Spells to Heal Angry Negative Depressed Parents and Elders

yoragoddess · Unread post by **yoragoddess** » Sat Apr 28, 2012 5:23 am

Ηello all, I want to help my best friend with her daughter. She has never used hoodoo before so she is a little confused. She has had problems with her daughter all her life. The daughter does exactly the opposite of what she should-she ignores her kids and her home (so her mother will do the work),she eats and has gained over 80lbs just to rub it into her mother's face that she is different than her. My friend has tried many things but nothing seems to work. I suggested starting a honey jar between the two of them to sweeten the atmosphere,add a skull candle burned on top of the honey jar and follow thru with a doll baby. Now I am putting her order in for supplies but I am a bit weary on what oils and herbs to use. Any suggestions appreciated. The situation has gotten out of hand with the daughter totally ignoring the kids,when she feeds them its only fast food ,never cleans etc so we really have to step in IMMEDIATELY,before the kids are affected even more. All she wants is the daughter to respect and take care of herself and her children. Please help us.

yoragoddess · Unread post by **yoragoddess** » Mon Apr 30, 2012 7:57 am

anybody out there to give a helping hand and opinion,please

Rookie2conjure · Unread post by **Rookie2conjure** » Tue Jun 05, 2012 11:33 am

I want to help my brothers who they live with my mom. My mon has always had problems, financially, with people, nobody likes her- I feel bad for her. My mother lives with her husband ( not our father), my brothers can not get ahead of life for some reason or the other are not advancing in life. My mother has always had bad luck on everything. Well this issue is of course affecting my brothers... I need to help them, what can i do?
They don't care about anything anymore. I don't know what to do, I want them to get on their feet again and have that drive to succeed. And my mom, I really want to help her, but I don't know how.

I am new to this site and I love this forum... I am trying to learn the best I can by reading this forum. This forum is full of awesome suggestions. I will in 4 months take the course. However, in the mean time, I need to start helping my family and my self.

Where do I start? There are so many awesome products LM sales and want to use all of them. Which products do you suggest I buy for my brothers and my mothers energy? And me, I need to cleans and heal me, I've had enemies done work upon me.

Thank you!

thatgirl · Unread post by **thatgirl** » Sat Jun 09, 2012 6:39 pm

There's so much going on there that it is pretty hard to say! A reading might be in order.

You're looking at things like... road opener, uncrossing, and possibly cast off evil. You can work a honey jar for the household. Use things like high john, solomon seal, bayberry, master root, five finger grass, clove, and master of the woods. Also road opening work for their household. Or, if your brothers are minors and basically depending on your mother, you may simply make a jar for her. For her only, I would use things like orris and rosemary in addition to high john, solomon seal, bayberry... You get the idea. The only difference being that some herbs are really great for women.

This isn't a jar in which you would cross her/their name with your name on the petition. It's a jar to sweeten conditions in their lives and household. You may wish to do road opening work for them, and for yourself. But, with it being two separate households I would do their work separate from your own. So, in their jar each individual would have their own name paper, and you would cross over their name with whichever blessing you see fit, like "success" for example. Or, just simply write their names 7 times without anything over it. Also see: http://www.luckymojo.com/candlemagic.html#colour

You might also be looking at things like courage, crown of success, and victory or wealthy way depending on the situation.

I like orange candle work to shake up stagnant conditions. If the "bad luck" is often related to her finances, thing of Money House Blessing, Prosperity, or money stay with me. Good Luck and/or Van van on an orange candle.

For yourself, uncrossing, fiery wall of protection, road opener, and then... something like Attraction or Magnet, or whatever good things you want to draw into your life.

Good luck!

Unread post by **Miss Tammie Lee** » Sat Jun 09, 2012 6:56 pm

You could have a reading with a Member of AIRR:
http://readersandrootworkers.org

You could also sign up for this week's radio show thread:
radio-show-pre-call-id-june-10th,-2012-t19900.html

Good luck!

Unread post by **aura** » Sun Jun 10, 2012 10:17 am

The above advice pretty much covers the bases Rookie. In addition - do make sure that your brothers are getting the mundane help they need: support services to talk things out and if they're coming of an age where they can consider moving out, financial aid services and community groups. God does help those who help themselves.

For each of your brothers, a lucky piece could be helpful as well as leave them a continual reminder of you. An extra large John the Conqueror root regularly oiled with Master, Nature or John the Conqueror condition oil could work nicely. A Jack ball is another alternative you can consider.

Finally, if you don't already have people praying for your bros via the Crystal Silence League, don't hesitate to post a prayer request: http://www.crystalsilenceleague.org/

Blessings and best of luck.

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sun Jun 10, 2012 11:18 am

to aura...here's the link to Jack Balls ( http://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatmojo.html )

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Mon Jun 11, 2012 5:02 pm

1. I highly suggest you get a reading on this matter.
www.readersandrootworkers.com

2. I would do some cleansing work on them. I would get one vigil light for each person. I would even get one for your mother's current husband as well. The follow that up with protection as well. If you wanted you could develop a doll for each of them and bathe them in uncrossing bath crystals and then bathe them in protection crystals.
www.uncrossing.html
3.

tklove · Unread post by **tklove** » Wed Jun 13, 2012 4:19 pm

My mom is involved in a very dangerous lifestyle and I worry about her everyday. She basically chose prostitution and drugs of myself and my two children. I got a reading and was told that "she will come back into our lives but she is lost...lost in a world of sex, drugs, and violence." The lady pulled a card for her before I gave her any information and the card was The Devil. (very scary moment for me) The lady was very kind and told me that she would set a light for me for her to give some type of contact. Although that gave me some closure, I cant help but still worry about her, especially since the lady told me about the violence. I knew about the sex and drugs but nothing about violence. I can only image...I want to do a ritual of protection as well as something to draw her back home. Even if she has to live with me at some point, I really want her somewhere safer than where she is now. Or even something just to compel her to do better with her life. i hate this for my mom and I feel so helpless. She's lost but I want to find her and bring her to the place where she can feel and be loved unconditionally.

