sangomo1 wrote:This is a very rough situation, I think a Reconciliation candle and an Intranquility candle simultaniously is in order. Thoughts?
Whoa. First you wanted an Intranquility (which will torment the person into returning), then you wanted an Intranquility and a Return to Me (to torment them into returing and also gently force them into returning)-- and now you want a Reconciliation (to bring about sweet reuinion) and an Intranquility (while tormenting them) -- ?
Either of the first two ideas makes sense, but i have commented elsewhere about why i do not think it is wise to light both an Intranquility candle and a Reconciliation candle at the same time. You may have missed that, so i'll say it again here, a different way.
You are confused in mind if you try to work both of these spells or burn both of these candles at once.
Choose either to dominate, subjugate, humiliate, and coerce your lover to return or choose to reconcile, renew vows of love, open lines of communication, and get a new start together.
You cannot in good heart do both at once. It's like trying to frown or scowl with your eyebrows and smile with your mouth at the same time.
Go ahead, look in a mirror. I'm serious. Go get in a mirror and do this:
Frown and scowl with your eyebrows. Look real angry. You are punishing your lover by sending an Intranquil Spirit to haunt and torture them. Now smile invitingly and lovingly with your mouth at the same time, reconciling with them while still frowning. It looks and feels pretty insane, right?
Okay. Relax for a moment.
Now smile with your mouth, and think of your lover and you together, a little teary perhaps, all forgiven, all renewed, and all made better between the two of you, then add a scowl and frown with your eyebrows while still smiling. It feels different doing that It that way, but it looks equally insane in the mirror because it is impossible to a human being to hold the two thoughts represened by those two facial gestures at the same time.
The same is true of scowling Intranquility and ameliorative Reconciliation.
Anyone who tries to set both lights at once is either unclear on the concepts, unable to distinguish between tormenting someone with an Intranquil Spirit and relaxing into sweet Reconciliation, or desperate enough for a reunion at any cost to place their goals in conflict, which makes them unlikely to succeed at either goal. The impossibly insane face you saw in the mirror is what your lover will see when you send an Intranquil Spirit and a Reconciliation spirit at the same time.
Now, note that i did not say it is unworkable to light a a Break-Up candle at the same time as an Intranquility candle, nor that it is confused to set an Intranquility light at the same time as a Return to Me light. Either of those combinations will work, as their goals can be aligned. It is just this specific combination -- Intranquility and Reconciliation -- that does not work in tandem, in my opinion -- and not because it is unethical, simply because it is expressive of the practitioner's conflicted focus of will and conflicted goals.