Spells to Separate From Abusive, Violent, or Spell-Casting Lover or Spouse

sn320126 · Unread post by **sn320126** » Wed Nov 09, 2011 6:27 pm

is there a product that can get rid of a manipulator?

my friend needs it A LOT!

the manipulator is my friend, or at least, thinks

my friend.

is harming my

and i can't get rid of

"GRR!"

so thanks if you help me get rid of

!

P.S I'm sorta a smiley guy

Unread post by **Miss Tammie Lee** » Wed Nov 09, 2011 7:23 pm

Welcome to The Forum, sn320126

Can you please be more descriptive. "My friend is being manipulated"-- by whom?

Why do you believe this is taking place, and for how long?

How is the manipulation effecting the person's life?

Is the friend a friend, or a need to know?

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Wed Nov 09, 2011 7:29 pm

sn320126 --

There are a variety of products defined to 'get rid of' etc. etc.

Banishing (http://www.luckymojo.com/products-banishing.html) is designed to get rid of unwanted people.

Hot Foot (http://www.luckymojo.com/hotfoot.html) is designed to rid you of the undesirables....with an edge...

Read about the qualities of each and you decide...if you want a milder side, use Banishing, if not, go with Hot Foot.

aleemah · Unread post by **aleemah** » Fri Nov 11, 2011 4:53 pm

I want to end my current relationship with my partner. We are not married but share a deep commitment to one another.
He is a pices and I am leo. We don't get along and are both very unhappy. I don't understand him and find him too emotional
for me. I have became very dependent on him and I am scared to leave. I don't like the way I feel and we argue
ALL the time. The relationship is very unhealthy and I am uncertain about my future. I know what I want to do in life and
find him not stable enough for me mental,financially or emotionally. I don't wish to hurt him and I was hoping to break it off
and try to remain friends but I know that it would never work. We have tried to break up many times but find our self back here.
I want him to be happy but i hate the thought of him being happy or successful without me(selfish). I feel isolated and very unhappy.
I just want OUT but don't want to hurt either of our hearts too much. We wanted a family but I have changed my mind and he is older than i am
and want kids NOW. I want a career and stability first. I have never thought about magic but I am desperate as time is of the essence and I am
unhappy with this situation. There is so much more to it, but its way to overwhelming to type. We love each other but this not right

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please suggest something that will work for this

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Fri Nov 11, 2011 5:01 pm

aleemah,

You can work Cut and Clear Spiritual Supplies, it can be worked two ways, read about it here
http://www.luckymojo.com/cutandclear.html

aleemah · Unread post by **aleemah** » Fri Nov 11, 2011 5:16 pm

if any of these steps are performed wrong, do i start over?? Do they have this in book form to order?

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Fri Nov 11, 2011 9:14 pm

aleemah,

The spell kit comes with everything needed including instructions ...

keysha · Unread post by **keysha** » Sun Nov 20, 2011 10:23 am

A few years ago I called the show to get help with rotten neighbors only to find out I have the Ultimate Betrayal. My husband and my mother have worked against me for years. (I found out 11/1/11) I have lost jobs, businesses, friends, helpful people & support. My mother and my husband were in an uproar when I began educating myself in hoodoo root work. They were very uncomfortable when I said I was going to call the show. I believe they were afraid of what would be revealed. I know the first reaction is move. I did move at the beginning of 2011. When I moved out I lost my job and my home. I had to move back.
I desperately want to get away from him. I do not have any friends/family I can move in with temporarily. My friends and support have moved away. I have a daughter from a previous marriage. My husband is military and we are stationed here. I am unable to turn to my mother for help. She gets off on the turmoil I'm in. I used to tell her everything and things would get worst as I stayed in contact with her. I feel trapped like a pet.
Child support for my daughter stopped and the courts stated that the case was being transferred and it will take a while. When I work I make more than him and manage money better. However my savings was dumped into debts he left me with when he deployed a couple of years ago. He didn’t pay car/house insurance, car notes cable etc for 3+ months deployed and I received notices and calls to pay up. Things like this kept re-occurring but every time I’d plan my escape tragedies happen or I would lose my job. I got a job a few months ago and I was released within 30 days then they withheld my paycheck. I interviewed for a job out of state and they haven’t chosen a candidate yet and they aren’t in a hurry. I am applying for jobs in state & out of state.
How do I bind him and his family from working against me? How do I clear the way to get a job so that I can leave shelter and feed my child? I am aware I can walk away from everything and live in a shelter with my kid. I do not want to do that to her. Everything in the house I worked for and purchased. He has invested in electronics, alcohol and debt. I do not deserve this and neither does my daughter.
Cat read for me a year ago but I wasn’t aware of my husband’s activities. ConjureMan Ali read for me a few months ago concerning my surroundings with neighbors. ConjureMan Ali did tell me my husband wants to have power over me. I emailed ConjureMan Ali for root work and I am currently making payments as I receive money to pay for help. But what do I do until I have completed payments. Yesterday I drank something out of the fridge and I was asleep within a few minutes then it happened again last night after I poured the same crystal light. That is when I realized there is something going on. I immediately told my daughter to drink tap water. I do not trust this man. Monday I am going to family advocacy & family support to find out if the military can move us out. I don’t know where we will go but I need to know what my rights’ are as a spouse. I would like to work and move out of here. I don’t care about the beauty of the place. If it’s an efficiency apartment with a twin bed we share it’s better than being trapped here.
I apologize for the "novella version" but I felt a clear description of what has occurred would help.

Unread post by **Mary Bee** » Sun Nov 20, 2011 12:01 pm

Hi Keysha:

First, please get a lawyer if you don't already have one; you're going to need that support to break ties with your husband.

Please ask ConjureMan Ali, if you feel comfortable with him, to apply for Pro-Bono work from the Association of Independent Readers and Rootworkers; the members can submit applications for clients who have little to no money but who really need rootwork help.

In the meantime, look at this link for support on divorcing a member of the US Military:

http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/mili ... enefit.htm

Also, since money is tight, remember that prayer is always free. Submit a prayer request to the Crystal Silence League and the members will pray for you and your daughter:

http://crystalsilenceleague.org

Also, try getting in as a caller on the LMCC Radio Show again, so you can get more suggestions from miss cat and CM Ali; they host every week. Here's the thread to register for this week:

radio-show-pre-call-id-november-20th,-2011-t16536.html

Good luck and God bless,
Mary Bee

Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Wed Nov 23, 2011 7:02 am

aleemah,

I would go with Separation products for this. Also get some Blessing powder.

Get two figural candles and load each one with concerns (his concerns in the male candle, your concerns in the female one), dress them with Separation oil, and place them back to back. Tie a string around them that represents your current commitment - you can loop it once around, thrice around, or seven times around. Get a pair of scissors and dress it with Separation oil. On the first day of the work, state that you are cutting away the ties that bind you and use the scissors to cut one of the loops of the string. Light the candles and let them burn for about 10-15 minutes, while praying that you two be peacefully separated, then snuff the candles. Repeat that daily for however many loops you've tied.

