To answer a few questions asked above by various folks:
In addition to red foods, brown drinks are also commonly used as a carrier -- coffee, tea, and cola drinks being favoured.
No, do not grind up tissues, cloth, etc. It is the menses only you wish to get into the food.
Yes, many people use a tampon (kinda like a tea bag) and cook it with, for instance, a pot of beans, then pull it out.
To collect mense for immediate use or to dry or freeze for later use, you may use your fingers.
The idea that the man must must be fed three times is uncommon at best -- once is generally enough in my experience, but some women do this every time they have a period, to keep the man at home.
Men can use semen or a drop or two of urine. Non-menstuating women can use a drop or two of sexual fluids or urine.
If you cannot make him food or drink then you cannot do this spell. There is no other spell like this spell, and nothing else is "equal to it." A great deal of hoodoo rootwork is predicated upon contact. Without contact, the trick is not taken in by the recipient.
Again, please read the web page for more details: http://luckymojo.com/bodilyfluids.html
-- and also read the book "Hoodoo herb and Root Magic" for many more similar spells.