I am new to this forum, but I really need some help. My story is kind of long but if you bear with me, I can explain.
I met this man in July of 2015. After many and many messages from him to me on Facebook and countless that I just ignored, I finally gave in and went and met him. He told me he was single, didn't have any kids nor any relationship. I let him know of everything that was going on in my life.
A couple of days later I found out that he not only had a woman "waiting" on him in Mexico, but that she was pregnant!!!
I didn't know what to do. He said if you don't want to see me ever again I understand -- but I decided that we could be friends. Well let's just say it didn't stay that way, we became an item.
He said that the girl in Mexico and him fought all the time and that he wasn't happy with her, but she was carrying his child and he couldn't not take care of his child. I never asked him not to take care of his child. I just wanted to make sure he was only with me. So to make sure that this happened, I fed him my menstrual blood. Actually, he knew I was on my period and didn't care. So, I let him know what he was doing.
At the end of Sept. when it was almost time for him to move, he asked me to look for a house here where I live so that we could be together. He asked me to marry him, so I called her on the phone. And she denied being with him at first, just said exactly what he did, that the only thing that bound them was their child.
Then she started her drama. She would call me and text me. I ignored her after a while.
Then he moved. We got into an argument but he seemed to never forget me. And always tell me he loved me. He would lash out and say stuff like I don't ever want to see you again, blah blah blah and as soon as I started leaving him alone, he would look for me.
Then he moved 2 states away, but paid for me to go and see him.
Then, the next day, he went one more state away.
Then about 2 to 3 weeks later, he came back to me.
So fast forward, 4 months later, here we are again. His baby mama found out about us again. He swore he didn't tell her he loved her ever since I said something about it. Then she says he does.
I had my cards read, the card reader said that he doesn't have feelings for her, that he really does love me, but that he is more of a father than a man, so if she keeps using her child against him that she will always win.
I have even seen how she uses her child against him. Also every time that I have tried to talk to her like an adult she just tries to slyly put me down and humiliate me. Like she is younger than me and better than me.
I might need to add that I am a week late on my period.
I need help! I don't know what to do.
1) I love him, but should i just cut my ties with him, even though he's the first man to ever really worship me and make me feel awesome in public and hug me and kiss me all the time? Or do I fight for him, to keep him with me? I don't know. I am confused.
2) I want that evil bitch to quit using her child to keep him. That I am for certain. That's our problem. She is a very arrogant person and acts like he treats her like a queen and I am trash. Pretty much that's how she tried to make me feel like I was trash.
I don't know what to do. Help me please.