Spell Timing: Eclipses and Retrogrades

Ginger777 · Unread post by **Ginger777** » Sun May 03, 2009 8:23 am

I would like to ask your feelings on doing spellwork during Mercury in retrograde. My products are coming this week and I want to be prepared as much as possible. I have two spells I would like to work on at different times for different purposes....one break up...one healing (for a totally different situation). Would break up or cut and clear spells be best during this time? Or would you hold back doing spells at this time? Or...are there certain spells that are best done during this time? Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks!

Msg33 · Unread post by **Msg33** » Sun May 03, 2009 8:26 am

it's like you read my mind, I was just about to make this post

well since this post was made, I also would like to know if it has an effect on jinxing? also- any effect on honey jar love spell?

Turnsteel · Unread post by **Turnsteel** » Sun May 03, 2009 8:44 am

Well hoodoo in general isn't timed to the planets. Going by astrology is a more of an aspect of European magic traditions. In rootwork many people chose to work by the moon phases, waning to remove something, waxing to draw. Now that's a very general way of putting it but you get the idea. I don't take that kind of thing into account past what days of the week are best suited to doing different kinds of work, and to me those aren't hard and fast rules, I do work when it needs to be done. So no to me mercury going retrograde doesn't effect conjure at all, but that's just me. If you think it effects your then it probably will effect yours.

Miss Bri · Unread post by **Miss Bri** » Sun May 03, 2009 11:05 am

Ginger777

There are some spells that are definitely great during Mercury retrograde, like Inflammatory Confusion or Break Up, Merc in Retro means that communication gets hinky, so any work that is trying to influence communication or especially create miscommunication is great to do during this time.

good luck,
Bri

Literarylioness · Unread post by **Literarylioness** » Sun May 03, 2009 4:01 pm

Ginger777

I am an astrologer and I do not worry too much about Mercury retrograde with magic. The Mercury retrogades happen so often that I cannot worry too much about them. I was concerned about the Venus retrograde we just experienced and did not do any love work at that time.

Life just does not always correspond with astrological elements sometimes.

Mary

Ginger777 · Unread post by **Ginger777** » Sun May 03, 2009 7:47 pm

Thanks guys for the advice! When I get my goods, I will work my spell. Thanks again!

catherineyronwode · Unread post by **catherineyronwode** » Sun May 03, 2009 9:17 pm

I am a practitioner of hoodoo and an astrologer.. I do not undertake trips or begin new spells that are about Mercurial situations (literature, communication, short trips, etc.) when Mercury is retrograde, For other situations, i am not as particular.

Your mileage may vary.

Ginger777 · Unread post by **Ginger777** » Mon May 04, 2009 6:19 am

Thanks Cat for the good advice!

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sun Jul 05, 2009 9:28 am

Anyone working with the moon phases know the significance of the lunar eclipse in spell casting?

Mama Micki · Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Sun Jul 05, 2009 9:53 am

It depends on who you ask. Some say it is a dangerous time to cast spells. Some say it is more powerful.

This New Year's Eve not only falls on the day of a lunar eclipse, but it also a blue moon and the start of a new decade. Should be interesting!

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 5:32 am

I read about that cleopatra... Thanks for the input...others?

path2success · Unread post by **path2success** » Mon Jul 20, 2009 11:40 am

With a solar eclipse coming this week just wondering if it affects magic in anyway. I just read somewhere that it is the best time for magic but would also like opinion from experienced ppl here. Eg : If we have already started a spell and this happens to be one of the day in the spell are there any good/bad effects?

Mama Micki · Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Tue Jul 21, 2009 6:51 am

The eclipse starts tonight Jul 21, 2009 at 11:58 pm GMT (Greenwich Mean Time) and ends tomorrow at 5:12 am GMT. It will be a total solar eclipse and the longest that will occur in the 21st century. It will be visible in northern India, eastern Nepal, southern China, and the Pacific Ocean, including Calcutta, Delhi, Kathmandu, and Shanghai.

