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by magicmurphy » Tue Jul 01, 2014 7:06 pm
Hi All --
I'm inquiring for advice on a working for a lesbian friend of mine -- on an issue that was really making us laugh a lot but now she's getting a little frustrated. I said I'd get feedback and advice from the experts here. (FYI, she's not in the forum, but she does do magic.)
A little backstory: My pal "Julie" was married many moons ago, is long divorced, and has two grown kids she raised on her own; during that time she came out as a lesbian. Yay!
Here's what's weird -- men keep hitting on her. Men the age of her son keep hitting on her. She is in no way advertising that she is interested in boys, says so...she's actually pretty unapologetically butch... and these dudes just don't get the subtle-as-a-flying-mallet hint. Most recently, a male co-worker invited her to go as friends to a party, and there he tried to hit on her. She said, I'm not into men, at all... and he still said, well, wanna date for a while until you meet a girl?... I mean, really, dude! Clueless...anyway...
In the meantime, she is really wanting to attract a girl and a partner, but these guys keep getting in the way. And the fact that they are guys as young as her son she just thinks is gross.
We've had a big laugh about this (I'm her straight friend who can't get guys to approach me, she's a lesbian beating guys away with a stick), but lately she's expressed she's getting frustrated. She needs some woman attracting + man repelling magic.
This is kinda out of my wheelhouse, but if any of you have suggestions about what she can do to change her situation, or what I could help her make up, we'd be much obliged. I'll pass on your suggestions. Thanks for your help!
Doc Murphy
St. Paul, MN