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Thu Jun 14, 2012 3:21 pm

I would do

A) fiery wall of protection spell for her
www.luckymojo.com/fierywall.html
B) Cast off Evil to get her rid of this addiction to this lifestyle
www.luckymojo.com/castoffevil.html
C) I would work with Saint Anthony, and/or do a reconciliation spell kit to you get you back in contact with her.

www.luckymojo.com/saintanthony.html
www.luckymojo.com/reconciliation.html

tklove · Unread post by **tklove** » Thu Jun 14, 2012 8:14 pm

Thank you for your reply. This was exactly what I was looking for! Many blessings to you!

Rookie2conjure · Unread post by **Rookie2conjure** » Thu Jun 28, 2012 1:46 pm

WOW there's so much to take in. Thank you everyone ! There are so much I need to do.

My brothers just told my mom that they were leaving the city. They think in their crazy mind that they will be able to do it, home less, from friends houses to friends, it's not easy, as they think they will. This is too much. I feel I need to take care of my brothers first, then I can deal with my mothers household.

What is the easiest way to cleanse them and protect them? Should a vigil candle do it for now? maybe a clarity candle for each of them? They don't believe in this stuff... so it'll be hard.

Thank you so much, I am trying to take everything in and trying to learn as I go.

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Fri Jun 29, 2012 7:24 pm

Newbie82 wrote:My brothers just told my mom that they were leaving the city. They think in their crazy mind that they will be able to do it, home less, from friends houses to friends, it's not easy, as they think they will. This is too much. I feel I need to take care of my brothers first, then I can deal with my mothers household.

What is the easiest way to cleanse them and protect them? Should a vigil candle do it for now? maybe a clarity candle for each of them?

That sounds like a great start. While you're at it, buy those oils -- Protection and Clarity -- and put a few drops in their grooming supplies and laundry supplies, so when they pack and every time they get dressed they're benefiting from your work. Just imagine, every time they put product in their hair they're putting clear thinking into their heads!

They don't believe in this stuff... so it'll be hard.

They don't have to -- and I just showed you why.

For more ideas, just search for "sneaky tricks" on this forum.

Oh, and --

aura wrote:In addition - do make sure that your brothers are getting the mundane help they need: support services to talk things out and if they're coming of an age where they can consider moving out, financial aid services and community groups.

This is an excellent reason to post a prayer request at the Crystal Silence League. I know some of the members -- myself, for instance -- have justice altars to serve folks who need access to these kinds of services.

And do get a reading as soon as you can afford it; this is a complex situation and will probably need a complex action plan.

Upload Your Prayer to the Crystal Silence League
http://crystalsilenceleague.org/public/prayer_type.php

Good luck and good magic,

Miss Michaele

KittyLove · Unread post by **KittyLove** » Wed Oct 17, 2012 5:12 pm

Just wondering if there are recommendations for cleansing children. I have a bar of rue soap I accidentailly left in the shower and it wasn't until just now did I reflect on the effect it was having on my teenaged daughter, she must like it cause its green. She seems to be off to a better year at school, mean kids are staying away and she's a lot more positive and getting her work done. I also have two boys under 10 who have not used it. I am looking for something close to straight up rue oil or crystals rather than bar soap for them. Ordering a few things soon, since I don't drive often (can't get to my original rue soap source without a half day expedition) figured I'd cover it through LM. I like what Devi has said here about it, little people unintentionally direct stuff at eachother.

Re: The correct way to use Rue for cleansing?
Rue is a cleansing herb that is specifically good at cleansing away the evil eye, or other negativity that was sent to you by other people (either consciously or subconsciously).
by Devi Spring
Wed Jul 21, 2010 1:46 pm

(sorry about my quote here, this message is brought to you from my little phone)
Thank you in advance

Unread post by **aura** » Thu Oct 18, 2012 4:23 am

Hi MissKittylovesNanny,

For the boys, one alternative is to use a pinch of diluted Van Van bath crystals in their laundry (particularly socks and underwear). You can also get the sachet powder and mix it into any foot powder that you use for the boys' sneakers. Van Van will help turn bad luck to good so it has some cleansing and some road opening properties to it. You could also integrate a bit of King Solomon Wisdom in their to get them thinking wisely and making good decisions.

Here are the links to those:
http://www.luckymojo.com/vanvan.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/kingsolomonwisdom.html

Alternatively, if you want to stick with Rue because you are happy with the results and want that same energy, you could order the palmarosa bath crystals and powder which are a cleansing and good luck starter base. Another alternative is to go with lemon since it is also traditionally used against the Evil Eye and is in the same family as Rue. Then add some Rue herb or in the case of the bath crystals, dilute them in a strong rue herb tea. Pray as you work and perhaps burn a triangular configuration of dressed candles around the powders/bath crystals once they're completed to step up the intensity a little.

Here are the links for that second option:
http://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatbaths.html#essential
http://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatpowders.html#essential
http://www.luckymojo.com/rueandcimaruta.html & http://www.herb-magic.com/rue.html

No doubt the other fine workers on the Forum will also have some great suggestions for you.

Blessings.

KittyLove · Unread post by **KittyLove** » Thu Oct 18, 2012 11:08 am

Thank you Aura! This is so helpful I read the links you posted. It looks like Rue is going to be a staple herb in this household. I would like to find a sterling rue cimaruta amulet like the one on the page, I know she will like it. I like giving jewelry to my daughter as holiday gifts, coincidentally she had been collecting evil eye and hamsa pieces prior to my interest in hoodoo. I had given her a labradorite heart last spring to wear, it worked but not nearly as well as the use of rue soap, because she doesn't wear it all the time. I am expecting an order to arrive soon, that has LM King Solomon's Wisdom oil. I'll put some in a little bottle or in some hair dressing for her. Sachet powder would work well for her too as she sometimes powders her hair, do I mix it half and half? She just uses cornstarch baby powder or used to.

I don't have to be sneaky with her, she knows what's going on, because we put dragon's blood oil in one of our hair products for luck and protection.

I forgot about the lemons! Back to lemonade.

One boy is 8 and the other is 4. I like the suggestions for the older boy, he is gifted and emotional. The little one gets pretty upset about his absent father, I'll give the palmarosa and rue a try on him. At the moment they don't have anything, just the occasional bath with florida water.

