Spells for Ex-Lover Ex-Spouse to Return Reconcile Reunite

[JayDee]

AJoshua,

I moved your post from the Skull area to the Reconciliation, because I believe it actually fits better here, I also wanted to bring you to a page where you can read 107 pages of post, questions and answers. I also wanted to move it so I can discuss with you some of the pitfalls of the reconciliation work that people fall into.

In this post you state I want him back but would not at first. This is counterintuitive to the work of Reconciliation, when we do work and set parameters, "I want you back but first you must do this", it adds an extra layer to the work, now this must happen to lead to the next thing. Also it does not make sense, if the goal is to go from X to Y, then the clearest path is a straight line, why add more steps. On an emotional level I understand what you are saying, you want him to be ready, you to be ready. On a magical level, what does it matter, why add a stipulation?

My advice to you is similar to the prior post, to sit down and think about what you want, write it out clearly, then do work that matches that. Do not worry about the day to day, the micro level, focus on the macro goal of the overall outcome and desire, then do work that supports thats.

There is a great book on Reconciliation spells I highly suggest for you as well.

BOO-GRI-HRRS
Hoodoo Return and Reconciliation Spells by Deacon Millett
$12.00





You can order right here in the Forum by clicking on the blue Add To Cart button.

For more information, see: http://www.luckymojo.com/hoodooreturnan ... pells.html

[CuriousChris]

Will my reconciliation Spell be more Powerful if I cast my spell on his birthday? Is there a chance that he will feel the effects more deeply?

[JayDee]

CuriousChris,

Working with specific dates, times of the day, seasons can enhance work based on the connection to them. For example setting a candle on a Friday (day of love), in thee hour of Venus (planet of love), during a waxing moon ( to increase love), as the sun rises (to draw things to you) and the hands of the clock are going upward ( to draw things to you). These are all examples of working with a time of day and other astrological movements.

Is working a spell on a person on their birthday making a spell effect them more deeply? I am not sure if it increases it, but it certainly is a good day to set work since it means something to you and the former lover.

JayDee

[Lav1]

I’m wondering what can be done to heal a marriage with no communication for 2 weeks. A lot has happened and mainly awful words spoken to one another. This marriage needs forgiveness but the husband is very hard hearted and stubborn. He has blocked all calls, interference from others, but want healing and restoration, husband needs to acknowledge his wrongdoing.

[JayDee]

Lav1,

That is a very common request in hoodoo, probably one of the most requested, next to cursing. The spells to do that I would suggest are very common and posted on this thread over and over again.

The one issue I have with this is one I often have when I hear a person who requests reconciliation, say "I want him back..BUT."

The "but" is always the issue that holds up the work. It adds another condition to the work before it will manifest, because not only do you want them to communicate, reach out, and come back, but you say you "need" them to acknowledge their wrongdoing. I personally prefer to keep the work direct to the intention and true desire at heart, in this case make them reunite again in love.

Spells that accomplish this include:

A honey jar to sweeten them together: add Deers Tongue Herb for communication, Rose for love, Rosemary for women power, Balm of Gilead buds for reconciliation.

A moving candle spell of the husband and wife: both candles are dressed in Return to Me, Come to Me and Reconciliation oil, move them closer and closer over 7 days as you pray Psalms 23 and 32 over them.

There is a great book produced by Lucky Mojo on this subject:

"Hoodoo Return and Reconciliation Spells" by Deacon Millett:
https://www.luckymojo.com/hoodooreturna ... pells.html

These are the oils, incenses, powders, and bath crystals, with free spells on their pages:

Return to Me: https://www.luckymojo.com/returntome.html
Come to Me: https://www.luckymojo.com/cometome.html
Reconciliation:https://www.luckymojo.com/reconciliation.html

These Lucky Mojo spell kits comes with every thing you need to do the work as well:

Reconciliation Spell Kit: https://www.luckymojo.com/spell-reconciliation.html
Reconciliation Honey Jar Spell Kit: https://www.luckymojo.com/honey-jar-spe ... ation.html

JayDee

[catherineyronwode]

Lav1,

JayDee gave you great advice and links to free spells, a book, and two spell kits -- but the most important thing he said, in my opinion, was when he noted that there is a hurdle that you have imposed in the work. You wrote:

"This marriage needs forgiveness"
BUT
The "husband needs to acknowledge his wrongdoing"

That "BUT" came at the end of your petition, and that, as JayDee noted, is illogical, because what you want is this:

Acknowledgement of wrongdoing
THEN
Forgiveness

Just like JayDee, i can tell you from my experience that when my clients say they want "forgiveness BUT" and then say that they "need" something to be done IN ADDITION to forgiveness, they have the timing backwards. They are thinking, but perhaps not saying is, "What i need must come FIRST, and only THEN will forgiveness be extended."

Having straightened out the time-sequence (apology first, forgiveness later), let's deal with that pesky word "NEEDS." Who needs what?

The marriage "needs" nothing (it has dissolved, for now).

The husband "needs" nothing (he's gone, for now).

So who has a "NEED"? The wife, apparently.

Let us then place the wife and the husband into the equation:

The husband MUST acknowledge his wrongdoing
THEN
The wife will offer forgiveness

So, rather than start in on a Return and Reconcile spell, you now have two choices:

1) Forget the demand for an apology and just work on the return and reconciliation spell.
or
2) Demand the apology as a condition for proceeding with the return and reconciliation spell.

