Spells to Tone Down or Reduce Love to Simple Friendship

[AoD]

Hey all,

I have a situation here where I recently met up with an old co-worker I hadn't seen in a while (we're not really good friends, he's on my facebook and he only started talking to me a few weeks ago when he broke up with his ex).

Problem is, even though I did not flirt with him at all, he seems to think he has a chance with me and comes on too strong, but I am absolutely not interested. Now, I could simply hotfoot him away since he's not a close friend or anything, BUT he is a valuable contact in an engineering firm where I am trying to get hired...and he's putting in a good word for me. So, I don't want things to turn sour between us cause I still need his help to get the job (I'm unemployed and I really need it).

He's not a bad person so I wouldn't mind being friends with him, especially if we end up working together again, but the whole "him wanting me and thinking I want to date him" creeps me out. What would you recommend to just tone down his feelings and expectations so he just wants to be friends? Thanks!

[ProfessorAmes]

Saltpeter has always been associated with decreasing libido. Women would feed it to their men who were too frisky, too often. I wouldn't recommend putting it in food.

You could do a little spell by taking his photo (print it off of Facebook) and writing out a little petition on it such as Friends only, no romance. Sprinkle it with some salt peter, fold it up and then let it sit in your refrigerator to "cool him down." I wouldn't put him in the freezer, but the fridge should be enough to cool his fire.

The saltpeter is also used in unjinxing and protection.

http://www.herb-magic.com/saltpeter.html

[starsinthesky7]

I would do a cut and clear vigil light. Or you can do this. I would Get a white candle for friendship and dress it with cloves, lavender, and balm of gilead. Write a petition for your friendship to be strengthened. Then get black candle dress it with banishing and ask that romantic feelings be removed. Each day you can remove the black candle away from the white one. You can even get some scissors, and face the open blade towards the black candle. You could add the salt peter candle on the black candle too.

[AoD]

Oh, I love the idea of saltpeter and the black and white candle spell That will suit my purpose perfectly. Thank you so much for the brilliant advice, I will give those a try!

[catherineyronwode]

Running across this thread while browsing the forum, i thought i would post a variant idea, also using Saltpeter:

Make and carry a small mojo containing

Saltpeter: To reduce libido
Cloves: To foster friendship
Self-Heal: To soothe any hurt feelings
Seneca Snake Root: To protect against false frienship
Bay Leaf: To clear the mind

Sew or wrap it up tight. Dress it with a Clarity Oil.

[Keira28]

Hi, I have just done an ammonia jar. I have a male suitor, but I really like him as a friend. So I did this jar writing: "John Doe has a romantic interest for me". I already told him that I'm not interested, but I would be happy to have him in my life as a friend. Maybe there is a spell more indicated for this? Thank you.

[Miss Athena]

Hello Keira28,

You could certainly do that with your ammonia jar.

I have moved your post to the topic on toning down love into friendship, so you can scroll through the posts here for more advice and ideas.

I hope this helps. Good luck.

[Keira28]

Thank you Miss Athena! Here there are very useful ideas!

[TaliaB5]

First time poster here...I need some help.

I’m in a relationship that started about five years ago. We have covered a lot of ground being romantically involved, friends and coworkers over the years.

Well, through a process of situations that I won’t bore you with we have found ourselves back in a romantic relationship. But, I need this to end.

He and his son live with me but still have their own place. His son and my daughter are great friends so I’d prefer to keep an open friendship or line of communication between my man friend and I. I just need the romantic relationship to end and for him to go back to his house.

You’d think this would be easy but it’s not. So now I turn to magick and your help.

[Miss Athena]

Hello Talia85,

Welcome to the Lucky Mojo forum! We're happy to have you here.

I've moved your post to the topic on toning down a relationship to friendship vs. romance, as this seems to be the focus of your question. There are some good suggestions here, so do read through the posts here and I think you'll find something to help you.

If you still have questions after reading, feel free to ask us here.

I hope this helps. Good luck.

[Violet7]

Greetings,

So I find myself wondering what the expiration date on a love spell might be.

I did some romance work 3 years ago. It was either Follow Me Boy or Come to Me. A short romance followed and fizzled. Which I soon realized was for the best.

So now 3 years later there is renewed interest from said person and I find myself thinking Is there a Boy Don't Follow Me anymore Spell?

I just assumed the "magick" would have worn off by now.

Can I do a working to redirect this person towards someone more suitable for them?

Thank you!

[Mr Christopher]

Hi Violet7,

There are a few ways to go about this... I have not seen an "I'm just not into you" candle.

To undo what you have done you can drink hyssop tea, just few sips, then add it to a bath, and read psalms 51.

If he is still around, use a black candle, nature or commanding oil, and some eucalyptus. Carve his name going down, add the oil going downward, roll the candle in eucalyptus, make a name paper, his name 5 times, cross it with find another lover. Put the paper under a saucer turned upside down, put the candle on top, light it after 4:20 at night, do this for 3 days.

If it becomes bothersome and continues, get 3 figure candles, one for you, one for him, one for his new lover. Put Come to Me on the new lover, on a sheet tray, put your two candles back to back pour salt between you add some lemon or lime juice to sour. Put the new women at the end of the tray facing him, and light all 3 candles for 1 hour daily, move his candle towards his new lover, till they finally meet.

https://www.luckymojo.com/oil-come-to-me.html
https://www.luckymojo.com/oil-nature.html
https://www.luckymojo.com/oil-look-me-over.html
https://www.luckymojo.com/oil-commanding.html
https://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatcandles.html

[Violet7]

Christopher No Saint,
Thank you ! I will reread this a few times.