Thank you again Aura, your suggestions are excellent. I look forward to seeing what anyone else might suggest!

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Mon Oct 22, 2012 5:07 pm

MissKittylovesNanny wrote:I have a bar of rue soap I accidentailly left in the shower and it wasn't until just now did I reflect on the effect it was having on my teenaged daughter, ... She seems to be off to a better year at school, mean kids are staying away and she's a lot more positive and getting her work done. I also have two boys under 10 who have not used it. I am looking for something close to straight up Rue Oil or crystals rather than bar soap for them.

You can get Rue Incense and Sachet Powders as well as Rue Bath Crystals and Rue Oil from Lucky Mojo. It's a pity your original supplier of rue soap doesn't do mail order

Would your children enjoy the luxury of a bath gel or body wash? A few drops of rue oil could be mixed into that.

Now that you have the protection and banishing aspects taken care of by such simple means, you might also add a few drops of Crown of Success Oil to their bathing and grooming products.

Rue Spiritual Supplies
http://www.luckymojo.com/products-rue.html
Crown of Success spells and supplies
http://www.luckymojo.com/crownofsuccess.html

Good luck and good magic,

Miss Michaele

emdeluxe · Unread post by **emdeluxe** » Thu Oct 25, 2012 4:12 pm

Hi all-
This may seem like an odd question, but here goes: My husband's daughter has given us a beautiful grandson. I never raised kids of my own, and his kids were pretty well grown by the time I came along. I want to be the best grandma I can be to this little boy. Does anyone have any suggestions for work, oils, etc. that will help us bond and help him be happy when he's with us? Thanks for your help.

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Sun Oct 28, 2012 6:32 am

Peaceful Home and Blessing would be a good start. Light candles dressed with the oils (or vigils) and both you and the baby can wear the oils too.

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Sun Oct 28, 2012 12:51 pm

I seem to be on a spirit altar kick today

Start a little ancestor altar to the baby's ancestors, asking them to protect the new baby and to lend you the benefit of their experience.

If you can't get their pictures or grave dirt, well -- neither could I. So I started my altar with an empty picture frame and some earth from under a tree I was spiritually led to, into which I prayerfully called their spirits. I've been told it takes about a year for such an altar to "wake up."

Hope this helps,

Miss Michaele

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sun Oct 28, 2012 6:38 pm

Give that precious baby a lot of love and attention as you work to build your relationship with him. The recommendations here are great!

KittyLove · Unread post by **KittyLove** » Mon Oct 29, 2012 4:17 pm

Woo-hoo for Rue! Thank you MissMichaele, and again to Aura for your help.

I have ordered Rue herb packet, Rue oil and Crown of Success. I am looking forward to fixing up the house and the kids with the new products.

Unread post by **tabia** » Tue Nov 27, 2012 5:18 am

God Bless you both.......

Unread post by **Lord SP** » Tue Nov 27, 2012 11:09 pm

Petitioning St Michael on your mom's behalf might not be a bad idea as well as he is known to protect people in the stickiest of situation.Hope that helps and my prays be to you and yours.Good Luck!!!

soblue · Unread post by **soblue** » Sat Dec 08, 2012 1:05 pm

Hello everyone!! It pains to even write this. Long story short my Mother is married to a mean, bitter, rude, unappreciative, cheating man. They have been married for over 13 years. I really hate what he puts my Mother thru. He does not work because he's "disabled" half blind yet he finds time to cheat! My Mother is always struggling she works like a dog why he trolops around the neighborhood.

Everytime i ask my Mother about his wrong doings or if she's ok and offer her to stay with me she says that she is fine. I live an hour and 20 mins from her so I see her once a week usually. If it was up to me, I would love for him to get out of her life but I feel that's not my choice. I am torn on what type of spell to get for her. I have just started putting him in the freezer for a freezer spell the last wannig moon and this wanning moon. I hope to see some relief from that I petition for him to stop his cheating and nasty way.

This is a troubling situation for me so I just need to have other options. Can you recommend spells to stop his ways, renew his love for her and spells to send him on his way. I am not sure which I want to do yet because I know she love him but I know she isn't happy either. Any advice, feedback would be much appreciated. Thank You

Apollo Dark · Unread post by **Apollo Dark** » Tue Dec 11, 2012 2:28 pm

Hello soblue,

There are many directions you could take with this.

My recommendation is that your contact a Rootworker to get a reading done on this situation. Some divination into this would really help in decided what road to take.

soblue · Unread post by **soblue** » Thu Dec 13, 2012 3:54 am

Ok, were can I contact a rootworker? I was hoping someone could at least give me start. I've seen far worst cases than mine on here that has recieved tons of feedback. Thought this was a board to help each other.

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Thu Dec 13, 2012 6:48 am

www.readersandrootworkers.org

soblue · Unread post by **soblue** » Thu Dec 13, 2012 7:07 pm

Thank you

Apollo Dark · Unread post by **Apollo Dark** » Sat Dec 15, 2012 1:36 pm

soblue wrote:Ok, were can I contact a rootworker? I was hoping someone could at least give me start. I've seen far worst cases than mine on here that has recieved tons of feedback. Thought this was a board to help each other.

Hello soblue,

You are correct in that this forum is here for advice and help. For your situation, though, it is hard to recommend anything without some more information on the cause and roots of this problem. There are many things that could be attempted, but to prevent vain attempts, it is best to get more information about the situation. So that you can start in the best direction.

Best of Luck to You!

magicianness · Unread post by **magicianness** » Sat Aug 31, 2013 9:29 am

My birth mother has always been very controlling and jealous of me. I agreed to allow her to visit my son for his birthday this year. Will Firey wall of Protection Oil be enough to protect my child and I during her short visit?

Unread post by **catherineyronwode** » Sat Aug 31, 2013 9:53 am

Yes, it should be. You may also wish to bathe and clean the house wth Chinese Wash after she leaves.

Unread post by **aura** » Sat Aug 31, 2013 9:54 am

Hi magicianness,

It should, but do make sure to do a proper cleansing on your child after the visit.

Blessings.

Unread post by **Mary Bee** » Sat Aug 31, 2013 6:24 pm

Do a very light dressing on your son with Protection oil, like a drop on his head. I may not want to use FWP oil on a little child due to its' spicy nature, although you can always test it out on his elbow before the visit.