Because demands for apologies are justice spells more than love spells, they have their own thread at the Forum. You can read more about them and participate in discussing such spells here:

Spells to Bring Out Truth, Force a Confession or Admission of Error, Remorse, Apology
spells-to-bring-out-truth-force-a-confe ... t4746.html

I hope this helps

[Lav1]

I guess I’m not wording my question correctly on this forum, for it is always misinterpreted.

“The marriage needs forgiveness but the husband is very hard hearted and stubborn”, meaning they both need to forgive each other, however, the wife is more willing and the husband holds grudges. Basically they both need to forgive themselves and each other.
The other BUT, I’m only implying the wife wants to work it out. She wants healing and restoration for her marriage and I believe the husband does also, however, needs time.
So, with that being said, do all of the above still apply?
Thank you.

[JayDee]

Lav1,

The wording is incredibly important in the question you ask, the petitions you write, and the words you speak as you do the work. Words are intention, and words are power. The success of your work can easily come down to the language.

Reconciliation products are made specifically to foster forgiveness, in the Bible, Balm of Gilead buds were known for healing wounds, it was referenced as having healing properties.

Look at the label of Balm of Gilead Buds to learn about how they heal: https://www.herbmagic.com/balm-of-gilead.html

This is absolutely the first place I would start to foster forgiveness, along with a honey jar which sweetens people together.

JayDee

[Pbaby]

So I have been seeing this guy off and on for a while. I met him when I was 18 and he chose me I did not choose him. I took him for a joke.

Life goes on I end up getting arrested and doing some time. And he looked out for me came home and I lost contact for years so I ended up having a baby by someone else. When we were dealing with each other I was very hesitant to open up to let him in because I felt like he had to work for that which she does right. However things happen and he has other friends where he lives at and I had other friends where I stay at.

However fast forward 3 years our relationship really hasn't been able to get anywhere there are a lot of people that are envious of our relationship. I am the plain Jane he is another side. So I did get a reading from your network. And I was told that he basically was looking in a different direction.

And to be honest with you in my heart of hearts I feel that I should not let go so easily. I've tried to let go of put it to the side let it go pray about it. We're still here so what I did was I made an offering to Oshun to help my relationship.

The offering was done earlier that day that night when I drove to go spend time with him we had the best time ever! He opened up and was showing me a totally different side and I did too I was able to relax which we always did but he was more vocal he expressed how he really felt about me. But he does have a friend and I have not put myself in that position to dominate either due to me being in my own head.

And Oshun accepted the offering and she said a good relationship will be coming soon. So that's what I'm waiting on.

I did do a honey bath. Where you get honey and after you bathe in the shower you take the honey from the top of your head all the way down to the soles of your feet you don't miss anything. And then you take rose petals and you shower yourself with them in the shower and while you're doing that you envision that person or if you don't have anyone in mind a person to bring to you like the petals are them showering you with love. And then after you complete that and rinse off you take the rose petals and you don't leave them in your home you bury them outside or take them somewhere. And then you let go.

So, I seen him last Thursday we communicate a little bit on the phone but I really don't press it. Now this Love that I feel for this man is not a crazy deranged love no. The way I feel about him is I cherish his time if I'm with him I treat it as if he's a gift to me I do not possess him and I love them and he verbally expressed that he loves me. However, I want to enhance that relationship. At least get my shot!

I was told there are ppl envious of our relationship. The few that know. But in all reality maybe none of this should even matter.

What's the whole point in praying and magic and all of this is to enhance your life right?

Do you believe there are people out there who are destined to never have good luck who are just destined to be in a pit for the rest of their life and always be the second one?

[JayDee]

Pbaby,

Your post is a bit scattered in that it is addressing a work you did and then asking why we pray.

Doing an offering to Oshun is not Hoodoo, that is Santeria, which is a religion and a magical practice. The work and offering you did is likely taught by a person in that magical/religious field, probably a priest or priestess, and that question should be asked of them to help get clarification.

Hoodoo is a form of folk magic, not a religion. Lucky Mojo does sell Hoodoo spiritual supplies.

Why do we pray? Because God instructs us to pray for all our needs, to lean unto him and ask him for his guidance, because God is the ultimate decider.

People jealous of the relationship, I would freeze them out.
Freezer Spells:https://www.luckymojo.com/freezer.html

I would also work with Stop Gossip to stop the slander and interference.
Stop Gossip Spells: https://www.luckymojo.com/products-stop-gossip.html

I personally do not believe that "there are people out there who are destined to never have good luck who are just destined to be in a pit for the rest of their life" -- getting people to a good place is why we do the work we do.