To convert GMT to time zones in the US:
Pacific Daylight time subtract 7 hours
Mountain Daylight time subtract 6 hours
Central Daylight Time subtract 5 hours
Eastern Daylight Time subtract 4 hours

theusurper · Unread post by **theusurper** » Tue Jul 21, 2009 7:26 am

do you think is good idea to start a new honey jar tonight when the eclipse happens. i'm planning to do the second one.

justme99 · Unread post by **justme99** » Tue Jul 21, 2009 11:48 pm

I need help w/ a positive thinking spell & a love spell for the eclipse

Miss Bri · Unread post by **Miss Bri** » Sun Jul 26, 2009 6:24 am

Hi Justme,

So on this forum what we do is help folks learn what Lucky Mojo products are best for them and how to use them. Your question is too general for us to really be able to help you in an effective manner. Try rephrasing it, giving us some details about what you are trying to accomplish, and we will be able to recommend some formulas that may assist you.

good luck,
Bri

salmyrcrr · Unread post by **salmyrcrr** » Fri Sep 18, 2009 3:26 am

Many years ago a lady did a love spell on my ex. (on my request) The spell work like a charm. I even had him knocking on my door. However, by the time he came back to me I no longer wanted him. So, I call the lady and she told me to throw the bottle in the garbage. Can you believe after all these years he still wants me.

I have remain friend with him and he want to marry me. However my feeling are not the same. My question -could this love spell that was done so many years ago still be working ? I once was told that if you do a binding spell that would be forever is that true ? I really do not know what type of spell she cast on him. Maybe she did a binding spell not a love spell...She passed away this year so there no way of me knowing what type of spell she cast.

Jinglepop · Unread post by **Jinglepop** » Fri Sep 18, 2009 5:00 am

That sounds serious man. Though the bottle, some peeps say that you should burn it to break the spell. But I don't think you should do that because there might be back-fire for you.

Turnsteel · Unread post by **Turnsteel** » Fri Sep 18, 2009 6:09 am

This forum is for LuckyMojo products, not for general folk magic questions. How about you ask the worker you went to?

Mama Micki · Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Fri Sep 18, 2009 7:01 am

The worker died, so asking her may be difficult. Do a Cut and Clear to move on from the relationship.

salmyrcrr · Unread post by **salmyrcrr** » Fri Sep 18, 2009 10:13 am

cleopatra wrote:The worker died, so asking her may be difficult. Do a Cut and Clear to move on from the relationship.

Thank you for your reply. I will do a cut and clear spell.

I still like him as a friend but nothing eles.

Thanks

salmyrcrr · Unread post by **salmyrcrr** » Fri Sep 18, 2009 10:13 am

cleopatra wrote:The worker died, so asking her may be difficult. Do a Cut and Clear to move on from the relationship.

Thank you for your reply. I will do a cut and clear spell.

I still like him as a friend but nothing eles.

Thanks

salmyrcrr · Unread post by **salmyrcrr** » Fri Sep 18, 2009 10:14 am

cleopatra wrote:The worker died, so asking her may be difficult. Do a Cut and Clear to move on from the relationship.

Thank you for your reply. I will do a cut and clear spell.

I still like him as a friend but nothing eles.

Thanks

gcn2u · Unread post by **gcn2u** » Fri Oct 02, 2009 3:53 pm

Someone told me they think that mercury retrogration is still continuing. I'm trying to see if thats true?

Is today still a good time to do spells for love, money, breakup, and removing blocks/negativity?

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Fri Oct 02, 2009 6:14 pm

I want to say the MR ended on the 29th of September although various calendars say different. Anyway, in reference to your 2nd question, spells can be done anytime although some do them according to moon phases, days of the week, astrological factors...etc. etc. If you are working moon phases...the moon is waxing (spells for attraction: love, money) until October 4th when the moon is full. Look at LMs moon phases found here: http://www.luckymojo.com/moonphases.html for further details.