Once you've cut away all the string, burn the string while praying that all ties be burned away.

Now each day move the candles a step away from each other, and let them burn a bit. Keep praying that you be peacefully separated. When the candles finish, take the remains of your partners candle, and wrap them in a cotton handkerchief and cover it with Blessing powder. Take that to a river, and pray that he peacefully part with Blessings, moving out of your life, and onto a new one filled with happiness. Throw that into the river. Bury remains from your candle in your yard, also covered with some Blessing powder, and a similar prayer that you be planting the seeds of a new, happy life. (Or if you will not be living in that location once you two split, then carry your candle remains to a crossroads)

During the time that you are working this, burn Separation incense or diffuse Separation oil throughout your home. Get some Separation bath crystals and dissolve some into a spray bottle, and use that to spritz the sheets of your bed. You can wear Separation oil or powder on your own body, and put the powder into his shoes. Pray for the peaceful separation of you two as you do so.

This should really help you make a clean cut with as little drama as possible.

eagerspirit81 · Unread post by **eagerspirit81** » Thu Dec 01, 2011 5:05 pm

Wow where do I begin. I really need help with this part of my life. I met my childs father when I was in college, he was a drug dealer. How we met was through one of his customers and on our first "date" we took ecstasy and some how his friends at the time raped me. Some how we stayed together and I eventually had a baby by him. I guess I stayed with him because I was always the type to want to have a family and a boyfriend. The whole time we were together it was always some kind of physical or mental abuse involved. He never really showed me much respect or care. I remember many occasions when he would leave while I was asleep, I would wake up and not find him, Or I would wake up and my car was gone, I remember him throwing my money in my face, if we would go out he would walk so many steps ahead of me. Or he would fight me infront of our child.
I am not sure if he was cheating on me or abusing drugs or both, I am not sure why he treated me that way, or why he was never around. Anyways after 5 years of abuse I found the courage to break up with him. I took our child but some how I found myself again at his mercy when my mom kicked me out of her house and I had nowhere to live. I left our child with him. I am a little bit more stable and I took our son back.
He is upset that I took our child, I got a reading the other day and the lady told me that he might be after me to hurt me and take back our son. Not only that mental abuse, believe me is very powerful, eventhough it has been 4 years since I broke up with him. I found myself last year begging to be with him for the sake of the child.
I also recently found out that he has a new woman that he has been with for possibly longer than we have been broken up I am not sure. He has not been helping me with our child financially at all or offering me any kind of positive support @ all. Not only that I feel that he might have done something to tie me, because ever since I have been with him, I have not had ANY healthy relationships at all. I cant seem to meet any nice guys that I like or like me back. And not just nice guys decent guys with good jobs or with some substance at all.
I just dont know what to do.
I do know what I want. He never did deserve me, I want to get over him. And I want to move on finally to a happy healthy relationship. I already tried cut and clear and I dont think it worked I think I might need something stronger.

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Fri Dec 02, 2011 7:12 am

eagerspirit81,

Get a reading ASAP. In the meantime, do a 13-herb bath to cleanse yourself of anything negative whether is from outside or inside.

If you truly don't want to see him again, you should do a black walnut bath.

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Fri Dec 02, 2011 7:22 am

eagerspirit81,
You mentioned that you had a reading, was it with an AIRR reader/rootworker? AIRR (http://www.readersandrootworkers.org) Mama Micki recommended
13 Herb Spiritual Bath (http://herb-magic.com/13herb-bath-13.html) to remove crossed conditions. I would follow this ritual with positive spellwork Van Van Spiritual Supplies (http://www.luckymojo.com/vanvan.html) to clear away evil, provide magical protection, open the road to new prospects and change bad luck to good.

Here is the Black Walnut Spell (http://www.luckymojo.com/cutandclear.html), I included both the Cut & Clear and the Black Walnut Spell to give you further details on how the spell works. Definitely read, "A magic spell to destroy your past connection to a lover or friend and draw a new and better lover or friend to you in the near future"

Good Luck and Blessings!

Unread post by **aura** » Fri Dec 02, 2011 12:34 pm

eagerspirit81,

Both Mama Micki and jwmcclin have given excellent magickal advice.

On a more mundane level, please make sure that you take advantage of the counselling and financial services for women who have been through abusive situations. Talking and bonding with other women who have been through the experience, as well as working with financial alternatives to put you and your son on a solid footing, will usher in new strength and motivation to get further toward that rewarding relationship and caring atmosphere and place you deserve to be in.

Also consider looking into doing Healing and Blessing work for yourself and your son (baths and some of the water in the clothing wahser comes to mind) throughout this period.

Blessings and strength to you.

eagerspirit81 · Unread post by **eagerspirit81** » Sat Dec 03, 2011 4:58 am

Wow the solid advice from this site truely brings tears to my eyes, because it gives me hope that there is a way to help myself. I appreciate it. I know I had a previous post where I was asking for help in love and I stated that I not been in a relationship for 11 years, thats because I did not count what we had as a relationship.....
Anyways I did try the cut and clear candle and in waiting on a response from LM, I reflected on the events around me lighting the cut and clear candle and it did help me a little, I met someone that changed my views on relationships, and how to handle myself and sexuality as a woman.
I bought the van van spell kit recently, I am still waiting on it.
Do you still think I should get the 13 herb bath, and use it before I use the van van?
When I get the van van I would like to get started but if its best to do the 13 herb bath ill wait.
As far as a reading I got it from a friend that was pretty accurate before about some things. I wouldnt mind getting a reading AIRR reader but I would like someone that works strong for my situation.
I am also taking him to court for child support, any recommendations ie to sweeten the judge or him to tell the truth.
Aura mentioned financial and counseling services, any recommendations? I live in NYC.

Thank You ALL

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sat Dec 03, 2011 5:30 pm

Good Luck and Blessings to you eagerspirit81.

Unread post by **Dr Johannes** » Wed Dec 14, 2011 6:29 am

eagerspirit81,

I suggest you use that Van-Van as soon as it arrives and continue with the 13-day bath when it arrives. In your situation time is a more important factor and you should get started as soon as possible.
In regards of the upcomming court case you might consider getting yourself the court case spell kit right away:http://www.luckymojo.com/spell-court-case.html. There are a few AIRR workers who specialize in court work. If you get yourself a reading from such a worker you can ask about other recommendations for the court at the same time.
Best of luck to you.

eagerspirit81 · Unread post by **eagerspirit81** » Fri Dec 16, 2011 8:25 am

Thank you, for your insight...... Will do....

eagerspirit81 · Unread post by **eagerspirit81** » Thu Mar 22, 2012 8:43 pm

I did the van van spell,and at the end of the spell it says to bury the remain of the spell in yellow cloth.I have it tired up here in yellow cloth but I live imin the city in a building with nothing but con crete stronaround any suggestion on disposal??? Thank you.

finding_a_mystery · Unread post by **finding_a_mystery** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 1:44 am

I am looking into the idea of setting lights for a friend of mine who is in an abusive relationship. There has been mental and emotional abuse, and there have also been incidents of physical abuse.

