I'm new here and have a big problem with my husband. He's not supporting the household financially, aside from paying rent when he feels like it. We're currently living apart because he insists that the only jobs he can get are in another state, a 12hr drive from home. We've only been married less then 2yrs and he promised that he would get a job in my area, we'd live together and have a 'normal' home life but he lies and comes up with excuses. He can't even keep his promise to visit me every other weekend, yet lies to other people and says he comes up every weekend. I did a love spell on him a few months back and within a few days he called me crying, asking for forgiveness is treating me so bad and said he was sorry and things were better for a while. Now he's right back putting me last. He's also asking me to borrow money from my family to help pay rent and says he'll pay it back in a week, but when I told him my sister agreed but she needs the money back when he said he was going to pay her back because she has bills too, then suddenly he changed his mind and says he can't pay her then and not sure when he can. I should also point out that he makes a very good salary. That the household bills are just a 1/4 of his monthly salary and he gets paid every week.
Oh and when I say he puts me last, here's an example. Some of his friends who don't speak English well and don't know how to drive, the wife is pregnant and due any day. He cancels his visits to me because he has to be there to take them to the hospital when she goes into labor. Also when he lost his job last month and was looking for another, he didn't come home and look, he stayed there because they may need 'help'.
) is being difficult and has not given me access to a financial site I have to have access to, especially if I want to move out of military housing and need to be able to prove his income and housing allotment.
