Hello, witchywoman1313
I will answer each question after the question:
1. Since we aren't really on much of a speaking term right now (every couple weeks he'll send a short text) while he's with the other woman, would Follow Me Boy oil still be a good oil to anoint on his picture for the box along with come to me? Any other ideas for LM oils are welcomed also

I am thinking of using the following herbs: calamus, damiana, catnip, rose petals, and either ginger or cinnamon. -EVERYTHING LOOKS GREAT.
2. If I end up using a bottle instead of a box, can I start it out with a loaded vigil to keep heat on it for the first week I have it? -YES
3 Also what candle colors would be most appropriate? I was thinking purple(domination), red(passion/lust). -I WOULD DO RED BECAUSE OF TH OILS AND HERBS
4.Also, can you work a bottle spell using only 2 different color candles at the same time or is it better to use 3 ?- I WOUD USE ONE. ONE SPELL AT A TIME
5. Are the herbs supposed to go in between his 2 photos along with his personal concerns or just in the bottle? -YOU CAN DO EITHER/OR