Essence of Bend Over Vigil Candle Questions and Answers

sangamo1 · Unread post by **sangamo1** » Tue May 12, 2009 10:55 pm

I want to burn this candle in combination with a love/lust oriented candle. I met a girl at the bar few months ago, talked to her online a couple times, nothing came of it. I want to see if I can reel her in with these spells.

Also, can I burn one essence of bend over candle for more then one person?

Lukianos · Unread post by **Lukianos** » Wed May 13, 2009 8:01 pm

Hi sangamo1,

sangamo1 wrote:I want to burn this candle in combination with a love/lust oriented candle. I met a girl at the bar few months ago, talked to her online a couple times, nothing came of it. I want to see if I can reel her in with these spells.

Also, can I burn one essence of bend over candle for more then one person?

Essence of Bend Over is traditionally used by those in a subservient role to obtain favors / preferential treatment / etc. from those who have authority and power over them. So, unless the girl you met is also your boss, Essence of Bend Over may not be the formula you are seeking.

That said, yes, you can certainly burn a single Essence of Bend Over candle for more than one person, although it will work better if those people are somehow connected to each other ("the family for whom I do landscaping", for example), or if they all have a similar relationship to you ("all of my supervisors at all three of my jobs", for example).

sangamo1 · Unread post by **sangamo1** » Thu May 14, 2009 7:46 pm

Hm...is there an equivalent of essence of bend over but more for what I need?

Lukianos · Unread post by **Lukianos** » Thu May 14, 2009 9:54 pm

Hi sangamo1,

sangamo1 wrote:Hm...is there an equivalent of essence of bend over but more for what I need?

You may find formulas such as Attraction, Kiss Me Now!, Come To Me, and/or Bewitching to be more suited to your purposes:

http://www.luckymojo.com/attraction.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/kissmenow.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/cometome.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/products-bewitching.html

Good Luck!

sangamo1 · Unread post by **sangamo1** » Sat May 16, 2009 11:17 pm

Alright...can I burn an attraction candle for more then one reason (girls and money on the same candle, for example)

sangamo1 · Unread post by **sangamo1** » Sat May 16, 2009 11:19 pm

Alright...can I burn an attraction candle for more then one reason (girls and money on the same candle, for example)

sangamo1 · Unread post by **sangamo1** » Sat May 16, 2009 11:19 pm

Alright...can I burn an attraction candle for more then one reason (girls and money on the same candle, for example)

Turnsteel · Unread post by **Turnsteel** » Sun May 17, 2009 7:09 am

For that I would get a Seven Knob wishing candle, dress it with Attraction and carve the things you want on the knobs.

sangamo1 · Unread post by **sangamo1** » Tue May 19, 2009 8:33 pm

I'm having this done through Missionary spiritualist church, not burning this one myself. I didnt see the seven knobs one under that category. Is it there or did I miss it?

If its not there...what one should I have burned instead?

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 5:04 pm

Please advise me on doing a bend over candle spell (color: black?). Thanks in advance.

Turnsteel · Unread post by **Turnsteel** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 5:15 pm

Well, at its simplest, crave the candle with something like "Fall under my Command" "Bend over to my will" "Do as I Say" or the like, dress the candle with Essence of Bend Over and set the candle on a petition paper made with the name of the person you want to dominate written nine times and crossed with your name.

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 5:59 pm

Thanks HailDiscordia...I was thinking a black candle or purple?

Devi Spring · Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 6:02 pm

I've always seen EoBO work done with purple - I don't see why you couldn't use black if you were perhaps trying to get them to leave or stop doing something.

faith2008 · Unread post by **faith2008** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 6:37 pm

Just out of curiosity, how often would you repeat this spell or would you work it long with another spell. Whenever I come across an interesting spell that I don't have I like to write it down in my book for future reference.

ConjureMan Ali · Unread post by **ConjureMan Ali** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 7:11 pm

I to do Essence of Bend Over with purple but it can be done with black. In fact, if I recall correctly the LM spellkit for it includes a black candle. If you are using a black candle you are working with banishing their resistance to you and making them bend over. Either works nicely.

There are lots of ways to employ Essence of Bend Over in a candle spell. You can use it as a moving candle spell where you dominate them by overwhelming all their resistance, but the simplest would be the method given by HD. Getting a reading or discovering more about the target and situation will help you ascertain whether you want to work something over a period of days, work just a candle burning, or need to include it in a larger conjure.

If you are in contact with the person, I've found this method both effective and rather simple. Take a picture of an individual and create your namepaper/petition on the back. Place this under a purple or black candle. Carve your intention on the candle. Anoint with Essence of Bend Over, dust the candle with some sachet powder. Burn this while you pray for domination. When it burns down, take some of the sachet powder and dust the picture then place in your shoe so you'll be walking on their face when you meet them. Also take a bit of the left over sachet powder that has been prayed on and sprinkle on the target or where they will walk while calling out their name. I find this method of burning the candle then keeping them under heel carries an extra little poke.

