You would work the candle as you would for anyone else. The difference is that you are naming the candle for yourself. And stating your intentions that are specific to you.
So, if you are having blocks, I would first perform a SEEPARTE blockbuster spell (not on the vulva) and be specific with your intention.www.luckymojo.com/blockbuster.html
Then, you can use your cleansing and/or healing on the vulva. www.luckymojo.com/healing.html
I am unclear about the cut and clear on the vulva. What is your intention with that?
Now, if this were for me, I would have 2 vulvas ready. One for what you wish to perform (everything stated above), then follow it up with another vulva that has a lust formula such as Kiss me Now: www.luckymojo.com/kissmenow.html
Also, first and foremost (since we don't know all the details here), please see a physician to fid out if anything physiological is going on. That ought to be ruled out first
Wishing you the very best