I am worried about my friend's safety to the point that I fear for her life . I want to get this guy away from her, so should I set a break up candle for her or a cut and clear or is there some other option?

I don't want to do harm against the guy. I just want to make sure he leaves her alone?

Any suggestions?

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 3:23 am

finding_a_mystery,

NO do NOT do a break up candle as that can cause conflict and physical conflict.

1. I would cleanse and protect her. You can work with Saint Michael for this one and/or do some fiery wall of protection. But I think Saint Michael is the way to go with this one if you work with saints.

http://www.luckymojo.com/fierywall.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/archangelmichael.html

2. I would do some clarity and king solomon to help her see the situation clearly and make a good decision. In addition, I would do some courage work to help build up her strength to leave this man. Once she actually leaves then the cut and clear and healing can be done.

3. I would either bind him or freeze him.

We have talked about this in this thread domestic-violence-t9534.html

But if you do anything else work with Saint Michael. He will protect her.

Unread post by **Mary Bee** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 3:23 am

finding_a_mystery,

You can use Separation products to gently separate the two of them, and a Fiery Wall of Protection light to protect her from his abuse. I wouldn't do anything harsh like Break Up or Hot Foot; it can inflame his anger and only make him worse.

She should do a Cut and Clear after the relationship has ended to cut her emotional ties to this guy.

Good luck,
Mary Bee

Unread post by **aura** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 3:25 am

Hi finding_a_mystery,

first and foremost: make sure that your friend gets a restraining order on this guy! If she's physically in danger, legal help is necessary, not only magickal help. Encourage her to go to a women's shelter if that's what it takes.

Candle wise, I would set Fiery Wall of Protection and/or St-Micheal candles for her safety. Clarity, King Solomon Wisdom and Crucible of Courage can help her obtain the insight and extra push needed to leave this man. And for him, consider making a doll baby and binding him into a mirror box with it. Alternatively make a crossing bottle on him and drop it into a river that flows far away from where you and your friend reside.

Blessings and best of luck. Do keep us updated on what transpires.

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 4:38 am

If you decide to do the crossing work, do that AFTER she's in a safe and good place. Crossing him up if she is still with him, may affect her too. So just be cautious and mindful of that.

finding_a_mystery · Unread post by **finding_a_mystery** » Fri Mar 23, 2012 6:12 pm

Thank you all for your suggestions! It's greatly appreciated.

I will work on protecting her first, then I will use gentler separation methods and avoid things like Hot Foot. As I said, I don't want to harm him. I just want him away from her.

I will let you all know how it goes.

Unread post by **Wendy Rose** » Sun Apr 22, 2012 2:24 pm

I agree, I would work on protection and cleansing your friend first, not doing anything that could flame the guy even more then he already is at this point. Maybe work on your friends (inner) strength too to make the step of leaving al little bit easier if necessary.

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sun Apr 22, 2012 4:00 pm

I too agree with aura and starsinthesky7. Cleanse and protect your friend first, are children involved?

shakirah · Unread post by **shakirah** » Thu May 24, 2012 2:59 am

Keep your friend safe and always be your friend in your side and talk to her most of the time.

cmsnider1 · Unread post by **cmsnider1** » Mon May 28, 2012 6:14 pm

I have a couple that need to be separated as soon as possible but I'm not sure where to start.

He is an awful person that needs to be separated from his girlfriend as soon as possible. Unfortunately he convinced her that he's a good person but he's really a manipulative, lying coward. She wouldn't be with him if she knew all of the things he's done. The worst part is that he is completely unable to see himself for who and what he is and has convinced himself that he has done nothing wrong. While he owes me an apology for all of the things he's done to me, my priority right now is to protect her and remove him from her life before she is hurt too.

Can someone please help me determine the best method to separate these two people for good?

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Tue May 29, 2012 2:40 am

Start with a reading to see if you are even able to break them up. You may need to do more than just a break up spell

www.readersandrootworkers.com

The rootworker can give you a better look at what would be the best way to break them up.

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Tue May 29, 2012 12:51 pm

Is it really your job to protect his girlfriend? Maybe she knows how he is, but doesn't care. A lot of women like "bad boys"; even prison inmates get women to marry them. My advice is to Cut and Clear him to remove any emotional ties to him and move on.

Mag · Unread post by **Mag** » Sun Jul 22, 2012 10:46 am

I'm desperate!!! Please help me!! I need my husband out of the house.

I am 55, he is 65. Common law married for 5yrs. He is retired, I quit my job, and bought a house in the country, in a different city. I got really ill, but doing better. I filed for my Social Security Disability about 3 1/2 yrs a go, still waiting.

My husband turned out to be a very mean and ugly man after 4 1/2 years. It was just a matter of time. I kept praying that I would get my disability to no avail. He acted and carried himself as if he were better than anyone. He was always putting my family down, saying mean and hurtful things to me about them. He has been so so so mean and ugly. So many time I hoped something would happen to him and wondered why it didn't, because of the way he has been. I know that's wrong and I would tell God I was sorry and to please forgive me.

In March things got worse. His sister called and told me that he had raped her for 6 years when she was little and that he and their other brother would have oral sex with each other and the other boys in the hood. They moved around a lot. She said that they had molested my husband's older son and that they had shared the youngest son that is now 16. I got very very sick over this. I realized that it was true about him and his youngest son.

All the signs have always been there ever since I met him. We have been fighting a lot because I won't believe him. The police did talk to the boy, and he said that his dad was a good man. They closed the case. I had been to see a lady for help in card reading, burning candles, but nothing worked. They are back to wanting to see each other again. My husband and his 16 yr old are lovers now. Last night he said he was goin to bring his son over here for a few days. We got into a big big fight. I know that the boy has been bugging him to bring him over here 3 hrs away, the boy wants the ranch & his dads money, that he thinks he has, but doesn't.
To make this long sick story short, I want to make my husband leave here, to sign over his half of the house & half of his income, so I can pay the bills. By law he doesn't have to do either, we have only been together 5 years.

I have done a lemon jar to shake, with herbs, nails, pins, needles, pepper flaks, ground red pepper, whole pepper, control oil, compelling oil,mint, basil, a pic of him our names back 2 back in a whole lemon & Lots, lots, lots of lemon. I also fixed some 2 spray, threw a lot where he walks. Praying, praying, begging God for help.
I have a red candle I will light tomorrow, plus I will be doing a black candle with motor oil, black, & red pepper, for 3 days.
Two questions? Am I doing too much, am desperate!!! Plus does it matter if I walk over where I have thrown stuff for him. Please tell me what's right or wrong so I can help myself until my order gets here.
I have smoked my house and myself, baths too, with herbs that I have, lots of Indian sage.
He is very mean & am afraid of him.
Thank u so much!!!!

