I am looking for spell work advice to help my wife and I find respite care for my son.
My son has autism and we receive many services for him including PCA (Personal Care Attendant), educational intervention and behavioral therapies. We have the funding approved for respite care one weekend a month. Respite care is meant to give parents and caretakers a break so they can rest up and run errands and complete household tasks (….and maybe a date) that are difficult with our little guy around.
There are two kinds of respite care. One kind is institutional where our boy would be cared for by a staff, the other kind is where the foster care system places him with a foster family that can care for him. The institutional care has over a 20 year waiting list (or so we are told), so we have been trying to find a family that could take him once a month. We have had little luck.
We found one family who would be willing to take him, though they regularly also care for troubled kids with sexual abuse issues. With my boy’s vulnerabilities I was not comfortable with that. The other person we found was a special education teacher who worked with Autistic children for a living. We thought we had found our perfect match. The catch was that she cared for another boy the same weekend. We tried a few weekend for the boys to get to know each other but it did not work out. My son is a sensory seeker, and quite frankly a generator and the other boy shied away from stimulus. We were told that since the other boy was there before that he would stay and my boy had to go.
We have had no other leads since.
We have continued working with social workers trying to find respite care, but they seem to have forgotten us. We check in with them regularly to ask about the search and they tell us they have not found anything for us.
We have started to search outside the “system” for possible caretakers but it is slow going.
My question for this forum is: what kind of working(s) would you folks recommend for achieving the goal of finding caring, safe, consistent, and responsible caregivers to provide respite care for my boy.
Any ideas and advice would be greatly appreciated.