A few products I suggest for your specific situation with this man are Reconciliation, Return to Me, and Stay With Me.
Reconciliation: https://www.luckymojo.com/reconciliation.html
Return to Me: https://www.luckymojo.com/returntome.html
Stay With Me : https://www.luckymojo.com/staywithme.html

JayDee

[Pbaby]

Well well to be honest with you sir, the night I had the offering done I went to see him. And we had a wonderful night. But I don't see us growing any closer. The offering was to make our relationship stronger and to come closer. Like I said he lives in one city and I stay 45 minutes away. So sometimes I reach out to him on messenger he'll reach back out. But as far as us like we were before no. Right now to tell you the truth Jay, I would love to put money into it but I just don't have the funds. And it's really hard for me right now. He's financially able but he doesn't know my struggles and I don't want to say anything to him because I'm scared of rejection or maybe he'll say no. Because we're not like we were but we express how we love each other when we are with each other and you can definitely see it. But I do think he is comfortable with the way I relationship is. And I am not. My whole plan was to try to get something to help me move a little long so that when I can expand I can do more. But it seems slow. So maybe I should just pray more that was basically my question. Should I just pray to Ocean. Or try something else, maybe get your church to light a candle in the meantime until resources are available for me to do what I need to do.

[JayDee]

Pbaby,

You can have candles set at the MISC to burn for your cause.

You can also buy some of the Lucky Mojo books or courses to learn about how to do the work, and do it on your own.

In your situation I suggest these books and courses.

Books:
Hoodoo Return and Reconciliation Spells:
https://www.luckymojo.com/hoodooreturna ... pells.html
Hoodoo Honey and Sugar Spells:
https://www.luckymojo.com/hoodoohoneyan ... pells.html
Bottle Up and Go:
https://www.luckymojo.com/bottleupandgo.html
Down-Home Sex Magic:https://www.luckymojo.com/downhomesexmagic.html

Videos:
Down-home Sex Magic, Miss Cat:
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Doll-magic for love or harm, Rev Jon Saint Germain:
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Hoodoo Dolls and Effigies, Miss Cat:
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JayDee

[Afua]

I started a skull candle spell to reconcile with my ex-boyfriend. I started with divination (Hoodoo Tarot) and wrote down everything in my journal. I used

1. Cleo May, roses, lavender, and Come to Me for love & peace
2. Healing incense and shi shi powder for healing, removing obstacles/blockages
3. 7 African Powers, High John the Conqueror, Dragon’s Blood, and Licorice Root for domination/power
4. Cinnamon and ginger to speed things up
5. Damiana so he only thinks of me/lusts for me
6. Bay leaf with my intentions, wrote his name on the bottom and mine on top. I put it in the bottom of the skull candle with a personal concern of his and sealed it back with wax.
7. Mercury oil and Deer’s Tongue for communication
8. Two white candles carved with protection intentions & a pink Himalayan salt ring for protection

I carved the thoughts I want him to have into the red skull candle, along with his full name and birthday. I spoke to “him” for about 20-30 minutes then started to re-work my honey jar. The right side of the candle burned down to the neck, through the eye, and hollowed out the candle. However, the left side (aside from the top of the skull) is somewhat intact.

I wanted advice on how to proceed:

Can I bury the skull candle remnants in my houseplant and continue to work the honey jar with a 7-day candle, or will I have to restart?

Thanks so much <3

[catherineyronwode]

Hello, Afua,

You did very thorough work. I think that burying the spell remnants in a potted plant is a great idea. A honey jar, once made, need not be worked with a candle (it is a spell unto itself), but if you do use a candle, i suggest a smaller one, like a 4" altar light, instead of a large, glass-encased vigil light.This photo explains what i mean:



The question of "having to redo a spell" comes up here quite often. I consider it only necessary to re-make a spell if it went seriously off-the-rails -- caught something on fire, was eaten by your pets, fell to the floor and broke -- but if you were not satisfied with that skull candle's burn, you might wait one Moon cycle and try it again. Candle burns may be accepted as divinations or forecasts about the outcome of the spell -- and, as such, it is your option to re-make them for a do-over. See my book "The Art of Hoodoo Candle Magic" for a bit more on the balance between "reading candles" and "saving bad burns." It is a philosophical question, not a matter of rule-making, and the decision is yours alone.

[Afua]

Catherine,

Thank you so much for your response! In that case I will bury the candle and leave the honey jar alone. I will work my 7-day candle, do you have any suggestions regarding how to proceed? It is a red candle and I have personal concerns of his, with herbs.

[catherineyronwode]

Afua,

Dress the glass-encased candle with Love Herbs Mic or Love Uncrossing Herbs, and a few drops of Return to Me Oil and Reconciliation Oil.Set your loved one's photo near it in a frame -- or, better yet, a photo of the two of you together. Pray for reconciliation and return, light the candle, and let it burn.

[Afua]

Hello,

I did a reconciliation ritual form a recent ex & the flame on my 7 day red candle was extremely low. After doing tarot card divination I determined there were blockages/obstacles that needed to be removed, so I blew out the red candle and worked a double action 7 day candle instead (half black half red). I’ve seen amazing activity in the flame, it’s been strong for the past few days and I speak to it on occasion but am trying to detach. There’s about a day or so of black candle left and I want to know what I can say/do/speak to my candle to further encourage reconciliation & removing any crossing between my ex and I. A rose incense? A prayer? I’ve been doing Psalm 23 in the morning and Psalm 32 at night, with brief prayers to my ancestors/spirits for guidance and protection.

[JayDee]

Afua,

Blowing out a candle means the work is finished. Dont blow out a candle unless you are not going to use it anymore, always put it out like snuffing it. Some people let the candle burn as is and accept a bad burn, others work the candle, such as adding a hole to let the wax run into and give the wick some breaking, or double wick it etc. This is called working the candle to increase the desires you want.