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Sun Jul 22, 2012 10:54 am

Check with an attorney if you haven't already, but since you are not legally married, you may not have any legal rights. My advice is to keep working on the disability and other sources of income so you can get out of there. I don't care if he has money and property; he belongs in jail.

Do not use motor oil to dress candles. It is not safe.

Mag · Unread post by **Mag** » Sun Jul 22, 2012 11:12 am

Yes I have seen a lawyer, the deed has my name on it too, but I can't get any of his money, useless he gives it 2 me. Tats why am wanting 2 do a spell on him.
He has couched his son all his life not 2 tel, now the son is use 2 wat is going on. 4 2 months I hav tried 2 do stuff 2 get him 2 talk, in hope tat they would put him in jail, but their bond is way 2 strong 2 break.

Thanks!!

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Sun Jul 22, 2012 11:22 am

Then I would suggest using Court Case and filing a claim to your share of the property. You might be able to get a cash settlement. Compelling and/or Essence of Bendover might also be helpful.

Mag · Unread post by **Mag** » Sun Jul 22, 2012 11:32 am

Thank u so much. Do u think I can make him sign over his half & some kind of support,
thur a spell I mean!

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Sun Jul 22, 2012 12:07 pm

What you can or cannot do depends on many factors, including your magical skill, his resistance, legal issues, and ultimately God's will. Get a reading, but I still think you should go for a cash settlement and get away from him ASAP. It's unlikely that you will get a judge to make him pay you support when you are not legally married and have no children with him. (Not legal advice, just my opinion based on my multiple marriages and divorces.) When you do spiritual work, consider the most likely outcome. For example, it is easier to do love work on someone that you know than on someone you never met. It is easier to get a job than to win the lottery.

Mag · Unread post by **Mag** » Sun Jul 22, 2012 1:57 pm

He doesn't hav money, he only gets his monthly checks, his family think he has money, but he doesn't.
He has credit, is wat has, but he has money coming in, I don't.
We would need 2 sell the house, which I hav talked 2 him about already.
We will need 2 talk about again & do it, but right now he is very very mad at. He will not even talk 2 me.
Thanks so much!!

Mag · Unread post by **Mag** » Fri Jul 27, 2012 6:52 am

I need a strong strong spell 2 make someone (victim) hate the other person (very sick person) or at really really hate to b around him.
Victim loves the sick person & the sick person controls the victim. The only way tat the victim wil talk & tell about all the uglyness is if he hate the other, I feel.
I need the victim 2 open up & tell the truth. ASAP please. I will order wat I need, but til I get it, wat can I do with herbs, etc here from stores.

Thank u!!

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Fri Jul 27, 2012 8:11 am

Please keep all posts on the same topic together, mag. I assume you want your stepson to hate his father and realize that your common-law husband's sexual relationship with him is wrong. You can use Breakup on them if you want them to fight and argue, and Clarity and King Solomon Wisdom on the boy to get him to see what is really going on.

I will repeat my advice concerning your situation. Get out of this relationship and out of the house. Get a cash settlement for your part of the house. Again, I am not an attorney, but it is unlikely that you will get any other money since you are not legally married and have no children with him. Do Cut and Clear work to break any emotional bonds to this man, and do some money work to get the funds to get out. The longer you stay, the more you will entangled emotionally and financially.

Psychic Mimi · Unread post by **Psychic Mimi** » Fri Jul 27, 2012 8:50 am

MM is right. You aren't legally married, and some states don't even recognize common law marriages any more. You need to talk to a lawyer, and most of them will give you a free consultation. Your safety should be your first concern, so get out as quickly and swiftly as possible. Do what you need to do to make that happen first, because it seems as if just that factor alone is causing you the most anguish. All of it is disturbing, yes, but I sense you need to get out of the situation first and foremost.

I worked with abused children in the past, and know that sometimes the abuse is so severe, that the victim will keep going back to the abuser truly believing it is all done out of love. Trust and believe that in my days as an investigator for child protective services, I had seen that many times. It blew my mind every time, but more than once I saw children run back to an abuser willingly and with persistence.

Seek help from any and all local agencies that can extend it. You might be waiting on assistance from one agency, but that doesn't mean you can seek help from another until the SSI comes through.

Mag · Unread post by **Mag** » Fri Jul 27, 2012 2:10 pm

having a hard time posting

Mag · Unread post by **Mag** » Fri Jul 27, 2012 3:03 pm

This is the 3 rd. time I hav tried 2 reply, I hope this time it works.
Sorry bout tat, I thought tat because it was 4 different spells tat it would b different subject.
Yes it is 4 his son, I will try wat u said on him, but right now I am still on the dad.
As 4 the cash settlement, as I said before, he does not hav tat kind of money, plus even if he did he wouldn't make it tat easy on me.
Texas does recogonize common law marriages & I did c a lawer back in March when I first found out.
It will tak 2500.00 2 start. Plus I might b able 2 get some kind of help from him because of my health, but tat will cost more, don't hav tat kind of money.
I am getting the house ready 4 market, I sold mine house & used tat money, plus money my father left me when he died, everything in here is mine, but in the mean time, i will still b working on him 2 leave,
as 4 the son, I had burned candle after candle in hope tat he would talk, but he didn't.
In fact they r planning a trip together, 4 next week, the son keeps calling ready 2 go!

Thanks so much MM.
Thanks 2 u too Mimi, sad 2 hear wat u c, sad 4 all thoses kids!!!

NeverBend · Unread post by **NeverBend** » Thu Sep 20, 2012 6:45 pm

Greetings, longtime lurker here.

I'll try to make this as short as possible.

I have an ex that I dumped and kicked out of my house months ago. This fool is obsessed with me and delusional; as shown through astrology synastry Pluto aspects, tarot card readings, as well as actions. He keeps calling me even though three months ago I cussed him out and told him how much I despise him, don't want to have anything to do with him and to move on. I haven't spoken to him since and refuse to pick up the phone when he calls.Tomorrow I will be changing my phone number, so that will at least fix that.

He's half Native American and has some knowledge of Native medicine (magick). When he left, he stole one of my shirts, which I'm quite sure he is using or will use to manipulate me to fall of him *pukes*. Oddly enough I was told (via reading) the 13 Herb Bath I purchased will clear up some yuck in my life...more than likely that is his doing. Plus my anger sometimes overfills into rage when I think of him, as though my free will is fighting off what he is trying to do...in making me fall for him. He knew my last ex put a love spell on me and I guess he wants to play copycat. Ah...and he did tell me before I kicked him out and we were just "friends", that he did some type of ritual that will tie me and him together...forever. I guess some type of Native binding spell? Anyone here familiar with Native American medicine?