...when the moon is waning...spells are done for negative works...but again spells can be done anytime... for spells done according to the days of the week...do a search on the forum, it has been discussed several times...Good Luck!

path2success · Unread post by **path2success** » Wed Dec 16, 2009 4:55 pm

I read all the posts about Mercury Retro & some say it affects spellcasting some not. To be on the safer side can we start a spell before Mercury and complete it during Mercury Retro period? The waxing moon phase & MR coincide this month - so is it ok to begin sometime 21st and complete it 29th or so [MR starts on 26th]? These maybe skull controlling candle spells, money or career spells.

cabriellenil · Unread post by **cabriellenil** » Wed Dec 16, 2009 6:44 pm

Yes I'd complete it.

Like you said some workers take MR into consideration while others don't. I'd look at planetary influences while doing work - try to start a love spell on Friday, physic vision work on Monday, etc. - but in the end I do it when it needs to be done. I think I've started love work during MR in the past and the results seemed slightly erratic, but it might be just the target being weird anyway.

kmew1315 · Unread post by **kmew1315** » Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:17 pm

I was under the impression that this kind of stuff doesn't matter as much in hoodoo. If I was looking to start some love work next week, what would be the best day to start? And if I can't get it started next week, what would be the best day after that?

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:20 pm

Remember Mercury Retrograde is all about communication...the lack thereof...slow..confusion...etc. etc.

kmew1315 · Unread post by **kmew1315** » Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:31 pm

So what does that mean? If it starts the 26th, when does it end?

ConjureMan · Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Wed Dec 16, 2009 11:44 pm

Conjure usually does not religiously follow astrological symbolism. Most conjurers may work with the phases of the moon and the days of the week, but they don't get involved as deeply with astrology. That is not to say that it doesn't happen, I use it in my own work and I know others who do so as well. Its really a matter of personal choice. If you have some skill in astrology and accept its influence on your spellwork then use it, but if you don't then don't worry about things like what's in retrograde.

starsinthesky7 · Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Thu Dec 17, 2009 1:50 am

Planets are always in retrograde, and its not just Mercury. I would say continue to go along with what you are doing. However, Mercury Retrograde is a great time for break up work because MR is about people getting in arguments, and things of that nature. Communication such as computer, printers, and so on may go array. BUT that does not mean your magic is going to suddenly stop working or go backwards or whatever. It just means that you need to be more mindful of how you are around people,and just PREPARE for mishaps to happen. But crap happens all the time...so thats just life. I agree with conjureman in not worrying about it unless you use the influences in your work.

path2success · Unread post by **path2success** » Sat Dec 19, 2009 2:51 pm

Thank you everyone for your views!!!

freegirl · Unread post by **freegirl** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 6:59 am

Is there a candle to burn for Mercury Retrograde protection?? I'm very susceptible to this, the last one I had a fight with my love, I work as a writer and already have issues with attachments being stripped etc. Just learned that mercury goes in retrograde today until Jan. 15 and then there are effects until Feb. 4.

Now, as I'm working a separation, I hope that will work in my favor for that, but want to protect myself from ill effects. any suggestions?

THANKS!

i'm working with an AIRR rootsworker who oks petition candles, so just looking at petition candles and not other spellwork.

freegirl · Unread post by **freegirl** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 12:58 pm

Hi there, posted this under candles as well, thought I'd reach out to a more general population-- what do you do to protect yourself during Mercury Retrograde? do you have ideas to turn it to your favor? I'm a Virgo and a writer and sensitive to it, historically, though I'm hoping it will work in my favor for a separation.

Is there a petition candle particularly appropriate?

Literarylioness · Unread post by **Literarylioness** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 1:35 pm

freegirl

I would just do general protection. Be aware of the retrograde, but don't live by it. If you can stay away from certain communications, then stay away from them. If you need to write, then write.

Mary

freegirl · Unread post by **freegirl** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 2:28 pm

Thanks, Mary. What kind of candle would you suggest-- a white one, a blue one? any particular petition at LM? (I am planning to do a St. Francis for my kitty and some separation work already...)

I am a writer so I have to write...but will try to avoid quarrels, misunderstandings and so on.