Reversing candle as this, is conducted to remove curses or crossed conditions and bring the love. A strong flame indicates it is working. Keep the work up. I would follow it with a Reconciliation candle after you removed the cursed or crossed conditions.

Psalms 23 and 32 are traditionally recited together in reconciliation work.

A great asset to this work is Lucky Mojo's book Return to Me and Reconciliation Spells. https://www.luckymojo.com/hoodooreturna ... pells.html

JayDee

[Afua]

JayDee,

Thank you so much for your response! Yes, I only blew out the 7-day red candle, which had the low flame. I’m currently on the double action candle (half black half red) and am nearly done with the black half. The flame hasn’t gone out at all. However there is a bit of wax residue on some parts of the glass, and rings in some areas. Otherwise it’s a very clean burn. I was wondering if I should get a reading done after the candle has completed or is the bit of residue nothing to worry about?

[JayDee]

Afua,

When reading a candle for signs you must consider-
The environment, is there a breeze or a wind blowing? Is the temperature stable not too hot or cold to affect the burn?
Dressing- did you add too much oil or herb that would cause a fire on the candle to burn more than normal?
Directionality- where and how is it burning, where is it moving, where is it not, and how is the flame?

Reading a candle is an art with a science, it is a skill. Miss cats book "The Art of Hoodoo Candle Magic", covers many of these questions: https://www.luckymojo.com/theartofhoodo ... magic.html

Should you get a reading? If you have questions about the burn and the next steps to take in the work then I highly suggest a reading before investing in more spells. A reading gives us guidance not only on how the work will go, but what work to do.

AIRR: https://www.readersandrootworkers.org/w ... ootworkers
Hoodoo Psychics: https://www.hoodoopsychics.com/

JayDee

[Loveli]

Is there a spell, candle, or patron saint to help an ex regret breaking up with you?

[JayDee]

Loveli,

There are spells to make a person return to you, forgive you, and reconcile with you. If the only goal is to make them regret breaking up with you, I would work a skull candle as you pray over it to make the person think of you constantly.

If your real desire is for them to reconcile, I would opt for Reconciliation products.
Reconciliation: https://www.luckymojo.com/bath-reconciliation.html

If you want to torment them, you may want to use Intranquility products.
Intranquil: https://www.luckymojo.com/intranquility.html

JayDee

[Meg84]

Hi

I have been trying to get an ex back and I’ve used a couple candle spells.. one was a red skull candle to try to get him to think of me and the other is a “come to me” candle.

I bought both off Amazon and I don’t honestly know what I’m doing. I am a complete noob just looking for some direction .

My goal is to get my ex to think of me and come back to me.

I am just looking for something simple and easy for a beginner.

Thanks!

~M

[catherineyronwode]

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[Meg84]

Thank you!!

[Meg84]

Thank you!!

[MrsSchaeffer]

Good afternoon everyone ! My situation needs a bit of background.

My son and I are presently living with his father. Alot happened for us to wind up here.

Before I went over, I had a call with one of my AIRR readers and asked him why this was happening. He told me that my ex wanted me back. I was confused because he told our son he didn't want to reconcile with me (which is part of the reason I agreed to stay at his place). But then the first night I was here, he told me he loved me. He has never said those words to me before. EVER. It kept me up the first night.

I think I am scared because an old friend of mine caused our breakup by cursing me out of jealousy. Our relationship was fine before and he was choosing rings to propose with. The curse is over, but I say Psalms for protection daily because she did a lot of damage before I realized what she did (she's out of both of our lives).

I have some candles burning from my AIRR reader for love between us because I want a new beginning and reconciliation (is that a paradox?). However, it's hard for me to do any blatant spellwork in his house. What can I do in the form of tricks (I will put my MB in his food once it comes again) since he's at work all day to get us to reconcile? I have access to everything of his and a lot of Lucky Mojo oils. Thank you!

[JayDee]

MrsSchaeffer2020,

1. Dress items he will touch with the oil after you prayed over it with the intention.

2. Add the oils to soap, body wash, and shampoo/conditioner after you pray over it.

3. Buy the Reconciliation bath crystals, take a bath in them, save a cup, and add the water to the rinse cycle of his laundry to get the Reconciliation.

4. Take a bath in love herbs, save some of the water and add it to his food you prepare, a tiny bit goes along way.

5. Recite Psalms 23 and 32 daily and ask for reconciliation.



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[doghouse74]

Hello I have a horrible problem going on.

A very short explanation:

My girlfriend and i have been going through some crazy stuff where someone or more than one person has been terrorizing her and the kids house for several years now. These people have joyridden in the car, knocked on the side of the house, have entered the house on occasions leaving little clues they were there and once she seen someone staring at her and the kids in the middle of the night whispering hey hey.

She blamed it on me (i slept on the couch because i don't sleep well and the kids were in there watching a movie ) because it couldn't be explained any other way or it was the easiest way to explain it. It was definitely not me. she's my soulmate i wouldn't dream of anything like that,we've talked about someones trying to set me up many times.

Being blamed hurt me and made me angry i guess and we fought a lot but we stayed together and the crazy stuff continued sporadically even after i moved out but we still stayed together and I supported her with everything i could.

