Get a reading. Your asking for a whole lot of long and complicated work and you very well might lose, the wife always has an advantage over the "other woman". You can get a reading with a good honest worker here:
http://www.readersandrootworkers.org Also, do you have any relationship with this man at all? If no, you probably do not have much of a chance at all.
anita2479 wrote:ll I do not want to harm anyone I just want him one way or another
Well, know right now that if you do this you will be hurting people, possibly a lot of people, the man's wife for one, and any kids they have together for another, their going to feel a lot of pain over this, if you can pull it off. And thats a big if, no one gets everything they want simply by virtue of wanting it.
Really, I suggest you drop the idea and move on, its always easier to draw a new unknown lover then to try and get a specific person who's single let alone married. Take a look at the different spellkits after the reading, the Attraction one is nice as is the Love Me kit.