ConjureMan · Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 8:19 pm

You can light a Blessing candle or Peaceful Home, and Road Opener which will counter the effects of broken and messed up communication.

starsinthesky7 · Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 9:10 pm

Umm...how are you going to protect yourself from a planet and its influences? I mean i understand easing the influences, but it seems like it would be rather difficult to protect yourself from a planet we cannot control. Seems rather odd to me. The best way to make it through MR is to plan ahead. Do not wait until the last minute to print out a paper as your printer may fail. But we have talked about MR already,and I do not want to cause havoc on this forum.

But it just seems rather odd that we can control a planet that is apart of our universe. I mean sometimes the universe says no to certain situations. If we could influence or deflect the planetary influences then more people Im sure would do work towards controlling things from the planets.

My advice to you is...plan ahead and perhaps visit some old writing projects you have abandoned, or ideas you have abandoned. Although you maybe sensitive to MR, that does not mean your creative process comes to a halt. I would try revisiting some places in the past that have inspired you, and continue to cleanse yourself. In the future, if you can help it you need to prepare for mercury retrograde rather than waiting during MR to do tasks.

starsinthesky7 · Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 9:20 pm

You asked this question already in another section. It is not necessary to post it in another. In addition, you should ask the AIRR how to help you with this. In addition, MR is about being PREPARED. YOU know its coming 3 times a year so obviously you need to prepare for it. But really stop freaking out (please do not take offense to my use of freaking out) so much about, the more you freak out the more you get rewarded with more crap to freak out about.

In addition, to your attachments being stripped...now you know you need to save things in multiple ways. Have many different avenues to send things. If you need to send it through mail or fax then do so. If you need to send mulitiple copies, then do so. Do not wait until the last minute either. In addition, you need to be aware that crap happens 24/7 so it might just be your computer.

To everyone else....please do not freak out about MR. Its all about revisiting and revising. In addition, its about being more prepared so just do that and you will be fine. Embrace MR if you do that...it will not be as bad as people make it out to be.

Also, retrogrades are happening ALL the time. Some people just make MR more of a huge deal than they should. Work through this time, prepare as you always should be.

ConjureMan · Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 10:07 pm

Its not about controlling the planet, but rather the subtle influences that are represented in the celestial in the form of a planet. While we talk about Mercury, we are discussing the subtle influences that begin in the divine, take form in the fixed stars, then take shape in the traditional "planets." Its not the planets, but rather their movements that represent a hidden, subtle influence that is occuring on planes beyond normal sight. Such is the basis of hermetic thought and astrological magick.

Nevertheless, You are most correct. Retrogrades are occuring all the time, we need not panic about them. This fear of MR has resulted from incomplete misinformation that results from shody research done by new age "modern" astrologers. If you feel good about putting up a few more protections to ease the influences, then do so. Otherwise be aware of the forces at work and relax and ride the "waves"

.

freegirl · Unread post by **freegirl** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 11:01 pm

Well, yes, it's about protecting myself from influences that might harm me, not about stopping the retrograde itself, of course. I am sensitive to barometric shifts, and often get migraines when they occur. Many other people are not, and would not need any healing (whether in the form of a candle or migraine medicine). I often can't sleep during a full moon, that's a planetary influence too, but I can mitigate that through magical or non-magical way. I do try to plan ahead, but the trouble with MR is that i's don't get dotted, t's don't get crossed; it's like trying to proofread oneself (bad idea). As a Virgo (ruled by Mercury) and a writer (ditto) I have noticed MR's effects on my life, and came here for assistance. Now that I've explained, I hope it no longer "seems odd" to you. As a professional writer, I can't do all my "tasks" in advance of MR.

I I'm a journalist with deadlines and many editors to work with and not enough hours in the day. There are interviews to happen, subjects to contact, facts to check, contracts to sign. I have noticed that during mercury retrograde messages get mislaid or misunderstood, quarrels get started, misunderstandings happen. I don't understand why we think we can protect ourselves from some forces and not from others.

So again, if anyone has a suggestion for an appropriate candle, I'd love to hear it. I"m leaning towards a simple protection or maybe even a mercury candle.

freegirl · Unread post by **freegirl** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 11:11 pm

Hmm, maybe being attacked in two places is also Mercury retrograde in action. I'm pretty new to the boards, and posted here first, then realized the other forum gets a lot more attention. I thought I had mentioned that there, but if I forgot to, I apologize. I'm not sure why you would say I'm "freaking out" just because I asked for help and suggestions. I came here for help with the right candle and guidance on magical protection, not advice about how to email my editors or about my computer. Maybe this is a sore point for you, given the vehemence and tone of your posts.