Good luck.

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 8:11 pm

Thanks...I saw on LM site that black candles were used in Essence of Bend over Spells ... and was thinking of banishing their resistance and that is my intention.

ConjureMan Ali · Unread post by **ConjureMan Ali** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 8:54 pm

You can definately use black to banish resistance. Purple is simply more commonly associated with domination, control, and therefore is used in such spells.

Aina2 · Unread post by **Aina2** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 9:46 pm

Would you annoint the black candles differently than the purple ones tho? Like, use 7 strokes down, since you are banishing resistance? Or 7 strokes up, because you are bending them to your will?

ConjureMan Ali · Unread post by **ConjureMan Ali** » Wed Feb 10, 2010 12:08 am

Either way works. Simply let your intentions be clear in your mind.

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Wed Feb 10, 2010 6:59 am

I do 7 strokes when drawing but 9 when commanding.

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Wed Feb 10, 2010 12:33 pm

Guess what...after doing the spell, I dreamed of the person wearing diapers to work....wonder what that means? It wasnt funny at all.

Devi Spring · Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Wed Feb 10, 2010 1:12 pm

Being stripped of all independance - like a baby perhaps?

Flamethrower · Unread post by **Flamethrower** » Tue Mar 02, 2010 9:28 pm

ConjureMan wrote:I to do Essence of Bend Over with purple but it can be done with black. In fact, if I recall correctly the LM spellkit for it includes a black candle. If you are using a black candle you are working with banishing their resistance to you and making them bend over. Either works nicely.

During the waxing moon a rootworker and I have been burning Reconciliation and Open Road candles on my target. Now that it's the waning moon, I'll be using a black 7-day glass candle anointed with Banishing oil to banish the target's resistance to my work. Can I also use Essence of Bend Over or Influence oils on this candle?
Should I use banishing herbs (eucalyptus, camphor, lemon grass) or domination herbs (calamus, licorice) in this candle?

Should I add a strand of my target's hair to the candle or name paper? Write target's name and my name 9x with the words "banish Y's resistance to me"?

Thanks!

thegoldman · Unread post by **thegoldman** » Wed Mar 03, 2010 8:39 pm

I'm new to banishing work and am interested in how to do it along with reconciliation work, too.

nheard26 · Unread post by **nheard26** » Wed Mar 10, 2010 9:30 am

How soon will it start working? Ive burned the candle for 2 going on 3 hours now, and I also said what I want over the candle with my petition under it. I was just wondering is there anything else that I need to do?

Mama Micki · Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Wed Mar 10, 2010 9:37 am

You've only burned a seven-day candle for three hours and you're already obsessing over it? Let it burn continuously until it's done.
Then go about your business.

Set it and forget it.

Turnsteel · Unread post by **Turnsteel** » Wed Mar 10, 2010 9:48 am

nheard26 wrote:How soon will it start working? Ive burned the candle for 2 going on 3 hours now,

A general rule of thumb is Three Days for a sign, Three Weeks for moment and Three Weeks for results. Could be longer, could be shorter. That's if you are meant to have what you asked for and if you have the gist for this work.

nheard26 wrote:and I also said what I want over the candle with my petition under it. I was just wondering is there anything else that I need to do?

Pray, for glass encased candles I recommend you repeat your prayer at the candle once a day. Also you sound like you are already obsessing, thats no good, it will kill your work, you have to be calm and go on with your life ad not worry about the spell or the results.

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Wed Mar 10, 2010 9:53 am

I would only repeat the same and especially busy yourself with other matters and expect signs, movement and results as they will come and when you least expect it.

nheard26 · Unread post by **nheard26** » Wed Mar 10, 2010 10:19 am

Thank You Guys so much, I guess I was or am obsessing over it.So now I know to stay calm and dont worry. Pray at least once a day and go on with my normal life. I have worked with regular candles before and I always get results right away, so I guess that why Im so excited about it. But I do need to practice patience. So thank you for the advise.