Good luck,
Mary

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Mon Sep 02, 2013 1:38 pm

magicianness wrote:My birth mother has always been very controlling and jealous of me. I agreed to allow her to visit my son for his birthday this year. Will Firey wall of Protection Oil be enough to protect my child and I during her short visit?

I second Miss cat's recommendation of Fiery Wall up front and Chinese Wash when she leaves.

But you could have some protective fun with this by cooking a fine birthday dinner for your son that features Stop Bothering Me You Gotta Go Now Chili Balls or Texas Hot Foot Chili, and some nice ribs or chicken with Four Thieves Vinegar Barbecue Sauce.

I'm talking, of course, about the Hoodoo Food cookbooklets

Hoodoo Food: the Art of Magical Cookery
http://www.luckymojo.com/conjurecookoff.html#booklet

See also:

Cooking with Magical Herbs, Hoodoo Foods! Cookbook
cooking-with-magial-herbs,-hoodoo-foods ... t4443.html

Best of luck,

Miss Michaele

Wandering_Jew · Unread post by **Wandering_Jew** » Sat Sep 21, 2013 11:37 pm

Sorry for the long post; it's a complicated matter. Or feels complicated to me, anyway.

The woman who gave birth to me (who has publicly declared, "I'm not your mother any more", so I'm not sure what to call her) has major mental health issues -- to the point that it's not safe for me to have any contact with her, even from a distance. So I don't. I live far away from her, so there's no way we can bump into each other. I don't ever visit her, we don't speak by phone, I don't ever email her. But all that hasn't been enough to stop her having a negative influence on my life.

Every now and then, I get a crazy email from her, either telling me how dreadful I am, or telling me how much she loves me if I only I could recognize it. (Her ways of showing love include telling me I was being selfish and should take a bus, when the local doctor had just told me to go straight to the Emergency Room; then calling her friend who molested me as a kid to wish him a merry Christmas within my earshot as punishment for insisting she take me to hospital. Or imprisoning me in her home with no way out -- literally not even a window I could climb out (I tried) -- to try to stop me marrying a Jewish guy because they're "too foreign". So not the kind of love I want in my life, frankly.) Each time I get one of those messages from her, I feel it coming even before I check email; it's like a shower of really dark, disturbed energy being thrown my way.

I used to be a reasonably successful writer ('on national TV' successful, if that counts for anything), but she went out of her way to find my writing, took everything personally and kept contacting me about things. For example, I once wrote about how poor the town where I grew up was, and described how some --other mothers-- in town switched price tags on things in stores (back in the days before bar codes) because they couldn't afford the things their family needed. That prompted a long rant about how I was libeling her by describing things --other mothers in town-- did, and how she didn't raise me in some place with poor people and 'undesirables' like that (even though she herself was on welfare too.) At one point she threatened to sue me, and then contacted a bunch of my friends, an ex-boyfriend etc. to have them all pass on a message that if I didn't un-publish something I'd written online, she'd call the police and report me missing, since I wasn't responding to her threats. So I don't dare publish any of my work under my own name any more, and even posting this paragraph makes me anxious in case she finds it somehow and I cop even more crap from her.

I've also stopped contacting a lot of people I care about, including my foster parents who I love dearly, because if she finds out I'm in contact with anyone she knows, she starts harassing them and trying to manipulate me through them. Thankfully she has had zero interest in my life for a long time (even when we were still talking, each phone conversation consisted of her asking "how are you?" I'd say "fine" and then she'd talk about herself for the next hour or two) so she doesn't know most of my friends now... but I can't contact anyone from my hometown, no matter how much I miss them, because if I do it's only a matter of time 'til they're playing me the ten crazy ranting voicemails she left them one day.

No matter what I do to keep away from her, lessen her ability to get to me, and cut whatever ties I have to her, it doesn't work. I feel like there's still some kind of tie to her on the energetic level, that none of my efforts have been able to sever (or even shield me from, very well.) Maybe it's because I was literally made inside her body, so I'm tied to her that way?

If it matters, her clinical diagnosis is Narcissistic Personality Disorder with some Paranoid aspects as well. When I'm around her, her energy field feels shattered and spikey; not strongly cohesive, if that makes sense. So I spent my whole childhood stabilizing her as much as I could -- and maybe that's part of why I can't seem to break the tie to her either? Whatever innate ability for energy work I have, I'm pretty sure I got from her (although she has no idea who my father is, so I don't know what I got from that line); she definitely has some ability herself, but in the hands of someone as unbalanced and vindictive as she often is, that's not a good thing.

Is it possible to break that tie to your birth mother permanently, if the situation justifies it?

Would a Cut and Clear spell be strong enough to do it?

Are there any complications in doing work to clear yourself of someone who has some ability themselves?

Thank you in advance for any advice you can offer...

Unread post by **Miss Aida** » Sun Sep 22, 2013 8:51 pm

Good Evening, Ms Syd,
I am so devastated over what your mother does to you. What a TERRIBLE way for you to live your entire life.
The stress has got to be phenomenal and may even take a toll on your health. This worries me.
I understand that she's your mother, you love her BECAUSE she's your mother and you have a sense of obligation. That's normal behavior (on your part).
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is almost the same as a Sociopath/Psychopath (<--both terms used interchangeably: depending on which Psychiatrist uses the terms). And these people lack a conscience. Anybody is a target to be used by them and EVERYBODY is fair game to them (especially family members and those that feel guilt). Why? because it makes them feel more powerful. They get that temporary rush of power at anybody's expense. Only, it's akin to a drug: they need more and more and it never NEVER stops. The problem is that there's no cure for this. Science doesn't even know for sure if it's genetic, hereditary, or the environmental upbringing...they can only speculate.
I could go on and on about this but this is a Hoodoo forum. So, I won't. But, I do have some strong suggestions to help you.
You were right on about the Cut and Clear. Definitely do these spells. You will definitely think better and be able to develop a concise game plan. http://www.luckymojo.com/cutandclear.html
Then, I would HIGHLY suggest that you receive some counseling. You need this for many reasons: 1) you need to come to grips with the fact that your Mother's behavior will never change; 2) What your Mother is doing to you is HIGHLY illegal and you need to take legal action (counselor will show you how to do this); and 3) You need to be strong to take the legal action (again, counselor will help you through this).
Then, I would suggest some Banishing Spells. There are numerous spells on this website: http://www.luckymojo.com/spells.html and the products are here: http://www.luckymojo.com/banishing.html
Additionally, these type of people attract evil spirits. So I would definitely protect myself (if I were you) http://www.luckymojo.com/fierywallofprotection.html
If you're feeling "funky" even when away from her, let us know because you might also want to do some spiritual house cleaning and uncrossing baths.
I hope this helps you. It's a start.
And we all wish you the very best in your life and your future (which is time to start afresh).
PLEASE take care of yourself FIRST!!!
Our prayers are with you