My tarot card readings show that he really believes deep down inside that I want to be friends with him (Three of Cups or sometimes Six of Cups), one day want to be with him again (Two of Cups), and have a family with him (Ten of Cups). Though sometimes he realizes I think he's annoying (Ten of Wands), a loser and dead to me (Ten of Swords). So he goes back and forth, but mainly believing that I want him...even though I ignore his phone calls. The Four of Pentacles and Devil card shows him not wanting to let go and his obsessiveness/possessiveness feelings for me.

First, I tried a freezer spell...didn't work. So I got some LM products such as Firey Wall of Protection, St. Micheal place card, St. Cipriano chromo print (I think he and I will work great together...love him already!) and some other items. I've been using the Firey Wall everyday; and in the near future I will be looking into Hot Footing, Mirror Boxing, Black Walnuting and finally Cut and Clearing this freak out of my life.

My concerns however is this...first, he still has my t-shirt. Second, even after I plan to do all of the above in the future, the cards STILL show he will think I want to be with him. This concerns me because if he thinks I still have feelings for him, despite magickally and physically blasting him out of my life, he may continue to try to find a way to contact me, manipulate me magickally via personal concern or worse...bring bad luck in my life; as I have had readings show he has wanted to cause great harm in my life so I will need him *pukes again*. Because it does show he may still try to find a way in the end...and the Star card backs this up with his hope.

What works in my favor is he's kinda stupid, oblivious to his surroundings and makes sloppy mistakes...which tend to backfire on him. When asked what must be done for him to see how much I hate him, find him vile and want nothing to do with him...I got the Moon and Tower cards. So, basically, the delusions need to come crashing DOWN. Another good thing in my favor is he is going through a long Saturn Square Sun in the 8th house transit that says it will force him to see reality and let go of all delusions, and in trying to manipulate or bend someone's will, will NOT go in his favor.

So how do I break through his delusions and what type of protection (either on-going or one time) will I need since he has my shirt? I do plan purchase a reading to get another set of eyes on this and for further advice, but for right now, I'm trying to mentally come up with a defensive plan of attack.

Sorry if this is too long, I wanted to keep it as detailed as possible so you will have the complete picture with a decent backstory.

Thanks for reading.

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Thu Sep 20, 2012 7:00 pm

NeverBend wrote:I have an ex that I dumped and kicked out of my house months ago. This fool is obsessed with me and delusional ... He keeps calling me even though three months ago I cussed him out and told him how much I despise him, don't want to have anything to do with him and to move on. I haven't spoken to him since and refuse to pick up the phone when he calls.Tomorrow I will be changing my phone number, so that will at least fix that.

He's half Native American and has some knowledge of Native medicine (magick). When he left, he stole one of my shirts, which I'm quite sure he is using or will use to manipulate me to fall of him *pukes*. ... he did tell me before I kicked him out and we were just "friends", that he did some type of ritual that will tie me and him together...forever. I guess some type of Native binding spell? Anyone here familiar with Native American medicine?

First of all, have you done any readings to see how capable he is as a magic worker? He claims to have done a ritual to keep you together -- but you aren't together. He has your personal concerns -- does he even know enough not to wash your shirt before he works with it?

... he may continue to try to find a way to contact me, manipulate me magickally via personal concern or worse...bring bad luck in my life; as I have had readings show he has wanted to cause great harm in my life so I will need him *pukes again*. ...

There is a class of spells often called "Love Me or Die," which are intended to achieve just this situation.

What works in my favor is he's kinda stupid, oblivious to his surroundings and makes sloppy mistakes...which tend to backfire on him.

This is why I asked how capable he is as a magic worker. For instance -- so much of what passes for Native American spirituality on the Internet is very thin New Age pablum with feathers on it. Is it possible that that's all he knows? How deep is his connection with (at least) his family's traditions of spiritual and magical work?

So how do I break through his delusions and what type of protection (either on-going or one time) will I need since he has my shirt? I do plan purchase a reading to get another set of eyes on this and for further advice, but for right now, I'm trying to mentally come up with a defensive plan of attack.

It may be easier to just confuse him FURTHER, so he can't even get a candle lit. Use Confusion, not Inflammatory Confusion, because you've got enough drama as it is. Put it on a black skull candle and cover the eyes and mouth so he can't see what you're doing, what he's doing, or talk coherently about it. Stick thorns and nails and pins in that skull to disrupt his thinking, and in the eyes and mouth too, if you like.

When it's done, either throw the remains into running water or divide it up into nine parts and take it to nine widely-spaced crossroads leading away from your house.

Hope this helps,

Miss Michaele

NeverBend · Unread post by **NeverBend** » Thu Sep 20, 2012 7:55 pm

Thanks for your quick reply, Michaele! And love, love, love the new title...LMAO! It fits, barf indeed.

First of all, have you done any readings to see how capable he is as a magic worker? He claims to have done a ritual to keep you together -- but you aren't together.

He has always acted like he was really big into Native medicine. But then one day I asked him how did he learned about it, since he grew up with his mother who was white and his Native dad was separated from the mom and spent most of my ex's childhood in prison. He never mentioned his father's family being into Native spirituality. He always described them as drunks, hot-tempered brawlers and ex convicts. Well, he told me he received his education in prison, from former Native inmates. Honestly speaking, I don't think he has that much knowledge and always got the idea that he was trying to showoff and make himself bigger than what he is. I've caught him lying about certain things and completely ignorant on other things regarding Native people that he SHOULD know. He has a big inferiority complex because he's only half Native.

So when he told me about the binding ritual, I didn't believe him or believe any power that he put into. But I can't help wonder if this binding that he's talking about could mean like a spiritual or psychic binding. However, he has said that he knows medicine men. Whether that's a lie or not, I don't know. But he is back in his hometown where his Native family and friends live, who could point him into the direction of a medicine man. Though at the same time, people tend not to like him, even his own family...so maybe he won't receive any help or direction from anyone. So where it stands now, I would rather not underestimate or overestimate him. But yes, I do need to do some readings about his knowledge in Native medicine or people who could be helping him. Though I did plan to wait until I got purchased a reading before I went into that line of questioning.

He has your personal concerns -- does he even know enough not to wash your shirt before he works with it?

I doubt he knows this. But that's besides the fact, he's dirty anyway and wouldn't think of washing a shirt, lol eww.

There is a class of spells often called "Love Me or Die," which are intended to achieve just this situation.

This is why I asked how capable he is as a magic worker. For instance -- so much of what passes for Native American spirituality on the Internet is very thin New Age pablum with feathers on it. Is it possible that that's all he knows? How deep is his connection with (at least) his family's traditions of spiritual and magical work?

