Hello everyone. Firstly, I just want to say how great this forum looks, some very knowledgable people here by the looks of things.

I have practiced a little hoodoo for the past few years, and most of what I've learned has been via the Lucky Mojo site.
Apologies for long post, just want to make the situation clear. I met a man about six weeks ago. We had a few dates, but the problem was that he was quite hot and cold. I had a reading done which said that he will come round and to be patient. Shortly after the reading, the man told me he feels we're incompatible, and was fairly adamant about this (in a nice way). He also said he's up for talking if that's what I want, and that it's not about not liking me. My reader said this tied in with the cards, with the man's personality type (King of Wands).
I want to help things along as I'm having trouble shifting him from my thoughts. I think this is a case of head over heart and not so much about attraction as what he thinks is best. I briefly considered the Intranquil Spirit but of course that is far too extreme for this case and terribly unfair! But, he is a very headstrong person and breaking his resistance is going to be quite tough. He's quite a closed-off character. What I want to do is get him thinking about me so much he can't help but want to see me again. It would need to be quite obsessive for it to override his decision, I feel. There is a reconciliation element here as well I think, in that we had something going, but a line was crossed for him to decide we should stop.
I don't have any samples, and don't know when, or if, we'll see each other again. I don't think chasing him is the right thing to do at the moment; he is not a person who likes pressure. All I have is his full name, date of birth, pictures I can download from the web, and a book he gave me. I do know where he lives, but it's a very secure city apartment building, with no areas to bury anything around it, and no individual postbox.
Suggestions gratefully received. I was thinking begin with skull candles: a black one to banish his negative thoughts about me/us, then a red to influence the positive and passionate. I'm all out of supplies so in the meantime I'm using vanilla scented tealights on a name paper.
Thank you in advance...