Wandering_Jew · Unread post by **Wandering_Jew** » Mon Sep 23, 2013 6:31 am

Thank you for the detailed reply, Miss Aida!

You're right about therapy being part of the answer to dealing with a narcissistic parent. I had an excellent therapist as a teenager who helped me accept that life isn't always fair, sometimes people get stuck in shitty situations that they really don't deserve, and it's best to concentrate on the things in your life that you can change. It helped a lot. I go back for a little more counselling each time I discover some other way in which my warped upbringing warped me as a person, which isn't always fun but it is necessary. 'Lay counselling' (i.e. talking to friends who have some understanding of these kind of issues) also helps a lot.

As for the legal side of things, that's unlikely to happen. Unfortunately police say "it's a family matter" and won't get involved, even when they're handed enough verifiable evidence that a stalking conviction would easily stick, if the stalker wasn't a family member. My best friend is a lawyer and has done everything she can to help me, but ultimately family ties are privileged over the law even by those supposed to uphold it; breaking laws against stalking is ignored because, "she's your mother, of course she wants to contact you and know what you're doing."

And yes, you're also right that the stress of dealing with her has taken a toll on my health, but that's a subject for some other time.

As for the hoodoo aspects of it...

Is there anything I'd need to change in the Cut and Clear spell on that page, to make it apply a family member instead of an unrelated person? (The spell says it's for a lover or friend, although the black walnut spell says it can be used for a family member.)

Is there anything I could do to increase the power of the spell, since the bond between mother and child tends to be a lot stronger than that between unrelated people, or even less closely related relatives? Or would that be a bad idea?

Or is Cut and Clear plus Banishing the traditional way to cut ties with a close relative who you need out of your life, i.e. the two combined provide the strength to remove a troublesome parent from your life?

Also, I'm new to hoodoo so I try to do one thing at a time. Would it be bad if it takes me a little while (like a few weeks) to do the Fiery Wall of Protection, after the Cut and Clear and Banishing work?

Sorry for all the questions; I'm still learning, obviously.

And thank you so much for your help with this. I would really like her out of my life, but having no contact with her for almost eight years hasn't been enough to do it; there's still some sort of connection there that lets her send horrible energy my way from time to time. At this point, I figure rootwork is more likely to break that connection than one more therapist, no matter how skilled.

Unread post by **Susan Barnes** » Mon Sep 23, 2013 8:03 am

Hi MsSyd,

Miss Aida gave you excellent advice. Follow her directions in her post to you. She is an excellent advisor.

Follow the instructions to the spells she mentioned. They are like recipes, follow them. Especially since you say you are new to Hoodoo.

Also consider a freezer spell to freeze her out. http://luckymojo.com/freezer.html

I think Miss Aida was speaking of legal help in the terms of consulting an attorney. Most attorneys don't charge for a first time visit. Go see one for your own piece of mind. There are awesome attorneys who deal with this kind of thing every day.

As far as your mother goes, she is mentally ill. You can't help her. She doesn't want help or she'd get it. She has tormented you for most of your life. She has tried to destroy your career, your relations with your foster parents and your friends. This woman has already shown you who she is time and time again. I know its hard because it is your birth mother. I've experienced a similar situation with a family member. You have to be the one to cut the tie.
You've been a successful writer and you can be one again. But not as long as she's interfering in your life.
Please consider the following:
1. Do not take any calls, emails, texts, letters from this woman. Block her and do it now.
2. Cut it off yourself. Stand strong, ask yourself if you want to give your power, your life, your spirit to someone who is vindictive, mean spirited and a ghastly human being?
3. Get a reading. http://readersandrootworkers.org Ask for a reading and for a magical coaching session to help you with the spells. Find a reader you feel a connection with on the AIRR site. You can also call 1-888-4-HOODOO for a faster reading.
4. Continue working with your reader/rootworker to get this woman away from you and to get back into writing.
5. Not only is your birth mother mentally unstable, she is under the influence of negative energies who want to harm you and anyone else around you.
6. Do not underestimate her. You must cut this off and you must do it sooner than later. God has given you the gift of writing, he didn't put you on the Earth to suffer and to squander your talent.

I'm looking forward to seeing you reestablish your writing career!

Many Blessings!

magicianness · Unread post by **magicianness** » Sun Oct 06, 2013 11:45 am

Thank YOU ALL SOOOOOO much for the great advice. My mother came out to visit and it was REALLY EASY.!
Blessings!

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Sun Oct 06, 2013 1:06 pm

MsSyd wrote:Unfortunately police say "it's a family matter" and won't get involved, even when they're handed enough verifiable evidence that a stalking conviction would easily stick, if the stalker wasn't a family member.

This puts me in mind of the Fiery Wall of Protection Spell Kit.

You could tweak that spell just a little bit to get the police off their butts and onto your side:

Fiery Wall of Protection Spells and Supplies
http://www.luckymojo.com/fierywall.html

Fiery Wall of Protection spell wrote:Now prepare the 7 Purple Guardian Candles by carving upon them the names of 7 protectors. These may be 7 Saints, 7 people such as family members or co-workers, or 7 officials such as the Police, Fire Department, Child Protective Services, etc. -- or a combination of names from any of these three groups of entities. Dress the 7 Purple Guardian Candles with Fiery Wall of Protection Dressing Oil.

Use King Solomon Wisdom oil on them, too. Name those purple candles for the police and for your friends and loved ones who keep caving and passing on those nasty messages.