As far as asking my AIRR rootsworker, she's working on a particular project for me; she's not on retainer for my every concern. I really didn't think asking for a suggestion of which candle might help was out of line, even if my concerns don't seem that important to you, they are to me.

ConjureMan · Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 11:58 pm

A Mercury candle is a good idea. You can create a small triangle of vigil candles that you use to surround a picture of yourself. I'd use a Protection Candle, Mercury, and Blessing candle to help mitigate the effects you normally feel, while keeping the lines of communication open, and keeping you open and receptive to the positive side of Mercury. The blessing will also help ensure your projects get through on time. Good luck.

starsinthesky7 · Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Sun Dec 27, 2009 3:15 am

freegirl

This happens to everyone during mercury retrograde. That's why Mercury retrograde is all about knowing that this is going to happen. Fights and quarrels are expected so if you plan ahead for them such as being very clear when talking with someone...not cracking jokes or what not because people can be more sensitive at this time. I mean things have to go on during MR like Mary said above, and like Conjure man said you have to ride the waves. And with this being MR it seems that I must clarify myself. The way I interpreted this question is that you are basically trying to protect yourself from things from happening. A planet to me is a huge force, and little ol me is not going to be able to completely control a planet, which is how I see you saying this question. If that is not what you are saying, then that is fine. But lighting a candle dedicated to Mercury will help the influences and help ease it however, its not going to completely stop these things from happening.

Really its just better to know how to "ride the waves" as Conjure man said. As for the "odd" comment, that was not directed towards you personally, it was odd to me that someone could control a planet's influence. MR is all about double checking your "i's and t's" more than you normally would.

starsinthesky7 · Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Sun Dec 27, 2009 3:35 am

Both of my posts were not anywhere near the point of attacking you (its not that serious for me to attack anyone on here) You are misinterpreting and adding tone to posts that are not even there. My choice of words were not correct for this situation I need to change my language I guess, and to remember that like you said are more susceptible to Mercury retrograde. I will keep that in mind. In addition, if I did not see this as important I would not have commented. I just know some people are going to have major concern, and feel like they're work may fail or what not due to Mercury retrograde. Im not saying don't talk about it, however, things need to be clarified on the pros and cons of Mercury retrograde as well.

I apologize to say you are freaking out. Some people tend to post in more than one section when they are in a panic. In addition, the comment about the attachment strip was not a hit towards you about how to email. It was about how to use some non-magical means to prepare for MR. Sometimes use of non-magical means is just as good as lighting a candle.

The comment about working with your AIRR rootworker was said because she could probably give you some great ideas and address your concerns with Mercury retrograde. I just thought that could provide some additional help since you are already getting help from them.

Guess this is a classic case of Mercury retrograde effects, and now I know I must be more careful in how I explain things.

freegirl · Unread post by **freegirl** » Sun Dec 27, 2009 6:02 am

Hi Starsinthesky, yep, that's classic for me, and thank you. I am overreacting sensitiviely too, and I've noticed that kind of thing (for ME) during MR. You are right of course that I should be vigilant about the material world too. And one thing I can do, knowing that I'm prone to this during MR, is to try to slow down my responses and posts in general. Pax.

freegirl · Unread post by **freegirl** » Sun Dec 27, 2009 6:04 am

Thanks, I understand better now. I will try to light a candle to help ease the influences on me, knowing that it's going to be a bit like that anyway, something that will maybe help me be calm, tolerant, an extra dose of largeness of spirit and relaxation. For example, I just got an edit back this morning, and it's fine, but knowing we're in MR I'm going to triple-check every fact I wrote, making no assumptions!

candis · Unread post by **candis** » Sun Dec 27, 2009 9:43 am

I'll give a summary of my background. First, I came from a very negative family...My mom was never married, she wanted so much to be married (I think that's all she lived for), every man that came around did not stay for long. Me now, seem to have the same problem. My mom was very jealous of me and she was very mean to me. She wanted nothing good to happen to me. I was able to leave her and that environment, got my education and was able to get good paying jobs etc. and take care of myself. Now, with relationships, I see myself repeating the same patterns as my mom. I attract negative men who just wanted to use me. I stop that cycle by working on me (loving me). Now I see that the quality of men I meet are better. However, they have emotional problems and they still don't want to stay.

