I am a female interested in doing some candle work around becoming an all around effective communicator.
I would love to develop "the gift of gab" to become a "smooth talker" LOL! My girfriend has this gift naturally and its AMAZING how people naturally bend to her will, love her and want to please her. She is very spiritual and kind hearted as well. I am kind hearted but it seems my speaking skills tend to be a bit more "abrasive" (I have mercury conjunct pluto conjunct uranus conjunct mars in 9th house natal astro chart, my intuitive, masculine mind tends see the bigger picture, to "get things" deeply and super fast is quickly onto the next ideas, my thinking and communication process does not have too much patience and is annoyed by inappropriate feeelings in context to the conversation, phoniness, gossip, needless smalltalk, small mindedness, and people who fail to see the bigger picture or at least understand the point of the conversation). I have an inherent BS spotter. Ive noticed many other women tend to feel threatened by me or competitive with me or think I am insulting them after speaking with me and Ive left the conversation thinking everything is fine.
What is interesting is I do not have this problem with men at all, but my goal is to become an equal opportunist in my communications and to leave people feeling listened to and wonderful, however I would like to stay respected. I did some work (wiccan) a few years ago around this and I didnt really notice a difference at all except other women became disrespectful, disdainful even and dismissive as I tried super hard to connect.
The irony here is Im a big-hearted softy, non-competitve feminine female and I have extremely complex emotional states these emotions in direct contrast to my insane thinking states and ideals. I really would love would be to communicate my ideas/ideals successfully without causing anger/resentment or misunderstandings.
Anyways, Id like to tackle this with a lil hoodoo help. Im thinking of mixing mercury, crown of success, archangel Gabriel maybe some venus or open roads or influence???
My question is what color candle do I use. Orange for mercury? Light Blue for throat chakra? and which oils are best for my intentions?
Ultimately my vision for the end result is to be expressive in an open, non-threatening, expansive, eloquent, smoother more compassionate, female-friendly and tactful inspiring way that leaves good feelings, mutual respect and inspiration