Hello, I am new to this but have nowhere else to turn so I hope some kind soul will help me.
A man (I use the term loosely) is bullying me in the workplace. He has never forgiven me for beating him to a job he applied for and has made my life a misery ever since. In 2010 we both went for the same job within the company, and I got it. A year later my existing colleague retired and he was brought in to replace him. Despite me having worked hard and earned a good reputation in that year before he got there, he systematically went about destroying my reputation and undermining me at every opportunity. He was extremely lazy and I ended up doing the work he should have done.
This went on for nearly two years before I complained to our manager, but he refused to take any action against him. Instead, to my shock, I became a social pariah and in a meeting involving this manager, him and myself, they set about humiliating and bullying me, talking between themselves while ignoring me and then taking turns to attack every aspect of my work. This ordeal went on for two hours. By the time I emerged I was deeply traumatised and had to fight the urge to drive my car at high speed into a wall. After four months being signed off by my doctor (who put 'bullying' on the medical certificate) and emergency counselling for suicidal urges (arranged by the company doctor) I returned to work.
In the interim, he had taken another job within the company and in my absence, the decision by management had been to move my department in with him! And he started on me again from the time I returned but never in front of impartial witnesses - only those he could control. It got to the point where I felt I had no way out other than suicide, for the second time in as many years. I was struggling to hold it together, but in the meantime, the manager retired and someone else took over. I managed to get out of the same room as him, but he still found ways to get to me. He had been observed by one sympathetic colleague looking in the window of the door to my workshop and I became very worried he was planning something, so I covered it and had a padlock installed on the door to which his 'accomplice' had no key. But the last straw was when I heard the padlock clinking against the metal staple. I flung open the door but could see nobody there. When I rushed to the outer doors, he was just getting in his van. I believe he was examining the padlock in order to get a key cut for it.
To cut a very long story short, I was encouraged to take out a formal grievance against him which would be investigated by the company. In the end, I was told there wasn't enough evidence against him, even though he had taken something to do with my job (an item with a value of £800 - confirmed by a supervisor - and held onto it for twelve days before ditching it when my manager started asking questions. Unfortunately, where this item ended up could not be tied to him. This was yet another attempt to make me look incompetent (there were many others besides).
I am desperate for help. I physically shake and feel sick every day I work there, wondering what the next thing is going to be. I can't take much more. He is much bigger than me, in his forties, whereas I am a sixty two year old woman in not the best of health, and even less so after nearly five years of this abuse. I can't look for another job; who would take on a woman so close to retirement? Unfortunately I need to work for another 3-5 years to pay my mortgage, but the thought of going through this for that length of time is unbearable when the company can't get the evidence to fire him. He is much too clever for them and never leaves a trail to follow to the end - the trail always seems to go cold near the end.
It is quite clear to me that he is borderline psychotic - who would consistently victimise a woman over the course of so many years? I believe his goal is to make me leave, although, as far as he's concerned, my suicide would do just as well if not better.
The company are powerless to act, but I need help before it's too late. I am currently undergoing more counselling paid for by the company, but I don't believe anything will work until the source of my misery is removed. Please, please help!