Interesting. I've read about this "Love Me or Die". If he did something like that it would have to be a Native equvilant. He's words, "Native medicine is the most powerful and strongest magick because it comes from nature." If it ain't Native, it ain't real. Did I mention he's kinda stupid? Meaning, it's highly unlikely that he would do a spell outside of Native magick. I have nothing against Native people (got a bit of Native blood myself) or spirituality, I think the people and beliefs are beautiful...but for him...he tries way too hard to achieve an image and be something he most likely won't ever be. Something else in my favor.

Yes, I like the idea of confusion to use his weakness against him. I must admit, I am bit worried about his mental state, as there could very well be something wrong with him mentally. Like certifiable. Plus he has deep, deep insecurities and deep self-hatred that he REFUSES to acknowledge. Like I stated earlier, people tend not to like him and treat him like crap...including getting beat up. He deals with rejection left and right. Hardly any friends, women don't like him and his family can't stand him. If anything bad happens, he's depressed for a bit and then bounces right back like all is right in the world. Doesn't matter what happens or what he loses. He feels sorry for himself and that's about it. He has no capacity for self-growth, self-realization or self-awareness. Which I psychically believe is a defense mechanism to avoid confronting his demons. So I wasn't sure if my plans could or would send him over the edge or not. Maybe a mirror box would be too much? Would you suggest I still do a Hot Foot spell to make sure he stays away from me or would Confusion Oil with the Black Skull be enough?

Thanks again!

NeverBend · Unread post by **NeverBend** » Fri Sep 21, 2012 1:32 pm

Well, the situation has become drastically worse. I’m now forced to reveal things about this that at first I wanted to keep secret. Part of the reason is that though I’m spiritual, I’m a skeptic first, and the other reason is because I was afraid of the possibility. Bear with me…

Okay, this ties into the whole binding thing. Long story short, the house I live in is inhabited with spirits. The guy that I rent from had stayed here for five years and was the first to tell me about them. The house is over a 100 years old and quite few people died here over the years. At first I didn’t think much of it, until I started hearing them. Crashes, bumps, thuds…those sort of things. Objects have been flown all the way across the other side of the room before…when I’m not in there. Well, I decided to make peace with the spirits by talking to them. After a while, they would sometimes make noise when they wanted me to show them some attention and talk to them. I then begin to leave out food offerings for the spirits. As some time passed, I asked to spirits not to make noise when I’m in the house because my first reaction is, “OMG…someone is in the house!” and that freaks me out. They respected that request and hadn’t made a peep in months.

My landlord told me that one of the spirits is a Native man. Months later (after my ex was gone), he told me the Native is actually the worst spirit in this house. Before my ex moved in, I told him about the spirits and he was fine with that. When he moved in, he told me that he made contact with the Native spirit. He would tell me certain things the spirit would say and even though I didn’t necessarily believe it, I still found it interesting. One interesting thing is this spirit answering correctly to what I told my ex to ask him.

Now with this binding thing. One day I come home and my ex is in the backyard. He told me that he just completed some ritual with this Native spirit and in due time, that spirit will inhabit the body of my ex and that my ex will be gone. He said, however, that this ritual he did also ties me and him together. This is after we broke up and I allowed him to stay here to help out financially (HA!). Anyway, once again, I thought it was straight poppycock. Something else the spirit “told” my ex a couple of days prior to him moving out, was in the future I would have to let him stay with me again because he (my ex) wouldn’t have a teepee to call his own. Basically he would get kicked out of wherever he is staying. The other reason why my ex would have to move back in is because there are people in the shadows watching me, so my ex would serve as a protector. This all sounds insane, right?

When I started doing readings on my ex I started to have a weird suspicions on how he would know certain things about me. I chalked it up to maybe him getting readings from someone, or maybe using tarot cards himself, since he knew I used tarot cards and gave him accurate readings. But I always had a worry in the back of my mind that what if this Native spirit might have something to do with it? However, I just pushed those thoughts away.

Okay, last night or early this morning after 3AM (cue horror music). I was up because I didn’t have to work today. I was researching about co-dependency to try and gain a greater understanding of my ex’s mindset. It fits him like a glove with the denial and delusions, among other things. My room is upstairs and all of a sudden heard footsteps on the lower roof…which is right outside my window. The patio in the back enables someone to climb up the lower roof if they want. I heard a lot of footsteps outside my window, and then in the room next door. This house is HUGE and used to be a duplex. So the other side of the house, while easily accessible, is really another side of the house with its own entrance. The room next to me is on the other side of the house. When I say I heard footsteps, I mean I heard FOOTSTEPS. Someone was walking in the room, back and forth, around and around. I was scared out of my mind and frozen in fear. Finally I started making my escape plan, by getting dressed and grabbing my phone. Whenever I moved, the footsteps stopped. When I stopped, the footsteps started again. I called 911 and snuck out the house. Three cops show up, search the place and find nothing. No signs of foul play whatsoever. That the windows had been open, I mean nothing. They leave. I go upstairs. Right when I’m about to get undressed. I hear one LOUD knock on my bedroom window….silence….about 20 seconds later…another LOUD knock on my bedroom window. I’m completely terrified at this point, call 911 again, cop comes out…nothing…big surprise.

I’m starting to feel that I’m being messed with spiritually, so I grab one of my cats and bring her upstairs with me, so I could watch her reaction to the noise. Well the noise dies down, but not without a final knock on my other bedroom window…which no one would be able to reach without a ladder and lighter footsteps next door eventually die down. I was able to finally fall asleep (surprisingly) at 5am and I kept my cat in the room with me. The cat was fine…in fact, she was having a blast exploring and coming up for cuddles. Glad someone was feeling good. I did hear a noise in my house earlier today when I was in the bathroom. A clash of sorts, I inspect and find nothing.

This morning I got up, first thing I did was doing a reading on my ex. I was too afraid last night because I thought it might make things worse. The reading was telling. It showed manipulation, cruelty, trickery and evil. When I asking about how he thought I felt about him, again, it showed everything. The fear, the repulsion, the conflict and the fleeing. The Moon card (upright and reverse) as well as the Seven of swords, King of Swords, Five of Wands and Devil (mostly all reversals in this cards) were the majority of readings. I finally did readings separately on how his family and friends all felt about him and saw him: lazy, obsessive, a bully, evil, delusional, hiding pain and failure, a menace…you get the idea. When I asked about me and their thoughts (because I wanted to see how much he was telling them) it was generally all positive, though they seem to feel sorry for me because of my suffering. And finally, it looks as though they are beginning to distance themselves from him. Looks like his friends feels greater sorrow than the family, as the Five of Cups was illustrated here. It shows he knows what he did was wrong, he is upset that I’ve definitely DO NOT want ANYTHING to do with him. But the fool actually thinks I’m being unfair in my reaction. In addition, it shows he is still trying to deny the fact that nothing will ever become of us. I can’t believe he actually think he still has a chance after all of this. I don’t even feel hate for him anymore. It has moved on beyond hate into something I can’t describe.