We tried several things to stop it and to find out who it is with nothing good enough for the police, its driven her kinda crazy and angry and i don't blame her but she has taken that anger out on me a lot over the years and embarrassingly i got callous and cold over it for awhile because of it, the problem is i really tried to put the hurt and fighting aside and wanted to really work on try to save our relationship and our lives back on track and figure out a way to stop this and get help for our trauma.

She started freaking out for a couple weeks now after i started to try to change and she now wants to break up and thinks I'm the one doing these weird things because I've been really nice to her and not arguing when she tries to and she thinks that I'm trying to trick her by being nice and trying to smooth things out and I'm lost. She says she loves me or at least will not say she doesn't when she's mad and trying to be mean which i guess is hopeful. She even said she was my soulmate the day before she said she wanted to separate out of the blue.

We've been through a lot but I want to work it out. Ive done spells in the past way before this stuff and they helped and she came back to me.

I just wanted to see anything i can do

1. to help catch whoever is doing this and

2. have us back together so we can heal.

I know I am not and wasn't perfect but I do regret it and I know she's a good person and wasn't trying to be a bad person either we both deserve a break. I know I'm leaving a lot out and its kinda rambling sorry I'm just shook up.

[JayDee]

doghouse74,

What you are describing sounds like a mental health issue, where a person is convinced people are stalking them, watching them, sneaking in their house playing tricks. This is called gang stalking, and it a delusional experience. It cannot be treated magically it is only treated medically. You can read some similar stories on the post I am listing and you will see a similar comparison.

Read page 16: post433961.html?hilit=paranoid#p433961

Another great page with info: spells-for-mental-health-anxiety-panic- ... 24409.html

Love wise you can do a Reconciliation spell or Stay With Me spell.

Reconciliation: https://www.luckymojo.com/reconciliation.html
Stay With Me: https://www.luckymojo.com/staywithme.html

JayDee

[doghouse74]

Jaydee ,

Thanks for the help, I know that it sounds crazy. I blew it off as crazy to and most of it is I believe, but some things I can't explain like the car, taking pics of the odometer on the car at night and the miles change by morning, someone was seen in the house by her and the kids also, and the pounding on the side of the house heard by all of them, i could go on but its too much to get into.

It could be a creepy stalker or one of the girls doing kids stuff (but they never seemed the type) or something else.

I try to keep a level head but some things I cant explain as overactive imagination.

I know she is paranoid but I think life has helped. I just was looking to see if there was any ideas that might help.

I'm going to start a honey jar for a start trying to get her back. Thanks again for your help.

[doghouse74]

With my above crazy situation , I've ordered reconciliation vigil candle and reconciliation honey jar and reconciliation triple mojo hand is there any other ideas that might help me get through to her that anyone can think of or is that enough to start?

[Ninaarana]

Hello everyone and anyone, I would love some advice for this situation I've been dealing with with my long term partner.

We've been together nearly ten years and the love is there, but we've gone through a cycle around 2-3 times now where he gets antsy and distracted by other women. In all honesty this last breakup we suffered was also my fault- I have a much lower sex drive than he does and I was made uncomfortable by how much he wanted us to explore outside the home after previous issues, so I ignored when he'd try to talk to me about it and how we interacted in our bed. He ended up being unfaithful and now we're no longer living together. He claims he doesn't want a relationship and wants to "do his own thing"... which just means sleep with other women.

I've offered to radically change my outlook on exploring together and focusing on being a better partner overall, but he's refusing to listen, come home, or allow me a chance to reconcile the way we usually have.

We resent each other now for a handful of pretty large things, but I still love and want to share my life with him. When he decides to not be a hound and focus on us, he's perfect.

Rootwork wise, I have a clay poppet of him that I handmade years ago that's gotten me very good results whenever I've had to pull it out and work on it. It's got his clothes on, my menses in its veins and his hair in its head, and I feed it regularly from a honey jar that's also been working for years. I have a few of his socks, shirt and pair of underwear or two that he left, and a ton of leftover hair. He's also recently imbibed my menses unknowingly (has been for years) and now I have a new tool, his semen, which I'd always forgotten to collect and use before. I'm trying to decide how best to use it to assert my will to end this separation ASAP before he does too much to piss me off.

I would like to know how to best use the resources I've already cultivated to force him home, keep him from being able to engage sexually with other women, and make him listen to and accept my words when I say that I'm willing to do what I need to to make him and I happy again. He's jaded and resentful but he knows I'm telling the truth. I can usually force him back eventually, but it takes a while and I've been less than successful with tying his nature and keeping him away from other girls. He's been with a few in the times we've been apart.

I'm sorry this is so long! Please help me out if you can. Thank you!

[catherineyronwode]

Hello, Ninaarana,

Thanks for explaining your situation in full. I want to address certain portions of it before looking at the entirety. I will make them into a bullet-pointed list.

* You've been together nearly ten years.
* You have a much lower sex drive than he does.
* 2-3 times [every 3 to 5 years?] he has gotten "antsy" [a lower-animal euphemism for his wanting sexual contact] and "distracted by other women" [you seem to be blaming other women -- perhaps more highly sexed women -- for distracting him from you rather than acknowledging that he is actively, not distractedly, seeking sex].
* "When he decides to not be a hound" [a lower animal euphemism for his sex-seeking, plus an embedded premise that he "decides" to seek sex as an act of intellectual will rather than being intuitively and instinctively a sexual being] "he's perfect" [when he matches your sex drive, you have nothing to complain about].
* You were "made uncomfortable by how much he wanted us to explore outside the home" [but how uncomfortable is he made by his unsatisfied sexual desires in the home?]