Fiery Wall of Protection spell wrote:Finally, prepare the Black Perpetrator's Candle. With a nail, carve his or her full name (or the "The Evil One") on it on one side and the words "Keep Away" or "Get Away" on the other side. Do not dress this Candle. Place it off to one side, outside the circle of Candles, on top of [her] photo or name-paper. Place the saucer of Graveyard Dirt next to [her] Candle.

Get one of those flat card-magnifiers (see picture below); dress it with Look Me Over oil and place it on her photo.

Dress your own candle and the angelica root with Look Me Over, too, as well as Fiery Wall of Protection.

King Solomon Wisdom spells and supplies
http://www.luckymojo.com/kingsolomonwisdom.html
Look Me Over Spells and Supplies
http://www.luckymojo.com/lookmeover.html

Hope this helps,

Miss Michaele

scarlettrose45 · Unread post by **scarlettrose45** » Mon Oct 07, 2013 11:53 pm

hello , I am new to this forum and I am looking for help with casting a spell for my father issues. For a long time I have felt a void in my life without him. I won't tell the whole story of our relationship as it is so long , but i will tell the basics. My parents were a bad match in every way and had to put it mildly a nightmarish marriage. They divorced when i was just nine years old . My dad then moved across the country to stay with his mom . My father was always an alcoholic but hide it when my parents were married , or I was too young and naive to see it. When he came back where I was living to be near me he started drinking allot more and became emotionally and physically abusive . I could never talk to or rely on him . He would take me with him to bars when I was kid and I had to call my mother to come pick me up .Neither of my parents were really ever there for me , but my dad was absent because he kept moving back with his mother and then back to live near me. I was so lonely growing up . I was bullied relentlessly and had no friends. As if that wasn't bad enough, I would go to places like the grocery store or see parents at school with their children and my heart would ache when i would see a little girl with a loving father hugging her or being affectionate. As the years went on, his drug addiction got worse and he ended up hooked on pain killers as well as alcohol. When i did see him in my teens years he would be emotionally abusive and call me names and ask me for money .I wound up avoiding him because I couldn't take the abuse anymore. In my later teens he moved again to live with his mother this time for good. i didn't realize it at the time , but I was seeking out older men to try and fill that void I had from not having a relationship with my father.In my twenties I went to go live by him on the west coast and stayed with his mother .Moving to be near him turned out to be a grave mistake . Not only was he abusive with harsh words and cuss words, his mother was to me as well. He didn't really seem to want to reconcile he just wanted money from me that i had from a settlement I won. I was trying to be mature and settle the unrest I had in my heart and soul . I just wanted to try and reconnect , so I could heal myself. In the end ,however, I had to leave and return home because three dreams for me died at once. The first dream was to have a decent relationship with my father . the second dream was to live in California . The third was to be with this guy I was seeing at the time . All of those dreams died right before and I had a nervous breakdown.Heartbroken and in intense pain I returned to live with my mother. Anyways, my question is I want help with a spell to either help with our relationship or a spell to attract a father figure . Any help is much appreciated. Sorry if this post is too long .

Unread post by **Miss Aida** » Tue Oct 08, 2013 5:58 am

Good Morning Scarletrose45,
Welcome to the Lucky Mojo forum.
Your story is so sad and my heart goes out to you. I'm so very sorry that your life has been so tough.
My very first impression of your story is that your father is not going to change. Many of us,who have had tough relationships with our parents, keep wishing that: "The next time, it'll be different..." But, it NEVER is. They are who they are.
Obviously, he came from a family who is just the same. It's his upbringing and this is what he knows to be "Normal" for him.
I have 2 suggestions for you: The first being that you seek some professional counseling to help you to overcome this emotional turmoil and conflict. I am not a psychologist but I can tell you that if you don't, you might end up with a man who is EXACTLY like your father: Abusive. Do you really want that?
Our minds play tricks on us when we are not aware of everything that's going on in our hearts. And, this is why it is important for you to grasp and understanding of what is going on inside of you and to get control over it.
Additionally, it would be wise to have a member of AIRR assist you in your root work. The AIRR member can perform a reading, and can perform attraction spells to get the RIGHT MAN into your life. http://readersandrootworkers.org
I hope this helps.
I am praying for you.
PLEASE take care of yourself.

Unread post by **BrotherChristopher** » Tue Oct 08, 2013 7:55 am

Hi Scarletrose45,
I agree with what Miss Aida wrote. You should seek counseling. Meeting with a therapist would be very beneficial, especially if you are willing to do the work the therapist recommends to help yourself.

You might do a simple blessing spell using a white candle, some Blessing Oil or 7-11 Holy oil, and a picture of yourself to bless yourself to help ease your mind and heart of the troubles you have experienced in your childhood. You might make it into an ongoing spell to help yourself as you move forward in life.

You could also hire lucky mojo to burn blessings candles for you

You might also make a prayer request at the Crystal Silence League to pray for you. Prayer is always free at the Crystal Silence League.

Choosing a rootworker from AIRR to assist you in all this, either to burn candles for you, or to help train you in doing the blessing work yourself can also be beneficial.

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Tue Oct 08, 2013 9:46 am

scarlettrose45, that's way too much misery for one life.

You've gotten some good advice from Miss Aida and from brthrchristopher, so I have only a few things to add:

Miss Aida wrote:My very first impression of your story is that your father is not going to change. Many of us,who have had tough relationships with our parents, keep wishing that: "The next time, it'll be different..." But, it NEVER is. They are who they are.

I agree emphatically. You might want to read Robin Norwood's book, Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change, to give you food for thought...

...seek some professional counseling to help you to overcome this emotional turmoil and conflict. ... if you don't, you might end up with a man who is EXACTLY like your father: Abusive. Do you really want that?

You may need to see more than one counselor -- the first one may not be a good fit for you, but keep trying.

brthrchristopher wrote: Meeting with a therapist would be very beneficial, especially if you are willing to do the work the therapist recommends to help yourself.

If you do notice a tendency to self-sabotage, you can fight it with Cast Off Evil, which will not only quell bad habits, but also send bad companions away.