I don't know what else to do. I've been cleansing for several years. Burning candles, etc. But not able to bring a positive relationship into my life. I JUST WANT A GOOD LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. Please advise.

Thank you.

Candis

Devi Spring · Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Sun Dec 27, 2009 11:03 am

I would get a reading with a good worker to see what's going on with your situation. Could be some kind of generational curse - or it could be bad learned behaviors that are negatively effecting you. A reading will help see what's going on, and a worker may need to work on your behalf to get things moving as your own actions don't seem to be having much effect.

ConjureMan · Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Sun Dec 27, 2009 2:25 pm

I'm not a particular adherent of the concept of generational curses, so I won't comment on that..though I know and respect several people who swear by their existence..

Juju is right that a reading is order to discover the cause of the issues. It could be something as mundane as your outlook, or could be something like crossed conditions/jinx. The reading will help determine this.

Take a cleansing bath, and try working an Attraction/ Come to Me conjure aimed specifically at the qualities you seek in an individual. Write all the qualities you want, be very specific. Include emotional stability and desire for committment/marriage in such a list. Work the conjures not on a specific individual, but rather aimed at bringing a person with those qualities to you in your life. Also create a honey jar aimed at those specific qualities while burning white and pink candles anointed with Attraction, Come to Me, and Love Me oils. You might consider using white and pink bride and groom figurine candles as well in your honey jar working.

The honey jar will be for the long run and will help plant the seeds of your desire, while working it in combination with the Come to Me conjures will help give your work the boost and speed to bring about the results you seek. Good luck.

P.S. also work some healing conjure on yourself to help overcome any latent wounds from past hurts. It will help ensure that you are prepared for a long term relationship.

candis · Unread post by **candis** » Sun Dec 27, 2009 3:05 pm

ConjureMan wrote:I'm not a particular adherent of the concept of generational curses, so I won't comment on that..though I know and respect several people who swear by their existence..

Juju is right that a reading is order to discover the cause of the issues. It could be something as mundane as your outlook, or could be something like crossed conditions/jinx. The reading will help determine this.

Take a cleansing bath, and try working an Attraction/ Come to Me conjure aimed specifically at the qualities you seek in an individual. Write all the qualities you want, be very specific. Include emotional stability and desire for committment/marriage in such a list. Work the conjures not on a specific individual, but rather aimed at bringing a person with those qualities to you in your life. Also create a honey jar aimed at those specific qualities while burning white and pink candles anointed with Attraction, Come to Me, and Love Me oils. You might consider using white and pink bride and groom figurine candles as well in your honey jar working.

The honey jar will be for the long run and will help plant the seeds of your desire, while working it in combination with the Come to Me conjures will help give your work the boost and speed to bring about the results you seek. Good luck.

P.S. also work some healing conjure on yourself to help overcome any latent wounds from past hurts. It will help ensure that you are prepared for a long term relationship.

Thank you ConjureMan, I will take your advice on the healing elements. Your entire post is very encouraging and gives me hope.

Thanks, again.

candis

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sun Dec 27, 2009 3:09 pm

To add my two cents...I see that you have been cleansing but its more than that...I would think, drawing in good luck in terms of love and financial blessings...and protecting yourself also...Devi suggestion will do you well so you will know what action to take...Look at LMs list of reputable readers: http://www.readersandrootworkers.org/in ... ootworkers

...start with the healing work is excellent... sometimes we carry so much dead weight from the past and dont realize we need to heal from past hurts... Blessings.