You portray him as an antsy hound exploring outside the home and being distracted by other women -- which makes you uncomfortable -- and you wish to return him to the home where his behaviour is perfect when he's not asking for sex, but sits quietly, starved for contact.

This dominating way of relating to a partner's sex drive is not uncommon. As a reader and rootworker, i see it often.

Both men and women may form emotional, spiritual, and financial attachments to people whose sex drives do not match theirs.

* Those who are attached to lovers with higher sex drives than theirs may attempt to effectively castrate their lovers with magic. In fact, tying a partner's nature -- restraining the partner's libido for one's own convenience -- is one of the more common classes of magic, and you have been working it for years, with the clay doll -- a very well made one, as you described it.
* The opposite situation is common as well. People attached to lovers with lower sex drives than theirs also use magic to try to bring their partners up to their level, enflaming them to want sex more often, or with more enthusiastic participation. This too can be worked with a doll.
* Sometimes the disparity in sex drives was caused by one person's trauma or inappropriate upbringing and can be healed or modified by spiritual and psychological therapy, resolving the disparity.
* Sometimes one partner play-acts (either at sexual enthusiasm or at sexual fidelity) and the partnership or marriage continues despite the compartmentalization and sequestration of the sex drive, keeping it separate from the emotional, spiritual, and financial attachments.

If therapy was not indicated and play-acting is undesired or unsuccessful, the disparity in desire always reasserts itself repeatedly and in time the one person's desire for sex or the other person's desire for less or no sex will drive them apart. I think this is where the two of you are right now.

This is the point where magical decisions will be made about how much domination work will be undertaken.

* I have known people who actively and successfully used magic to deaden their partners' sexuality to stop them running around.
* I have known people who actively and successfully used magic to ignite their partner's sexuality to please them in the home.
* I have known people who actively and successfully used magic to ignite their own sexuality to please their partner in the home.
* I have known people who actively and successfully used magic to bamboozle their partners for years so that they can run around unsuspected and unobserved.
* I have known people who actively and successfully used magic to bamboozle their partners into thinking that they enjoy sex when in fact they are only engaging in it for emotional and financial advantage.
* I have known people who actively and successfully used magic to adjust to their partner having outside lovers and prevent the outside lovers from ever becoming powerful enough to infringe upon the home life.
* I have known people who actively and successfully used magic to initiate polyamorous situations in which all partners were equal in power.
* I have known people who actively and successfully used magic to tone down a love affair or marriage to friendship level, and part from intimate company while remaining deep friends or financial partners.

So i think that rather than "give you a spell," because you seem quite intelligent and well versed in magic, i would like you to take a moment and consider your goals ... and there may be other goals i have not even mentioned.

When you have a specific goal, ask me for a spell.

[Ninaarana]

Hi Miss Catherine,

Thank you for replying to me so quickly and giving my situation a preliminary examine. Please let me clarify so that my desires can be a bit more clear.

At this point, I would like to:

1. Compel him to open his ears and listen to me/obey when I ask him to come back to me as my boyfriend, as well as believe me when I say in full truth that I'm ready and willing to do whatever I need to do to make him happy with me in order to not lose the life we have together.

2. Overhaul the decisions he's made about "wanting to be single right now, grow on his own without me, and make his own mistakes".

3. Keep him from either wanting to or physically being able to engage sexually with other girls until we reconcile in the above way.

I don't want him to sit quietly at home starved and resentful. I'm fully aware that it's my fault things went south this time because I neglected him. I understand that if he comes back, there's work I need to do within myself to justify it.

I think I need to apologize here because I conflated feelings and circumstances from last time with this one. I shouldn't have compared him to a dog, that was wrong of me. I'll place that on my lingering anger.

I described him becoming antsy negatively because last time, he left because, in his words, he "tried to ignore his needs, for me, until he couldn't any more." But there was no prior understanding or conversation about his needs between him and I last time. He simply left and I was taken by surprise and much angrier. I was made aware of his desires after we reconciled.

THIS time, he had made clear his wants, but I dragged my feet and hoped they would fade until I was beyond ready. It was selfish and stupid and I fully acknowledge that. I was younger and thought I had more time than I did. I also was not as calm and peaceful as I should have been on a daily basis due to leftover anger.

And you're right- he actively seeks sex, because he tells me it's simply part of his nature to be flirty and promiscuous and he's tired of repressing it. I was angry and insecure and allowed that to starve him both at him and outside of it.

I'm not blaming the other women. I'd just prefer him not sleep with them until we're reconciled and together again. He's very eager to, and very attractive and dynamic, so it's never hard for him. That's always been where I've struggled, and why I'm eager to use the semen I gathered. I've successfully brought him back, but never without keeping him from having sex before.

Primarily, all I want is for him to want to come back so we can work on things, meaning I give him the intimacy he wants at home and the exploration he's been asking me for. In order to stay together, I'm willing to try, do and talk about whatever, as well as let my anger fully go, as long as we're together. But he needs to believe that and want to come back. I would prefer this happen by or shortly after "our" birthday, which we call it bc my birthday July 25th is three days after his, July 22nd.

