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by phillyadvocate » Sun Aug 08, 2010 7:13 am
Hi and thank you for reading my post.
My situation is the following. I've been dating someone for about 5 years, for an entire year he kept me under the impression that he was divorced with 2 children. I have a small child and when we met I was in the process of moving out of the city into the suburbs. He is a well known attorney and he is well off. I was looking for a house to rent since I was not prepared to purchase anything. Well a little over a year after meeting, he told me that he would purchase a house in the town I wanted to live in, that he would rent it to me for a year and that after that he would sign it over to me because he thought I deserved to have something of my own. Well needless to say, that has not come true, after moving I found out that he was still married and living with his family. I also found out that he was seeing a third person. Once I found out about that I could not continue to be intimate with him.
I'm still living in the house because as my primary objective was to move here for my child and for the benefits of a good education for him. In the mean time, I've had to deal with this man being abusive, he broke into my house a couple of times and after calling the police and threatening him, he finally stopped doing that. When I found out about him being married, I was dumb to believe the old line of them only being together for their kids and that he didn't want to go through an expensive divorce. I know now that I was wrong in believing him, but I really cared for him. Last year is when I found out about the other woman, and that is when I decided I could not be a part of that.
He is still pursuing me. The town that I live in is very expensive and I wouldn't be able to afford rent as it is now since I loss my full time job during the recession and now work less than full time. The arrangement that we made for rent years ago is what I can pay at this point.
After thinking about it for quite a while, I think he should do what he promised. My son is happy here, he is safe, it's a small neighborhood. Aside from having to deal with him I like being here. I feel like aside from the lies, I had to put up with a lot of things that otherwise I wouldn't. I want this house. He promised it to me and I want it. I've even asked him in the past to do a rent to own arrangement with me, but he says yes then he takes it back. I know that he is trying all he can to keep me under his thumb. But I want him out of my life. I don't believe that I should have to be the one to leave with nothing. I never asked him for anything, he is the one that promised this to me.
He is a prominent attorney, he cares a lot about his image and he is respected nationally. I know that he has a lot to lose, not to mention his family. I'm not that type of vindictive person. But He has caused a lot of pain in my life, and at this point I want what I was promised [ whether he intended to do it or not] but I want him to live up to his promise.
The help that I need is in getting him to stop trying to get me to come back to him. Just to be clear, I don't have another love interest or anything to that matter, after what I've gone through with him, I've been wounded pretty bad. But what spell work can I do to have him back off and leave me alone in that sense. And most importantly, what work can I do to get him to give me my house.
I don't want to purchase the wrong products and that is the main reason why I'm asking for your help.
Thank you,