Now this is a wild, wild tale. If it hadn’t happen to me, I don’t know if I would believe it. But I find the timing very funny. Considering that today I had plans to change my number (and I did) and today is the day I planned to take steps to break free from him. I hadn’t heard noises from the spirits in months. In fact, just two weeks ago I told the landlord I don’t hear them anymore. I will tell you exactly what last night felt like…pure intimidation. To try and scare me from getting away and breaking all contact with my ex. If anything, this made me even more determined and just confirms how crazy he really is. It makes me feel that I must be getting really close to freedom if such drastic attempts were made to scare me into compliance. But then you add in the spirit?

So, please, please, please advise me on what I should do? This thing is bigger than what I thought and one reason why I felt it was best not to underestimate him. Not because of his power and/or knowledge…but because of who he might have in his corner helping him.

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Sat Sep 22, 2012 1:24 pm

You may need the help of a professional spiritual worker. Not necessarily a Native American worker, but someone who is skilled in working with spirits.

AIRR Members who are spirit mediums:
http://www.readersandrootworkers.org/wi ... or_Clients
AIRR members who work with angels, saints, deities, and/or spirits of the dead
http://www.readersandrootworkers.org/wi ... or_Clients

In the meantime, you might want to make a decoy doll baby of yourself to take the intimidation for you -- and try the other tricks suggested in this thread:

Protection against an adept worker who can block you
protection-against-an-adept-worker-who- ... 20245.html

Hope this helps,

Miss Michaele

NeverBend · Unread post by **NeverBend** » Sat Sep 22, 2012 2:34 pm

Yeah, I agree...I will need the help of a professional.

Yesterday I spoke to the spirits of the house and explained how betrayed I felt by them. I left out a food offering, which I've kinda slacked up on (oops!) and asked for a truce so that peace can come to the house again. Well, not sure of the long-term effects, but there were no problems last night.

And apparently his friends are starting to take his side and feel that I'm not following my heart by cutting him out. UGH! He, of course, knowing how I feel about him is still showing no signs of moving on and letting go. It does look like in the future he will try to cause blockages and problems in my life...to punish me and bring me back to him. The cards show that he is not doing well financially at all (he's lazy, a gambler, a drunk, wants to play all the time and doesn't like to work)...the very same issues I had with him are apparently causing problems with his friends as he is not pulling his weight. Probably where this whole "no teepee to call his own" will come from, when his friends finally get tired of his leeching parasitic behavior and kick him to the curb. He's thinking he will be able to take advantage of my financial stability and comfort in life by moving back in. In fact, it looks like he is jealous that I'm doing so well. So since I won't share myself and my wealth...he will try to destroy what I built.

I'm so sick and tired of this nasty loser. I wish I could throw up in his face. The whole situation feels like I'm dealing with a zombie. A dead thing that refuses to DIE.

I've been thinking about a decoy doll baby, but my knowledge on doll babies is minimal. So in the case of blocking/diverting intimidation and attacks, what wording would I need to use? Also, would using a black figurine candle stuffed with 13 Herb and my personal concerns, then dressed with Firey Wall be sufficient?

Thanks again, Miss Michaele

NeverBend · Unread post by **NeverBend** » Sun Sep 23, 2012 1:11 pm

Well, he's done it. Last night after 3am I had some more disturbances. During that time I drew the Devil card twice during one card draws. Apparently he was happy that he got my attention and that he contacted his friend (me). Today the cards showed that his plan is to destroy me (10 of swords) with the behavior of the Page of Swords (reversed) so that I break and contact him and then he can come rescue me. The outcome of his plans for me are 8 of cups reversed...keeping me from moving on and escaping from him.

While I'm doing a lot better financially in my life, I'm not out the woods yet. I still have to be careful with my money, as most is being spent on old bills and things I've needed for a very long time. And there are many, many things I still need to achieve. When I did readings today on how to go about reaching my goals, I'm receiving nothing but negative readings. When doing readings about certain spells or working with saints to reach my goals...again all of the readings are a big fat NO, not gonna happen. He has completely blocked me to where now I'm stuck and I have no way to free myself. I asked about the decoy doll baby and even that was bad. Basically it would result in war and bring even greater trouble (the Tower card). So I can't even defend myself at this point. Everything I do will just egg him on even more. It will be awhile before I can even get a reading as I had just made an order yesterday, while things were less messed up...and I have bills coming up. I'm losing sleep and am having a hard time focusing on my responsiblites such as work, and I'm hoping I don't suffer from a mental or emotional breakdown. I was talking to my mom about it yesterday and now she's really worried. I'm starting to feel real discouraged and scared here. This man is extremely dangerous. I don't know what to do.

Unread post by **Joseph Magnuson** » Sun Sep 23, 2012 1:27 pm

I recommend that you get in contact with a professional worker and speak to them about this. At the very least a 3rd party, professional, rootworker can do mirrorbox work against him. You drew the Tower Card for yourself while asking about the "decoy doll baby,"but that does not mean that someone else could not do this type of work for you.

NeverBend · Unread post by **NeverBend** » Sun Sep 23, 2012 1:46 pm

Thank you, Joseph.

I agree with your advice. If I could, I would hire a rootworker today. However, right now, my finances are tight because of other obligations. I did just put in prayer requests with the Crystal Silence League, as I need all the support I can get right now. Perhaps I'll get a $10 reading and see if I can apply for the Pro Bono Fund.

NeverBend · Unread post by **NeverBend** » Sun Sep 23, 2012 2:37 pm

And yup...I got hit twice on my order that I did yesterday. I called LM and they said the first time they ran the card it declined, but the second time it went through. She said it would clear in 2-3 business days. I need that money tomorrow for a bill. Just like I said, he's attacking my foundation. I've contacted a reader, I hope to hear back soon.

islandgrl242 · Unread post by **islandgrl242** » Fri Nov 30, 2012 8:58 pm

A the risk of sounding repetitive to other posts heres my dilemma in a nutshell.

My ex was abusive and as a result I moved outf the home we shared and went home to my mothers. During the time I was there I started to somewhat move on and ended up meeting a wonderful kind loving man who treats me well respects me, understands my past scars and is basically a great guy.

I make no excuses here, I was still afraid of my ex though and to pacify him, at times I'd agree to see him or entertain his calls. When I didnt he would get irrational and violent. Entertaining the calls or meetings kept him calm for a time and basically allowed me to continue my fantasy of moving on. I say fantasy because anyone with sense would know eventually I'd have to cut off all ties.

I've tried to have a civil conversation with him explaining why I felt we bring out the worst in each other and why it would be best we part ways. He always end up in tears and my soft nature caves because I truly never wanted to hurt him despite how abusive he's been the thought of hurting another person is not appealing to me.

However it is time to end this farce, if I try to talk to him it either ends in tears or violence.