You might do a simple blessing spell using a white candle, some Blessing Oil or 7-11 Holy oil, and a picture of yourself to bless yourself to help ease your mind and heart of the troubles you have experienced in your childhood. You might make it into an ongoing spell to help yourself as you move forward in life.

You could also do some spiritual work -- Say, a series of baths with candles and incense -- to attract a good counselor to you and to discern which one is best for you. Work with Clarity, Healing, and Look Me Over.

Also, St. Dymphna is the patron saint of mental healing, if you wish to work with her.

Hope this helps,

Miss Michaele

scarlettrose45 · Unread post by **scarlettrose45** » Tue Oct 08, 2013 3:06 pm

Thank you everyone for your replies ! Miss Aida , I have been to more then a few therapists and haven't found a match . I have dated my fair share of men who mirrored my father in different ways and I am working on stopping the cycle that goes on for generations .brthrchristopher thank you I will have to try that spell you mentioned . I think that these issues with abandonment run deep and I have bipolar disorder, so perhaps i need a root worker to aid me . Thank you all for your help

Unread post by **Miss Aida** » Wed Oct 09, 2013 6:18 am

Good Morning Scarletrose45,
We are all hoping the very best for you and are praying for you.
Hopefully, you'll also speak to the root worker about also helping you to find the right counselor for you ( as Miss Michaele had suggested)
Please take care of yourself.
We are here for you

Unread post by **Papa Newt** » Wed Oct 09, 2013 6:43 am

Here is the link for the Crystal Silence League. We'll be praying for you!

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Wed Oct 09, 2013 11:01 pm

Excellent, Papa Newt -- I don't know why I didn't think of that

Miss Michaele

Unread post by **Papa Newt** » Thu Oct 10, 2013 4:48 am

It's all good, Miss Michaele! It was mentioned above and wanted to make sure there was a link available.

libbinbelle · Unread post by **libbinbelle** » Thu Oct 10, 2013 1:49 pm

What if you had a mother that hated you and used rootwork to try to:
1. destroy your marriage - found out later when my ex-husband and i compared notes year after the fact - we were talking about getting back together bcause we never stopped loving each other she told him "I burnt your clothes and worked on your picture"
2. destroy your son's future - found out later at a family reunion again he and I compared notes year after the fact things she said - "I burnt your clothes and worked on your picture"
3 told me the same thing, I lose things for no reason, I put it down and look right at it and can't see it, can't keep a good job, money home, family
this is not a health problem, I've asked.
My daughter and I keep trying to have a relationship, just when it gets going well and my life starts improving we keep having confusion and hurt feelings - again for no reason.
I'm tired of years of this

Washing house daily with Chinese wash, using green, pink, red 7 day candles for money, love road opening

I have a picture of mother and her old property, she's deceased, want to burn it over 35th psalm with jinx killer oil on it and burn dragonsblood incense over me my family.

Dont have the money for long term footwork - keep working on income work, dribbles in and out.

Any help appreciated, I'll do the work, just don't know what to do to make things get and stay better again.

Unread post by **Miss Aida** » Thu Oct 10, 2013 4:29 pm

Hello, Libbinbelle,
I'm so sorry. It's just horrible when one's own Mother has treated her children this way.
It's just a terrible feeing of betrayal that last your entire lifetime. My heart goes out to you
Just want to make sure that I have this right as I'm a little confused. Who's deceased? Your mother who put spells on you?
Are we talking about a live or deceased person who has continued to bring about bad luck for you?

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Thu Oct 10, 2013 8:50 pm

Get an Uncrossing kit or at least some Uncrossing oil and/or a 13 herb bath. You might also try Tibetan Ghost purging incense.

http://www.luckymojo.com/tibetanghostpu ... cense.html

There is also a book titled Ghost Symptoms: Break the Spell and Be Well that Lucky Mojo sells. It deals with ghosts of relatives that are causing trouble.

Unread post by **Susan Barnes** » Fri Oct 11, 2013 10:10 am

http://www.luckymojo.com/tibetanghostpu ... cense.html

There is also a book titled Ghost Symptoms: Break the Spell and Be Well that Lucky Mojo sells. It deals with ghosts of relatives that are causing trouble." Mama Micki.

I agree with what Mama Micki said.
The Tibetan Ghost Purging Incense would be ideal for this situation.

Blessings to you!

poeticone · Unread post by **poeticone** » Fri Dec 13, 2013 12:06 pm

My mother is extremely negative. I do not live with her, but my boyfriend desperately wants her acceptance. She hates him though, to the point where I have not even admitted we are back together.

Basically he is tired of "hiding" and we are discussing marriage. He does not want the strain of "hiding" from her.

I have her hair (a lot of it, actually, from a hair brush she left when she came to visit) and am thinking a honey jar would be a good start. I need to sweeten her to my boyfriend more so than me, so I'm wondering if I should get his hair and mix it with hers in the honey jar?

I have influence oil. I think I need to get peaceful home and perhaps reconciliation (once upon a time she did approve of him?) Also, I'm thinking a white skull candle.

Any help would be great. Thanks!

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Sat Dec 14, 2013 12:29 pm

Poeticone, that all sounds good. This is likely to be a long-term project, though, so be prepared to burn a series of skull candles.

For the honey jar, I'd recommend some herbs (all available from Lucky Mojo, of course):

White Mustard Seeds
http://herb-magic.com/mustard-seed-white.html
Tonka Beans (Love Wishing Beans) (since this is a love wish)
http://www.herb-magic.com/tonka-bean.html
Rose Petals
http://www.herb-magic.com/rose-petals.html
Rosemary Leaves -- and make sure you instruct them to serve you.
http://www.herb-magic.com/rosemary.html
Patchouli Leaves
http://herb-magic.com/patchouli-leaf.html

I'd also recommend some close-contact work -- get your boyfriend to track Influence Oil into her house; sprinkle Influence Powder where she'll have to step in it (or over it: fold a pinch into a petition paper and tuck it under her doormat). Better yet, a gift of fixed food! If she's suspicious of homemade dishes, get a box of chocolates -- go someplace like See's, where you can pick out your own selection and therefore the box won't be shrink-wrapped. Then rub your hands with your chosen oils, lay them over the top layer of chocolates, and state your intent.