Literarylioness · Unread post by **Literarylioness** » Sun Dec 27, 2009 8:24 pm

candis wrote:I'll give a summary of my background. First, I came from a very negative family...My mom was never married, she wanted so much to be married (I think that's all she lived for), every man that came around did not stay for long. Me now, seem to have the same problem. My mom was very jealous of me and she was very mean to me. She wanted nothing good to happen to me. I was able to leave her and that environment, got my education and was able to get good paying jobs etc. and take care of myself. Now, with relationships, I see myself repeating the same patterns as my mom. I attract negative men who just wanted to use me. I stop that cycle by working on me (loving me). Now I see that the quality of men I meet are better. However, they have emotional problems and they still don't want to stay.

I don't know what else to do. I've been cleansing for several years. Burning candles, etc. But not able to bring a positive relationship into my life. I JUST WANT A GOOD LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. Please advise.

Thank you.

Candis

I would work on good cleansing and put off the idea of long term relationship for the moment. I hope you have thought about some counseling too. The longest and greatest relationship you are going to have is with yourself. Your mother may never have learned that lesson, but you have the chance to. No man can give you what you can give yourself.

Desperation (your cap locks express this) is a big deterrent in attracting anything. It is a repellent. Think of it this way, say you have a very persistent friend who continuously calls you and leaves messages about how you must get back to him or her. Do you want to really answer those calls? Probably not, because you feel like you are going to be drained. This is the message you are sending out to these men. Subconsciously you know this about yourself and that is why you keep getting noncommittal men.

So from a Hoodoo perspective, do the 13 herb bath and a lot of cleansing. Follow that up with some work with St. Dephina. She is great for healing emotional and psychological trauma. When you STOP thinking that all you need is a LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP, that is when you start working on attraction work. When you have a full life WITHOUT a man, is when you are ready to get one. If you do attraction work in your present mind set, you will keep attracting what you don't want. End the cycle for yourself.

Good luck!

Mary

Mama Micki · Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Mon Dec 28, 2009 9:50 am

Do a 13-herb bath and/or Cut and Clear to free you from the negativity of the past. Then burn a Chuparossa vigil candle or a pink candle dressed with Chuparossa oil for luck in finding a lasting love.

New Year's Eve would be a great time to start fresh. New year, new decade, and a blue moon. Good luck!

IBMagnet · Unread post by **IBMagnet** » Tue Dec 29, 2009 9:14 am

Dear candis, your entry letter speaks straight to my heart. You have voiced something I have struggled with my whole life. It brings back tears for, like you, I have come so far. my sister and I were abandoned at the age of 6 & 7 by our mother. We were lucky to have had a strong father who chose to give us all the love and nurturing that we so desperately needed. As naive children, you grow into hurt adults who feel the impact and the loss deeper.

We were blessed with our father's love but all his love couldn't fill the void of a missing mother. We are both college educated, my sister and I. I have taken steps to fill my life with great female friends who filled the void that my mother left. They love me fiercely and they are patient with me. They give me the wisdom of life that only a woman can give to another woman.

Like you, I struggle in every relationship but , with the help of my female friends, I am getting better at loving and pacing myself. The hardest lesson I had to learn is that prince charming will not come and sweep you off your feet, baggages and emotional insecurities and all. That is a fairy tale. Truth is that men are fragile. They need more reassurance than women. They will run at the slightest sign of desperation and insecurity. YOU MUST FIX YOURSELF then look for a man to complement the rest.

My advice to you, candis, is to surround yourself with good female friends. You have much to learn and they have much to give. Don't drop your female friends for any men, for men will come and go. Make time for love. Make equal time for friendship. Take breaks from men and go off on a self-enriching trips alone or with friends.

My second advice to you, candis, is to face yourself in the mirror and find the beauty within. LOVE YOURSELF. YOU DON'T HAVE A COURSE ON YOU! YOUR MOTHER AND MINE JUST MADE POOR CHOICES and what they had to give to us as children, they couldn't find it to give to themselves. We are hurt but the hurt should not be what drives us. You should choose the beauty and strength within.

You can choose to seek professional treatment or you can do like me.: have trusting female friends to talk to. I am waiting for my tripple strength attraction and success mojos for help on the spiritual aspect. The work must start from within. You are what you are and no magic can change that.