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Wed Mar 10, 2010 10:42 am

"normal candles"? Are you cleaning and protecting yourself as well?

nheard26 · Unread post by **nheard26** » Wed Mar 10, 2010 1:40 pm

Yes sir, I wouldnt even begin anything without doing that, its basically a habit. But I love the results that I get and it gives me alot of faith in my work! Is there anything extra that you suggest that I can do, besides what Im ready doing?

jwmcclin · Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Wed Mar 10, 2010 6:28 pm

No...cleansing, protection and drawing are staples in spellwork. I have added healing at times to elevate doubt and I think starsnthesky7 mentioned a candle ritual to rid negative emotions. You can do a forum search to locate it.

nheard26 · Unread post by **nheard26** » Wed Mar 10, 2010 9:08 pm

curious1212 · Unread post by **curious1212** » Mon Jul 12, 2010 1:38 pm

Had a progress report with miss bri a few days ago and she has suggested i need to use a bend over candle to get the situation with my wife under more of my control. So im gonna have LM light one for me. So im wondering

What day should i have this candle be lit?
Continuing lighting my honey jar as this candle lit?

starsinthesky7 · Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Mon Jul 12, 2010 2:04 pm

Yes continuing lighting your honey jar, and you need to contact the church and make sure that you specify what day you want it lit when you order. The day you order it is not the day they light it as it has to get processed, and all of that good stuff. So you must specify. In any case, I would recommend, Thursday for such work.

ConjureMan Ali · Unread post by **ConjureMan Ali** » Mon Jul 12, 2010 10:27 pm

Definately continue your honey jar. This way you are working both angles, adding some bite with your Bend over work and sweetness with the honey jar.

curious1212 · Unread post by **curious1212** » Tue Jul 13, 2010 8:39 am

thanks for all the help. I have the order sent in and posted all the necessary info and ask that it be lit on Thursday. Now all i can do is wait.

Theclassymami · Unread post by **Theclassymami** » Thu Jul 15, 2010 7:55 am

I want to do a candle spell to have the upper hand on my boyfriend. I want to be able to ask him to do something with him complaining . I also want him to help me out money wise while im looking for employment. So im confused on what candle to ask lm to light? I was thinking about either essence of bend over of compelling. I'm not sure which one was be a good one.

Turnsteel · Unread post by **Turnsteel** » Thu Jul 15, 2010 8:18 am

Essence Of Bend Over would be better then Compelling in this case.

Theclassymami · Unread post by **Theclassymami** » Thu Jul 15, 2010 8:28 am

Thank you!

nena1974 · Unread post by **nena1974** » Thu Jul 15, 2010 9:42 am

i would also back the candle up by doing some work at home. you could also buy the essence of bend over oils or powders, along with some pay me now. and then do some other work to help you find a job.

starsinthesky7 · Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Thu Jul 15, 2010 10:07 am

You could use I dominate my man as well.

cassie22 · Unread post by **cassie22** » Thu Apr 14, 2011 10:38 am

I am trying to influence my gf and have purchased the Essence of bend over candle to get her to see my way and work out our relationship. I lit the candle last night and it was a small flame, but I woke up early this morning because the flame was going crazy in the jar. It looked like it was going to jump out of the candle. It just seemed to be bouncing really high. Is this is a good sign that the candle is affecting her.

DelArca · Unread post by **DelArca** » Thu Apr 14, 2011 11:24 am

I'm new but it sounds like she is putting up quite a fight. There are likely some personality types that are extremely resistant/strong(which is probably why you bought the candle, right?). I would be interested to know how things go, please update when you can.

AmaSarah · Unread post by **AmaSarah** » Thu Apr 14, 2011 11:34 am

Hi, You can read here about how to read signs from candle burning: http://www.luckymojo.com/candlemagicdivination.html

excerpt: "If a candle flame "dances" or "bounces" or forms a high spiral of flame, it is often seen as a sign that the person on whom you are working is greatly affected by the work; your message is getting through; watch out, though, because if the flame flares up too high... "

good luck!

cassie22 · Unread post by **cassie22** » Thu Apr 14, 2011 12:15 pm

I did get the candle for that reason. She is stubborn. I'm hoping that this means that it is taking the affect I need to get her to listen and bend on her stubborn ways. I will let you know how it turns out.

AmaSarah · Unread post by **AmaSarah** » Thu Apr 14, 2011 2:02 pm

You have to be careful with heavy domination work. Depending on the target's personality, they may react poorly to that kind of pressure. Sometimes a gentle approach can work better. You may want to consider a reading to see what approach would work best on your girlfriend.

ConjureMan Ali · Unread post by **ConjureMan Ali** » Thu Apr 14, 2011 3:37 pm

Essence of Bend Over has a degrading element to it in that its aimed at subjugation. Historically used by people in unequal situations with their "bosses."

I personally find that Commanding which elevates your own authority and gets people to pay attention or Compelling which gives your target a slight kick is both effacious and doesn't have that same degrading element.