What should I do? A freezer spell? A vinegar spell , hot foot?

I'm not certain and I want this done properly and ended once and for all. I wish him no harm just want him to let me go and leave me alone.

Please tell me what would be best and what I need to order to make it happen!!

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Fri Nov 30, 2012 9:44 pm

islandgrl242 --

Cut and Clear him and block all communication with him, including phone calls, text, email, and personal contact.

If he is violent, call the police and get a restraining order.

Unless you have children or property together, there is no reason for you to ever see or talk to him again.

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Fri Nov 30, 2012 9:55 pm

I second Mama Micki.

islandgrl242 · Unread post by **islandgrl242** » Sat Dec 01, 2012 12:00 am

For right now there's joint accounts and the home we shared to sort out I guess but my main thing is I want him to just move on. We've both hurt each other and we simply bring out the worst possible behaviors. It's better for us both to part ways he just refuses to accept it. My blame is in being so soft in reference to hurting him or anyone that I guess I caved in. He's threatened to kill himself when last I insisted that he stay away from me and leave me alone and he disappeared for 2 days after making me and his family belive that he had done it.

Unread post by **nagasiva** » Mon Jan 14, 2013 10:57 pm

Via private email, i responded to a question about 'whether magick could be used to aid someone in an abusive relationship'. As usual, i sought to be as complete, practical, and generic as possible, and i would like to contribute the greater portion of my original answer here because it relates in part to indigenous ethnomagicology by resource and contains a number of ideas which are condition-specific, born in folk magic contexts.

There were claims within the original query that magick could not be an 'answer' for the problem, and the implication seemed to be that it was worthless for anyone to attempt to assist. I replied:

- Magic (spellcrafting) is absolutely proper for anything you want help with.

Helping ordinary situations in life is a commonplace in several varieties of folk magic. Sometimes these varieties will come readymade with their own ethics about how to go about it, but i'm not here to tell you about these. The important aspect, based on my exploration of several versions is that you will wish to break *down* the events, situations, or dynamics into components which may be assisted through a magical boost.

Helping someone who is in an abusive relationship will be aided by orientation as to what development will be necessary, from seeking shelter and escaping the influence of the abuser to mediation and getting counseling for those involved. Divination or a more thorough investigation of the exact details of the circumstances will be important to gearing the spellwork.

Since i am not here doing a reading or evaluation of that situation for you, i'll point out some means by which spellcasting can assist ordinary options:

* Crucible of Courage salts added to one's bath to stand up to the perpetrator and see it through to resolution

* Peaceful Home candles burnt on the photo and petition set targetting the abuser and their domicile

* Clarity oil or incense to assist all those involved in seeing the situation for what it is

* Protection or Fiery Wall of Protection oil or incense or candles to assist helpers in their work of keeping the victim safe

* Binding (e.g. Mirror) Box spell to contain the control the abuser

* Protection amulet construction, such as a mojo bag, charm, or talismanic container to establish a firm foundation of security for the target of abuse

* Clarity or Wisdom or Court Case powders applied to the paperwork which is filled out to obtain protection from authorities

* An "invisibility", more properly an obscuration, spell to conceal the whereabouts of the victim against being located by the abuser when seeking shelter

* Hot Foot Powder set to drive away the abuser from the household of the crime

* A killing spell meant to bring the swift death to the abuser, burying their effigy in a graveyard using spirits allied to the spellcaster to bring them down, utilizing Goofer Dust, and other heinous, corrosive, harmful supplies, such as DUME, Damnation, or Destruction

All of this is intended to be implemented ALONGSIDE ORDINARY ACTIONS, such as seeking a restraining order, moving, asking for protection from friends and family, hiring legal counsel, securing help from agencies who assist battered and abused people, etc. In other words, my advice is to obtain the coordinated and rational results sought, using both mundane and magical means.

conjure princess · Unread post by **conjure princess** » Sun Mar 31, 2013 6:55 am

Hello everyone!

First I want to apologize because my story is somewhat long so I will keep it as short as possible and secondly I would like to say thank you in advance to everyone on this forum and to Lucky Mojo for the amazing products that have helped me numerous times.

I'm not sure what to do, I have been in and out of an emotionally abusive relationship for the past 2 years, I have gotten numerous readings from 3 workers from AIRR and have successfully done a lot of work on this man and although my spellwork has always worked, it seemed to just be a bandaid and temporary. Everything from honey jars to moving figural candles to Love Me to Reconciliation have worked, but I have not done anything on him in about 9 months.

He is younger than me and of a different religion, I don't have a problem with this but him family does. Throughout our "relationship" (not that he would ever call it that) there have been great loving times but there has been lying, cheating, betrayl ect. I have NEVER done one thing to wrong him. Most things I've said have been manipulated and twisted so I look insane, he "forgets" promises he's made, unreliable, ignores me, purposly hurts me, puts me down, makes me out to be the bad guy...venemous with his words...but a saint to everyone else in his life. And to his family he makes me look crazy and he looks like an angel. For some reason I am lucky enough to get the dark side of this man. Yes, he has been wronged and hurt in past relationships but I don't feel that is any warrant to destroy a person. I quit my job because I was so stressed out, lost weight, started having bad anxiety, and let myself go. I can say he has partially ruined my life, or more so ruined who I was, took away the good and happiness in me. Recently it came to light that he not only had a brief affair with a married woman but also dated someone for a month during out first year together.

So now I don't know what to do. It seems no matter what he does he manages to convince me that it is MY fault. I am the reason he does what he does, MY actions warrant him to hurt me. All I have done is love this man unconditionally, been there 24/7, got him jobs, bought him eloborate gifts, been a COMPLETE fool. I do NOT blame myself for the abuse but I blame myself for allowing it to happen and neither setting boudaries nor leaving. It is like an addiction. Seriously he is like drugs.

My first question is can this be a repercussion of any of the spellwork I have done to him, I don't mean karma or any of that, I mean am I bound to him or tied to him emotionally and that is why I cannot let go? Part of me wants to do a reversal just so he can feel how it feels. But maybe I should do a cut and clear? I want to know if the cut and clear works both ways or is just one sided? Should I do clarity and healing/reconciliation so we can fix things? Road opener to open the road between us? I just don't know. I want him in my life but I do not want to be "involved" with him, but I don't want him dead to me, I'd like to be able to be civil or friends. I don't want to hex him or hurt him but I would like for him to get what is coming to him. Please help!

I'm sorry for the long post and I hope I posted this in the right place.

Unread post by **Doctor Hob** » Sun Mar 31, 2013 11:23 am

conjure princess --

Don't torment yourself over what he does or does not have coming. Cut and Clear, and then do work to find a man who deserves you. That you would even contemplate trying to "fix" this boggles my mind. I'd spit on the shadow of any man who would treat their woman this way.

Don't worry about him. Cut and Clear. Once you have that space, then you can decide, with much more clarity, how to proceed.