IBMagnet · Unread post by **IBMagnet** » Tue Dec 29, 2009 9:39 am

Literarylioness, you are always so wise. I am touched by your words. And really, when you come from a place of hurt, you have a burden to consistently work on breaking negative, self-sabotaging patterns.

I have to admit I have the things in life which I need. My life is good. I am attractive too and men come to me because they all say that my apparent self-confidence is what they find most attractive. They love my poise and the way I talk and walk....When they come too close, though, I panic, like I am not deserving of their admiration and attention. My insecurities come out and slowly they lose patience and walk away.

I go to meditation classes and am working at mending the cracks in my heart. I feel much better in my skin now. I enjoy my company and am working to draw the man I love in my life. I did different readings and even with Cat, that reveal that he does have love attraction to me.
The readings revealed that he has a lot going on in his life which may prevent us to click. He holds secrets and has healing to do.

In the name of love, though I should probably not hae to try so hard, I want to see what could be should he could get past himself. I am also doing love attraction in general to find me a soulmate. I want to be married in the next year or so.

Literarylioness · Unread post by **Literarylioness** » Tue Dec 29, 2009 6:58 pm

IBMagnet wrote:Literarylioness, you are always so wise. I am touched by your words. And really, when you come from a place of hurt, you have a burden to consistently work on breaking negative, self-sabotaging patterns.

Thank you for the compliment. My story is the opposite, my father abandoned me. I felt I did not belong on this planet and I was the cause of all my parents' misery. My father cheated on his wife(not my mother) and my mother was not able to have the man of her dreams (not my father), who to this day she still mourns. I felt it was all my fault. My very existence hurt everyone I loved. I spent a good half of my life trying to heal from that. It created this little spot on me. I call it the freckle of my soul. Like the sun causes freckles on the skin, certain circumstances create spots on the soul and everyone has at least one.

The Freudians loved me, because I was the Electra complex personified. The Jungians loved me, because I understood my mythos. I did vision quests with Native American tribes, Reiki, yoga, and pretty much everything you can name. My freckle never disappeared though. I did learn a lot in the process. I do not know when it happened, but one day I woke-up and I realized my little spot gave me all the qualities I truly love about myself, my sensitivity, my compassion, my empathy, and my ability to love. I still feel my little spot, but I don't try to crush it anymore; now I embrace it.

The true alchemy of life is not turning lead into gold, but tragedy into triumph. EVERY single person has the ability to do this. The only thing that limits us are the limits we put on ourselves. We are our own worst enemies.

So do not say you have "self-sabotaging behaviors," say you are aware of your sensitivity. Change the dialogue in your head, because I can guarantee you that EVERY person who breaths has some spot he or she is trying to heal. That IS the human experience.

Do not dwell on what you DID not get from WHOEVER was suppose to love you, but rejoice in how much you can love and MOVE ON.

Mary

IBMagnet · Unread post by **IBMagnet** » Wed Dec 30, 2009 9:28 pm

So do not say you have "self-sabotaging behaviors," say you are aware of your sensitivity. Change the dialogue in your head, because I can guarantee you that EVERY person who breaths has some spot he or she is trying to heal. That IS the human experience.

Do not dwell on what you DID not get from WHOEVER was suppose to love you, but rejoice in how much you can love and MOVE ON.

Thank you for that. It is getting exhausting to think of all i have to do to get a try. I have decided to complete my current work with st martha and the honey. Afterwards, that will be it. I'll test my skills with someone else.

Today, LM came through for me in a big way. I received my mojos and bath crystals. I couldn't resist the smells of the oils. Positively uplifting when I put them on! Today, thinking about facing New Year without a date, I sank to a low bottom. I am riding high right now. Going into the bath now. Tomorrow, will be a new beginning.

I can start the New year with a little bit of hope now.

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sun Jan 10, 2010 5:35 pm

While some workers use the moon phases and to enhance their work, some workers do not. Personally, I find the waning and waxing moon phases enhance spell work according to the type of work e.g., waning moon for removing/banishing and waxing moon for drawing spell work.

As for specific work during the solar eclipse… I am not familiar…