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by Belli » Fri Feb 27, 2009 12:00 pm
I have a question in regards to working a honey jar. This is my first honey jar that I have worked. I am thinking of working a second one for a seperate condition. However, my question is in regards to when you are receiving responses from the jar, and you feel it has reached it's end, do you bury the jar in your yard, back or front? For instance, the jar right now is to aid in reconciliation and rebonding with my husband. We don't plan to divorce, just both are working through so past experiences together that we failed to realize was hurting us subconciously, and when it hit us that we neglected some areas in our relationship, it got really rough for several years, and we were in limbo with what our relationship meant, once we realized we meant the world to each other, it was time for healing, so i use reconciliation as part of that healing the past wounds, forgiving and reestablishing a stronger bond. So, once this has happened, I have thought about how to put this where it will be marked as a victory, and then either start a new one to maintain a constant flow of awareness of where we are in our relationship, so to speak.
any thoughts?
Ok, second, my husband has had this job for a year now, and if they had "employee of the month" he would get the title every month. However, his employer was fired from the head engineer and home owner, which in turn meant that he and eveyone else got booted. The engineer loved him and his work, and word is out that a few selected from the original employer boss man that they were trying to get rid of in the first place, will be hired directly on under the homeowner and engineer. If this happens, my husband is wanting to stay permanently with them, which is a huge growth, because in his line of work which is building homes, the companies come and go, and he's always left in a bad situation but a better opportunity always comes his way, but now we're older, have a home, three kids, and it's time to stay put. Again, same situation, I want to work a honey jar spell for this, and thought about it a few months ago, but decided to stay out of it( everyone knows his employer was bad news, but my husband just worked to show his capabilities to the homeowner and engineer, which they definitely took notice by asking him to come work in the main house but he said for them to ask his boss, which the boss said no way, he's our top guy we need him here). I can't seem to just let this one go though, this is the first time he has been happy with a job and talked about staying permanently, he always seeked more, and this can go very well for him. It seems like they are already thinking of hiring him on again, but do i sit back and see where the cards fall, or do i help move it along? I am comfortable in thinking that if it doesn't play out how we wish and he finds some place else to go, this will be ok, we'll just start over, if that's what is best. I do though, feel we should play a part in our path, and if we want something we should go after it. To my understanding, like cat mentions with reconciliation, it works best if the potential is there for both parties, and that's how i feel with this job, he has everyone who is still working there from different crews who didn't get laid off, rooting for him and his supervisor (the other good guy from this boss man that was scum). For whatever reason, the homeowner feels that in order to trim the fat, when the boss man goes, they all go, that's how they cut ties. Then they gain control back over their own project and hire on the ones that they saw were beneficial, in this case my husband is included in that. Furthermore, the project is way to large and involved to go and hire and train new people, that's time and more money spent (though they DO have it, but the boss was fired because he took their money and scammed them out of money, which says to me though they have the money, they aren't willing to throw it away trying to find new workers to do a good job, common sense to me). Ok, so...
A few years ago, the homeowner had to do the same thing to another crew of workers and hired back all the good people, so this is happening again, except now my husband is in this situation hoping he will be hired back since he's been one of the few to be reliable and productive.
OH MY, I am so sorry this is sooo long! Straight up anyone seeing this in a different light than me?
I appreciate it! I have this darn block, that when I am working with other clients, I see clearly and can use my own experiences to help others, but when it comes to me, generally i can do the same, but every now and then, stress creates a cloudy image for me, so I am seeking someone else to see the picture and let me know if I got the idea right. Also, as I mentioned, honey jars are new territory for me!
Thanks for lending an ear you guys!