Thanks for your helpful responses Starsinthesky7,
First you need to establish a schedule that you are going to burn on the honey jar. Most people do it monday, wednesday, Friday, however consistently burning it once a week on any of those days would be sufficient. BUT you must be consistent to get what you want. Next, I would probably go back and purchase some more effective herbs that are more aligned with your intentions such as balms of gilead, damiana, and some violet leaf, and put them inside your honey jar. OR you can purchase a reconciliation vigil candle back up the work you have already done.
My original plan was to burn it every night for a week or two and then to slow down and burn only, like you said, on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. Because I've already screwed this rhythm up twice, do you feel it would be better to move ahead onto your other suggestions first, and get the more-appropriate herbs before I decide to begin burning on the jar again or should I resume work on Monday? Another question, I sealed the lid the honey jar shut with sealing wax, do you feel it's alright to open it, add the herbs, and re-seal? Also, I have a Chuparosa vigil that I was going to burn along with the jar on Fridays only... in fact, I did burn it two Fridays ago (last Friday is when I wasn't able to burn on the jar). Do you think I could use the same idea for the reconciliation vigil & burn it along with the jar on Fridays? Or was I maybe over doing it?
I would actually consider doing a love uncrossing candle to remove any negativity that prevents your relationship from being reconciled, and better than it was before. For this you can get some uncrossing oil, or powder, with some rose petals, put it on a half red and black candle.
Great idea, I'll definitely try this. I'll have to order the uncrossing oil/powder from Lucky Mojo, so unfortunately this isn't something I will be able to do while he is still in town as he's leaving on Thursday. It's not that I won't be seeing him again in a couple of months, I just wanted to leave an "impression" on him while he's down here so that he'll keep me in his thoughts while he's away. Do purely those perfume oils work at all, I wonder. I just don't see how they would considering this is ROOTwork, you know?
To ignite the feelings, I would do a love me spell kit.
I will try this. Would it be okay to order the kit and work it when I receive it, even though I won't be actually seeing him next in late May... or would it be better to wait on working the kit until right before I see him again?
As for the rushing of events, I would not rush things faster than they already are happening. I say this because you do not want a crappy relationship again, and for it to go to crap again. It is easier for things to be slow and steady rather than rush things for it to only fall apart.
Yes, I completely agree. I choose to work the honey jar first so I could pace myself. I know it's going to take time, and I'm perfectly fine with that, I just want to feel more ensured that I'm on the path to reconciliation. I've had little over a year and a half to realize that I care enough for him to jeopardize the possibility of heartbreak again. I definitely don't want this rushed but I would like to see a strong healing process between us begin.
If he still has that addiction, or whoever had it, then you might want to think twice about engaging in this relationship.
This is not really a problem anymore other than the memory of painful things we did to each other in the past. We're both in recovery, and I realize a relationship between people in recovery isn't the best idea however we've both moved on from that lifestyle and have no intent or interest in going back. If I felt that being with him would ultimately be a repeat of what already happened, I wouldn't pursue it. Anyway, it's just hard because we messed things up between us so much before. We both genuinely care for and love each other, we just haven't made things right between us. Whether lovers or just friends, I honestly just want to repair what's been damaged. I will try and get a reading soon to get a better idea of how to approach this. I looked on the Association of Independent Readers & Rootworkers page and found someone on the list who lives only 10-15 mins away from me. Do you know if most of the readers do their readings online or in person?
Anyways, thanks so much for all of your help. It really is appreciated and as jwmcclin said, you've given me great advice. Oh, and sorry for my long posts - I have lots of questions I'd like to get opinions on, haha.