I am trying to figure out a way to keep a person from moving several states away. I just want him to stay here at least for now. I had broken up with him for literally a day because I was freaking out about how close we were getting (I've been recently through the divorce from hell, kids involved, scared of relationships, blah blah). I knew what I was doing it an why, so instead of running away this time I told him I wanted to talk. During this time, literally the night I ended it he applied for a job several states away (he has a very good job here and the job he applied for is the exact same thing). He ended up getting the job and is now going to move there in a little over a month. This is a place where we both want to move someday, only I can't now due to custody issues (leaving my children will never be an option). Many of my friends and my family live there already too. I just want him to stay here and not have this be so sudden. He put in his notice at work monday, but as of right now can still keep his job, announced it on facebook yesterday (you know it's offical when it's on facebook lol), and seriously thinks this is something he has to do right now. I just want him to stay here for now. I don't want to bind him to me, not keep him from ever being able to move. He has friends, a great job, a home, family, activities that he loves, and flies to this other city all the time for fun. When I was in my early 20s (I'm 36 now) I did a love spell that that really blew up in my face so I am always very cautious about how I do things. I absolutely don't want to manipulate how he feels about me (I just want time to see what could possibly happen) and if it doesn't work out then he can still move if that's what he still really wants to do.