Hello Jamie,
Welcome to the forums. There is a lot to learn. Do't worry about being gay and living in Oklahoma. I know a lot LGBT peoples in that state!
to get you started, here are some links you can read to learn more about African American folk magic. These web pages from cat yronwode's "Hoodoo in Theory and Practice" will provide you with some basic grounding in conjure and its cultural context.
Hoodoo History:
http://luckymojo.com/hoodoohistory.html
Hoodoo and Religion:
http://luckymojo.com/hoodooandreligion.html
Southern Spirits: 19th and 20th century documents on Hoodoo
http://southern-spirits.com
How to Use Oils in the Hoodoo Tradition:
http://luckymojo.com/oils.html
How to Use Baths, Waters, and Washes in the Hoodoo Tradition:
http://luckymojo.com/baths.html
How to Use Sachet Powders in the Hoodoo Tradition:
http://luckymojo.com/powders.html
How to Use Incense in the Hoodoo Tradition:
http://luckymojo.com/incense.html
How to Use Candles in the Hoodoo Tradition:
http://luckymojo.com/candlemagic.html
How to Use Herbs and Roots in the Hoodoo Tradition:
http://herb-magic.com
Conditions and how we can address them:
http://luckymojo.com/hoodooataglance.html
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