Secondarily, through text and conversation he's told me that at this point, he feels like he "needs to be his own man, needs to be single, doesn't want a relationship at all right now, and wants to be free to make his own mistakes." I would like to remove the blockages of those decisions from his mind so that he wants to return to the comfort of our apartment and having me by his side.

Lastly, I would like to be able to stop him from either wanting to or physically being able to sleep with other women until we fully reconcile and I'm his girlfriend again, like I explained above. If he does manage it, I would like the experience to be painful and difficult for him either physically or emotionally.

Deadening his sexuality overall would maybe be nice, later, but I felt like it's a lot of work to undertake so quickly for this much pent up resentment that he has for me about this. And I don't feel like it's fair to overhaul that much of his personality because I'm unwilling to change. Maybe that's ironic coming from me, but I just want him to want to explore with me by his side again. It was an option that he gave me when I was too resentful and blind to take it.

Eventually, down the line, I will probably need magical intervention for myself to become more naturally okay with him having outside lovers and to keep them from interfering in the home or being a factor when I want to take a break from letting others in. I'm a very territorial person when it comes to intimacy and it's honestly relieving to hear that that's possible, because my territorialism mixed with his promiscuity has caused a lot of the issues we're dealing with today.

I want to reiterate that I don't plan to lie or play act- I really, truly just want him back so that we can explore whatever he wants TOGETHER. I'm fully willing and ready to give him what he wants. I just need HIM to want that from ME, and to believe that it will happen.

I hope that helps. If you'd like me to explain anything in better detail I will do that for sure. Thank you again for being willing to help me. I do love this man and the parts of our relationship that don't suffer from these sexual issues are the best parts of me. I can't imagine my life without him.

PS I should probably mention that even though he's said he won't come back to being my boyfriend, he's still very willing to come see me in the place where we lived together and still willing to spend time and engage physically with me, which is how I got the semen recently. He said he still loves me and wants me, he just doesn't want to be my BOYFRIEND. I won't take anything less and I don't want to wait months and months and months for him to decide he's done having his single fun and wants to come home.

-NA

[catherineyronwode]

Ninaarana --

Thanks for the deeper dive into your thoughts.

I suggest that you start by setting a time limit for the work -- your mutual birthdays would be optimum. To bring him back, repeatedly, take the cloth or tissue with the dried semen and load a penis candle or large jumbo candle pink or red) from below by digging out a small hole, placing the item in, and melting wax over it to close the hole. Dress the candle with a blend of Return To Me Oil, Influence Oil, Reconciliation Oil, and Love Me Oil. Burn it for ten to fifteen minutes every day, praying for him to come to you. Pinch it out between times, don't blow it out. When one candle is finished, start another.

Write down your goals, as you did here, and place them in your Bible in the Song of Solomon.

When he comes over, make sure that the toes of his shoes point into the house and toward your bed.

Continue to work your doll-baby.

Spend less time taking and more time singing, laughing, walking together, and giving him massages, good food, and sex.

Get a reading on how things are going at least once a month.

Good luck.

[Ninaarana]

Hi Miss Catherine,

Thank you for that helpful advice. I have a small update already- he's said in text (a lot of which I plan to use in petition work against him like when he said things like "I'll do anything for you if you ask") that he'd be willing to come back in a year. July might be a hard reach- I'm thinking of setting my personal time limit for the work to 6 months at maximum and keeping July as my shoot-for-the moon date.

I've decided to handmake the penis candle like I did his doll as I feel my work is strongest when I put my intent in it from scratch. Would adding menses and honey from the jar to the wax be sufficient in dying it pink and making the work stronger?

Also, I would like to try re-tying his nature in a stronger way since I feel like I've failed to fully in the past. Either that, or make sex with other women hard, painful or too tied to memories of me to make it pleasurable. I have a potted plant where I can bury his clothing with an old nail and a few other ideas for strong uses of the semen I have (which is still liquid) and i know a bit about freezer spells, but if you have some extra strength methods and spells I could use to really get it under control until he comes back, I would be incredibly grateful. He's VERY strong willed when it comes to sex and it will bother me if he sleeps with half the city before we get back together.

I'm also interested in affecting his dreams, if possible. I have really strong visceral dreams in general and I'd like him to share the ones I've been having about us.

Thank you for helping me out again,

NA

[Dezkob]

I have been dating a girl for a couple of months now, and before I could ask her to be my girlfriend she texts me out the blue saying she is not over her ex and wants to part ways. That really hurt me because i like her and I want to be with her, we already have been intimate a couple of times. I made sure I got some of her personal concerns just in case something like this were to happen. I was able to get her menstrual pad and her Hoodie. What spells could I do to bring her back to me or to make her crazy for me. How do I go about using her menstrual pad in a spell and her hoodie please help.

[catherineyronwode]

Dezkob --

Before embarking on such a spell, i would get a quick reading on the likelihood of success -- and also an look into what power (magical, sexual, or spiritual) her ex has over her, or how much she is truly committed to being with him. Other questions, such as whether they have children, or own property together should be counted as well, because such links have power as well. A 15 minute reading may help open your ideas up so that you can see whether to undertake the work.