I save Essence of Bend Over for those that truly deserve it.

cassie22 · Unread post by **cassie22** » Thu Apr 14, 2011 7:04 pm

Sounds like I need a commanding or compelling candle instead. I am working a honey jar also to help to sweeten her to me. But I felt like I needed to
give her a kick to stop being stubborn and listen to what I have to say. Being sweet is just getting me a pat on the head and nothing else. I felt like I needed to wake her up and get her to see what is happening in our life and get her to return to our relationship. We've been together 5 years, so it's not like we were just dating and broke up. Should I continue the candle and see what happens?

cabriellenil · Unread post by **cabriellenil** » Thu Apr 14, 2011 7:06 pm

I think some others already stated in your other thread that Bend Over might not be a good idea in this case. But now that the candle is going, I'd let it burn out.

cassie22 · Unread post by **cassie22** » Fri Apr 15, 2011 1:56 pm

I'm going to see what happens with the candle. She hasn't changed her mind as of yet, but we are still communicating and see each other at work so I'm hoping maybe with time I'll see the nudge I need.

jujuman · Unread post by **jujuman** » Sat Apr 16, 2011 5:52 am

cassie22 wrote:I'm going to see what happens with the candle. She hasn't changed her mind as of yet, but we are still communicating and see each other at work so I'm hoping maybe with time I'll see the nudge I need.

Any progress cassie?

cassie22 · Unread post by **cassie22** » Tue Apr 26, 2011 8:41 pm

No changes. In fact she now only wants to see me at work. But at times she will talk to me after work or have me come by. Then its back to
just work. I think she is pretty confused right now as to what she wants to do. I have been using Essence of bend oil at work along with return to
me oil and kiss me now oil on her work supplies and computer. I haven't had any results yet, but I keep working and praying hoping a change will come.I know that there is something there between us still. I won't give up.

artemis · Unread post by **artemis** » Wed Apr 27, 2011 8:13 am

I believe you need to tell her to her face what it is you want her to do. Yes, it works covertly, but you still have to slip it into a conversation. At least that's my understanding.

ConjureMan Ali · Unread post by **ConjureMan Ali** » Wed Apr 27, 2011 12:34 pm

Since this is a relationship matter you can try a different approach. Chuparrosa candles can be lit to open honest and sincere communication between two people. Working alongside Reconciliation you will get the drive to heal and repair the relationship.

I find that people tend to reach for the coercive stuff because they think its stronger, which is really not the case.

cabriellenil · Unread post by **cabriellenil** » Wed Apr 27, 2011 12:56 pm

Hmm...Is it me or doesn't the mix sound like just a tad confusing? Bend Over has a bit of a degrading edge to it. Kiss Me - yes, it ignites sexual sparks, but I tend to use it on strangers, casual lovers, someone I'm seeing but don't take very seriously...Fast thrills. Fire of Love should a better option here since it ignites passion in a more romantic context.

I just don't feel Bend Over + Kiss Me is such a good idea in this particular case. If your lover was someone who's on and off with you, came up with all kinds of excuses about leaving you, and you wanted to drive them a little nuts, it might be a different story (if you threw Black Arts into the mix as well). But here you're trying to reconcile with your ex. properly. Also, Return to Me gives out a pretty different vibe than these other two oils. I wouldn't be too surprised if I used this on a target and they got confused/distant or blew up. In my earlier days when I had little clue about mixing formulas, there were times when I used the wrong herbs & products, and things went funny or even berserk within days.

I understand you want to give her that nudge, and at times like these when you want to do whatever you can, it may be a better idea for you to get some magical coaching/another reading from a rootworker and ask for suggestions about what products to use. It saves you money and time, and may help you accomplish your goal more quickly.

cassie22 · Unread post by **cassie22** » Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:54 pm

I believe you are right conjureman. A sweeter approach for our relationship would probably bring out a better approach. In the past when I tried to be aggressive it only pushed her away from me. I will try the reconciliation and chupparosa candles since we are still married and I only consider us separated at this time. I have had a reading and the rootworker said that she is in a fog but hopefully she will see the connection that us still there between us in time and it will take some work between the two of us. I have had van van and healing candles done and hopefully they will help. Also uncrossing was suggested to help as well for any road blocks.

cassie22 · Unread post by **cassie22** » Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:56 pm

I will also talk to my rootworker regarding what oils would work best, since I don't think the ones I am currently using are doing any good except to confuse her more. I surely don't need that!

catherineyronwode · Unread post by **catherineyronwode** » Thu Apr 28, 2011 7:01 pm

Essence of Bend Over is a form of domination. The Essence of Bend Over vigil candle can be burned forcontrol over workplace conditions, loan-getting and other financial matters, job-getting and scholarship situations, or for love and sex developments -- any where and any time you want someone to bend over to your will. It is popularly used in sexual situations where the partners have taken on roles of domination and submission, but it is a bit on the coercive side for general love spell work.

bluebell · Unread post by **bluebell** » Fri Feb 07, 2014 4:30 pm

I want to order for an Essence of Bend Over Vigil Candle to be set on MISC Altar but I don't have any specific target in mind. I just want everyone in my residential area and business area to be affected. In short, I want to control, compel and dominate everyone I meet on a daily basis so that I look like a king in my vicinity. Do I need to specify the targets' names or provide targets' photos before the Vigil candle can be set on MISC Altar?