is 20/20 and it’s better late then never, right? My jar has been going normally, and last week I wrote my guy an email telling him how I feel about our whole situation and he decided to accept me as a connection on a professional website we are both apart of (not facebook or myspace). This told me that he read past emails of ours because that invite was 2 years old when I sent it, and at the time we were starting our friendship. This was my goal; I wanted him to remember why he liked me in the first place. Four days after I sent the email I put my honey jar in my tub with some water and went to sleep. In the morning the wax from the candle that was in the center of the lid dripped off the side of the jar and into the water forming an image of 2 hearts connected at the bottom points. Always trying to think positive I took this as a good sign. In the past my candles have only dripped once off the side of the jar and I think that was due to the candle being close to the edge. Four days after the wax hearts, which was last night, I decided to stay awake really late to insure he was sleeping and not partying with his friends and burn my candle. As I’m thinking really hard about what I want him to feel, things like ‘despite the difficulty I’m breaking up with [girlfriend’s name], I like and want to be with [my name] more’ and the flame starts to slowly sway. At this point I’m trying to stay focused, but I’m also nervous because this isn’t a normal occurrence of my jar and it could be a bad sign. So I change the suggestions to focus on me excluding the girlfriend and how he only wants to be with me and the flame sways again. Next I decided to use a concrete fact of what he thought of me to see if the flame moves, ‘I feel [my name] is just like a jellybean, hard on the outside and soft in the middle.’ The flame still moved!?! Now I’m really confused… there wasn’t a draft, the a/c wasn’t on, this was the flame on its own.
My questions are… in this thread (candle-flame-interpretations-t440s100.html
) Ms. Cat says the target might know they are being conjured and resisting if a flame behaves erratically, but since the flame didn't dip or gutter as the example on the candle divination page was this necessarily a bad sign? I’m still thinking no, but I could be wrong and/or in denial.
If the target is resisting what I want him to think, how can he also be resisting his own thoughts of me?
Is the flame always supposed to be tall and strong for a love/reconciliation honey jar?
Thank you for any and all advice in advance.