As for spells, i would start by setting a time limit for the work. I also recommend doing two types -- a Return To Me Spell (plus a Reconciliation spell if you quarreled during your break-up), and a Break-Up or Separation spell for them -- but do not work these on the same table or altar space at the same time, if you can avoid doing so. Try a break-up jar with a black candle dressed with Break-Up oil for their relationship to end and a pair of doll-babies for the two of you to come back together, using her menstrual blood in her doll and your sexual essence in your doll and binding them together.

Read these pages for more ideas, with compete spell details::

Break-Up Spells: http://luckymojo.com/breakup.html
Separation Spells: http://luckymojo.com/separation.html
Return To Me Spells: http://luckymojo.com/returntome.html
Reconciliation Spells: http://luckymojo.com/reconcilliation.html
Dolls and Effigies: https://www.luckymojo.com/dolls.html
Candle Magic: https://www.luckymojo.com/candlemagic.html

Good luck!

[Dezkob]

It worked !!! I didn’t do a break up spell because she already broke up with her ex she was just not over him completely. I did do a doll of her but I didn’t make a doll of myself to bind them, not gonna lie I was scared to make one of myself for some reason. The doll I made of her was a love doll, I made it kissed hugged and spoken things I want her to do and feel. I slept with the doll for the first three nights in my underwear as well. A week went by and she was blowing me up telling me how sorry she was and how she wanted to makeup she even apologized. I’m going to keep on continuing feeding her doll and loving it. Thank you so much!

[JayDee]

Dezkob,

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[MomiSnaps]

Hello, I’m new here, and this forum was recommended to me by a friend.

I was gifted a red skull candle, some time ago, and unfortunately I'm now in a situation where I had to use it.
The man I love left me a week ago, things had been improving after a rough period, but within two weeks, he decided to end things. He says he still feels something for me, but the thought of how we were during the dark times convinced him that “we’re not compatible” and he can’t see a future. I’ve improved since that time, and he’s noticed, but he says he’s still uncertain about his feelings. He also complained about me not texting him (to avoid seeming needy) and showed jealousy seeing me interact with other men.

I prepared the skull candle with Follow Me Boy, Van Van, and Bend Over oils, as he’s extremely stubborn. I baptized the candle with Florida Water and noticed the flame was very high the whole time, so much so that it completely burned down within two hours. I often saw the flames split and rejoin, resembling praying hands reaching out for me. After the back of the head fell, the flame started to resemble a male genital organ. Since I used many herbs related to the sexual sphere and he’s a very passionate person, it made sense to me.

The skull was facing a photo of us, and I spoke to it as if I were talking to him, reading some of the old messages he sent me. I’m not very experienced, so I’d like to ask you about this (apologies if this is the wrong section).
Most of the wax spilled from the left temple, flowing from the front to the back. I kept repeating for him to look at the photo, to remember how we were, to tear down the walls he’d built, and to give in to my words. That’s literally what the candle did: the back part fell first, followed by the front, leaving a pool of wax.

I extinguished the candle at dawn and relit it today while I knew he was sleeping. When he woke up, the flame started crackling, and as soon as he texted me, it went out.

What else can I do? What could all this mean?
Thanks for your time!

[MissMichaele]

MomiSnaps wrote:

it completely burned down within two hours. I often saw the flames split and rejoin, resembling praying hands reaching out for me.

Getting over someone who is incompatible with you can be very hard indeed, as the signs in the flame showed. Your work was aimed at passion physical and emotional, but I see two elements lacking: PEACE and WISDOM. If you wish to repeat the work, include King Solomon Wisdom (and/or Clarity) and Peace Water. When speaking to him in the spirit, don't just read past messages: tell him what you have learned that would allow you to do better when you reconcile.

[MomiSnaps]

Hi missMichaele, the issue is that we're not actually incompatible, we're very much the same person with the same issues and triggers. Except, I went to therapy years ago and recognize his behaviour. He's stubborn and prefers to shut down emotions and pushed me away when outside issues weighted him down. He pretty much doesn't like when I put my finger in the cracks of the wall he has around him.
We started the evening with a friendly chat, except he seemed just that, friendly and it broke my heart.
Later today I was informed of his flirty behaviour towards someone else (he's always been flirty with other women, even in front of me, but was never serious). I was also informed that yesterday he told his group of friends of our breakup and that him and this woman are spending time together.
I broke down and confronted him (not in a bad-angry manner, I was just upfront) but he didn't take it well because he 'just wants peace' and she's not different from his others friends. I know him well enough to believe him, but it still hurts that he spends more time with them and her, than me. I messed up due to things his friends told me after the news and now he's not responding to my texts.

I dressed the candle with many herbs: lavander and chamomile for peace, deer's tongue, balm of gilead, red roses, red clovers and cinnamon. I had a clear way of getting into his head, I also used honey. But I guess I need to re-do the work now.
Any suggestion is welcome, I really wanna give him the space he needs but I feel him slipping through my fingers day after day and the distance between us, emotional and physical, hurts so much...

[JayDee]

MomiSnaps ,

You may want to start with a glass candle with Reconciliation and Return to Me, to foster forgiveness and restore the relationship.

Reconciliation: https://www.luckymojo.com/reconciliation.html
Return to Me: https://www.luckymojo.com/returntome.html

JayDee

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