Do the same to the outside of the box, so that by the time it occurs to her to be suspicious, it's too late.

Best of luck,

Miss Michaele

Unread post by **rev.jordan** » Sat Dec 21, 2013 1:42 pm

Hi all,

My friend recently moved back home after graduating college. She's 23, and has always been kind of sheltered and dependent on others (she doesn't have her license yet, although she's working on it).

At college she was able to be pretty independent, but since she's moved home her mother has started to dominate her life -- she won't let her out to see friends except for church on Sunday and a few hours afterwards. Because she doesn't have a car, she hasn't been able to get her mother to take her job hunting (her mom keeps her busy with housework day in and day out) -- although they complain about her not having one yet! Instead, she's been forced to babysit her niece on the weekends and on weekdays to help prepare her mother's house to be sold.

She's now never free, and going crazy while her mom is on an emotional, downward spiral. At the same time, she can't exactly just "leave home" -- she's dependent on them for medical expenses related to juvenile arthritis.

Any suggestions for helping her?

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sat Dec 21, 2013 5:14 pm

Has she talked with her mother, well actually this should have happened before she returned home in terms of expectations, what she needed or expected from her mom to move forward with her life. She must remember this relationship did not start the day she returned home, it was ongoing. So first steps is to talk to her mother. Sounds like she may need some courage to do that, Curicible of Courage spiritual products are used to increase one's personal determination, courage, and bravery.

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Sat Dec 21, 2013 7:57 pm

Obskultus, I agree with jwmcclin: Your friend definitely needs Crucible of Courage.

She also needs Peaceful Home -- and I'm tempted to recommend Boss Fix -- kind of "off-label," but remember the American children's battle cry, "You're not the boss of me!" Or maybe Influence would be a better choice.

If your friend gets dragooned into cooking, equip her with the complete set of Hoodoo Food booklets and a nice bottle of delicious, lovingly crafted, garlicky Four Thieves Vinegar. (I will never forget the day when they were making a batch while I was at Lucky Mojo. I wanted to drink it all!)

She can spike cleaning supplies with Do As I Say Bath Crystals (diluted in water for water based products, or dry into detergent powder or powdered cleanser).

You can find everything on the Lucky Mojo Complete Inventory page -- http://www.luckymojo.com/lucky-mojo-inventory.html -- and order everything right there. Most of the item titles are clickable, so you can read more about them while you make up your mind.

Best of luck,

Miss Michaele

lovingu · Unread post by **lovingu** » Fri Dec 27, 2013 11:39 am

I need help with a delicate situation that has been causing me much pain and heartache for years.

My dad blatantly favors my older sister over me. Shame on a parent for favoring one child over another when you should love your kids unconditionally. My dad is an old military guy, quiet, not much talk on feelings or anything. I believe he favors my sister more because she had/has more of the "cookie cutter" life than I did/do. She did the in and out of college in four years, got married, had kids, good job that she worked her way up the company, etc. I also graduated college in more than four years because I also wanted to work, I am not married, no kids, I have a very good job and am successful in what I do.

When talking about family to other people, my dad brags about my sister and doesn't even mention me. He has helped my greedy sister and her money hungry, greedy husband for many years, helping them get a home, getting them a very expensive luxury car, bailing them out when they had to shortsell their home, etc. There are countless situations and these are just the ones I know of.

My dad lies to me and keeps things secret when it comes to this stuff. It is just so weird, so strange, as if he is hypnotized. Even other friends have pointed out to me how they noticed how my dad treats me versus my sister. It is humiliating, and most of all hurtful. Maybe he holds a grudge over mistakes I've made in the past, but my sister has made mistakes too. So why do I get this treatment? I have done it all by myself, no help on getting my house, financials, etc. I am the one who helps my dad with anything he needs, and get no credit for it. My sister and brother in law just take take take and my dad asks them for nothing. So it's like I do all the work and they get awarded. I'm not looking for a reward, but just to be treated like a daughter. He would help my brother in law with anything long before he would help me.

My sister and I are polar opposites, I am Aquarius and she is a Leo. A thin line between love and hate is not only for significant other love, but also applies to family. I have never met anyone before that could be just as greedy as they are cheap. I have stopped trying to bring things up and talk about them because I am immediately shot down by her defense. Even if I am right about situations where she takes advantage of my dad she still won't hear me out. There is always a running joke about my dad being on the payroll of my sister, that's how much he helps her family out. I am always forced to be the bigger person just to get through any given situation. But after a while it builds up and it just keeps layer more pain on top of previous pain.

My brother in law and my sister know that they have my dad wrapped around their fingers and that he will drop everything to help them, but with me he would have to check his schedule. It is a significant lack of respect that my dad has for me, as if I just don't matter. I could be talking about a topic, but then if my sister or brother in law was talking about it now all of a sudden it becomes interesting to my dad. My dad is often short or rude to me, but would never talk to or treat my sister or brother in law that way, but more on the side of kissing up to them. It makes no sense. It is so ridiculous, so many situations like that.

My mom passed away, but my dad was like that with me and my sister when she was alive too. My mom did love me unconditionally like a parent should.

With my laid back nature, I have truly endured so much over the years, tolerated things, not speaking up to cause waves but just walking away feeling hurt and angry. Over the years, many times I have considered to just walk away because I deserve to be happy too, and if it were friends or co workers that we're hurting you this much you would just walk away and remove yourself from the situation. So why should it be any different if it's your family.....that's what makes it so difficult. My friend always tells me, why don't you just say something to your dad, but it's not that easy. He is not a communicator, and how do I delicately say any of this to him. My dad is old school, he is in his late seventies, set in his ways.

I would like some help with spiritual supplies and spells to reach the following goals:

1) I want to do a honey jar to sweeten him to me and a realization candle spell to have him open his eyes and see that he has another daughter too, to look at all that I have accomplished in my life on my own no help, and that I just haven't been lucky enough yet to meet someone to marry and have kids with.

2) I also want to do a candle separation spell to make my sister and brother in law and my dad's relationship not be close, and a candle togetherness to make my dad and me relationship closer.

3) At some point I need to move on with or without my family, and surround myself with only people that respect me, recognize me, and unconditionally love me.