My boyfriend once had a "friend" (his roommate) who treated him horribly. My guy went out of town to school for a few months and the roommate sold all his valuable stuff, including cars, etc., and basically dumped out the rest - family photos, important papers, etc. This happened before I met my guy and for the two years I've known my guy, he never spoke to him and basically wanted to beat the tar out of him but never went to catch up with him to do it, thankfully.
About three months ago, they ended up working for the same company and the roommate was acutally one of the managers. My guy took the high road and forgave the jerk and they have been fast friends again ever since, but the roommate is still basically the same horrible guy he always was. Friends and family who knew him before say he is totally bad news, that he will drag my guy into all sorts of trouble, influence him to do stupid stuff including illegal stuff (he's a "scam artist" so they say) and my guy basically caves and does whatever the jerk wants him to do.
Two months ago, he decided he wasn't happy (and according to my guy's sister, the jerk had a huge part in that) especially with me and bailed and we didn't speak for several weeks (his choice, not mine). I had noticed a change in my guy and asked him about it, he said he was stressed at work, nothing to do with me, then all of a sudden he was gone. About a month ago we did start talking and he says he still loves me, wants to work it out and be together, but to take it slow. He is presently staying with the jerk, of course, and paying him rent and most of his bills (I have access to his accounts to see what's up). My guy has the purest, kindest heart I've ever seen in anyone, and the jerk takes total advantage of him. My guy's sister said he "plays mind games" and uses "mind control" to get his way and breaks down my guy by making him feel crappy about himself then makes "suggestions" as to how he can feel better.
I've had several readings over the past couple months with a reader I've been visiting for many years, and each time she says the jerk will do whatever he can to keep us apart so he can continue to use my guy for his own purposes. She isn't a rootworker though, so she can't advise me on what to do.....I've done a bit of work on the jerk, I've seen very moderate, minimal success so far but its early. I've got a vinegar jar going and I shake it up every day, I've used figure candles once a week or so with various petitions to end his influence over my guy. I don't particularly care what happens to the jerk and I'm stepping up the pressure as time passes - but as time passes, my guy seems to get more and more under the jerk's control and influence. My next step will be constructing a hotfoot jar and putting a bound up dollbaby inside (a great idea that I found on the boards!) it but unfortunately all I have as a link to the jerk is a photo. I used the one and only physical link (glass from a bottle he drank from) into the vinegar jar already, so I'm hoping the photo will be at least some help. I'll toss that into the river and send it on its way. Does anyone else have any other ideas of how to amp this up? Most recently (last night) I set a LM break up vigil candle - I like to use vigil candles because the way they burn sort of indicates to me how my project is going. I wasn't sure if the break up candle would be appropriate for two guys, but I did it anyway
I truly believe that my guy and I will work things out (my own gut feeling and my readers assurance) , but for now the jerk has destroyed my world in more ways than I can write here and he's keeping him away from everyone who loves him. I need to stop him in his tracks somehow and I'm hoping that some of you may be able to offer advice and ideas. Thank you (sorry this is so long but I truly could write a book on this mess!!)