[Lopezzyfofezzy]

Good morning! I’m currently have a very Mercury retrograde problem: an ex has returned and won’t go away. I care very much for him as a person but our lives are incompatible. I don’t wish him any harm, I would rather see him happy- WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

I’ve already “cut ties” with him and taken those ritual remnants to the river- gotten rid of gifts he had given me, uncrossed bath- those such things. However, I haven’t performed a thing to drive him away from me -and I think that’s the problem here. I’m good to go, he isn’t. (He has some intense Scorpio placements- I’m surprised he doesn’t have any Taurus in him)

I’ve ordered clarity oil to dress a candle with for him -and I have some uncrossing bath salts from LM as well. Can I baptize a skull candle for him- wash it with the uncrossing and anoint it with the clarity oil.. perhaps walk it away from a candle representing me? Are there other LM products I should consider?

I am not able to get a reading at this time but will when I can later this month.

I’d hate to put him in the freezer when we work in the same field and sometimes have to interact. I NEED those instances to be amicable.

Thank you for any feedback

[Mr Christopher]

Hi Lopezzyfofezzy,

So Scorpios have like chains for cords, they wrap them around you, and either you become obsessed with them or they become obsessed with you until you do something to blow up that chain. It's a thing they do after you break up they come sniffing around a few months later, not looking for a relationship per se. You may have moved on and cut the cord but he did not. Two suggestions for you.

1. Do cord cutting using a male figure candle that you baptized, or on him physically if he's into that. If you use a candle, get some Cut and Clear oil, put it on some scissors, then take some yarn tie yourself to the candle, and cut the cord.

2. Do a moving candle spell, with 3 figure candles.
-You will need a sheet pan, salt, Cut and Clear, and knife/ scissors.
-Put the "you candle" in the middle of the pan, pour a line of salt,
-Put "your ex candle" looking the other way, behind "you candle".
-On the other edge of the pan, put your ex's new love in the gender which is appropriate.
-Put the Cut and Clear Oil over the salt, place the knife on the salt between the two of you, and light everything up.
-After an hour pinch it out, and every day move you away from him, and the other person closer to him.
-By day 5ish, the new lover and he should be one candle.

Here is a link to the items mentioned:
Cut and Clear- https://www.luckymojo.com/cutandclear.html
Candles - https://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatcandles.html

Best of Luck,
Mr. Christopher

[Lopezzyfofezzy]

Thank you, Christopher!

I have already done the cord cutting between us and thrown the remnants into a river just past the cross roads- where I’d also chucked a silver bracelet he gave me.

What I didn’t consider was your second suggestion. There isn’t a third romantic option, but there is someone he should be spending more time with. Maybe I could try to strengthen a platonic familial bond between him and another? I can try that.

Thanks again

[Lopezzyfofezzy]

OH! Wait, you mean “new love” as in to open up for him to have a new love, not to assume one is already present- right? I didn’t catch on.

[JayDee]

Lopezzyfofezzy ,

New love means that the person is drawn to a new unknown new lover, if a name was possible you would use it. The work is assuming one is not known and they are being moved to a new unknown lover of interest, one who will come into their life, or cross paths.

JayDee

[Lopezzyfofezzy]

Ok! Understood. Thank you both.

[catherineyronwode]

Lopezzyfofezzy --

You got some great advice there. The idea of opening an ex's roads for new love is one of those above-and-beyond magical spells that few people think about, usually because they are thinking mostly of how their own life will be, going forward.

I like to use moving candles for spells like this, as described above.

Another thing i do is to pray for the ex to find a love that suits him, that is mutually fulfilling, and that results in marriage. His marriage will move him into the friend zone permanently!

Good luck.

[BrotherChristopher]

Hi Lopezzyfofezzy
An idea and a suggestion.
Put a name paper of something of his into container with simple syrup (that is a water based solution of sugar) and put that into the freezer.
Freeze him out, but keep him amicable when those events arise that you have to deal with him.
I also concur with other posters that a moving candle spell to move him to meet someone new and get married to them will also help a lot.
Peace and Blessings,
Br. Christopher

[RisenRaven]

A lady friend and I, we will call her Faith, have decided we would like to get to know each other better and perhaps start dating.

Our mutual friend who we will call Becca is a young Transwoman who is 12 years younger than us. (In her 30s). She is struggling with her identity and well-meaning but doesn’t always take social cues well. Honestly she may be a bit on the spectrum and undiagnosed.

Becca is a bit infatuated with Faith, but Faith has been VERY clear in no uncertain terms that she does not feel the same way and they will only ever be friends. Still, Becca occasionally says things like “if we ever were to start dating” and Faith has to shut that down.

Both Faith and I are concerned based on a past infatuation on another friend what would happen with Becca if Faith and I do start dating and Becca finds out. (To be clear, I don’t believe Becca is a danger to anyone but herself.) We don’t want to hurt her.

I would like to do something to help Becca and encourage her away from Faith. But I think that maybe Faith doesn’t see that she extends herself a bit too far for Becca on occasion and perhaps it would be best to very gently disengage a little bit, at least while this infatuation is going on. I’m not saying completely stop hanging out with her… just maybe less often and maybe not alone.

I’m a bit at a loss of how to tone it down without hurting her. I could add healing and tranquility oils if I do some kind of separation work. Can I do a cut and clear on Becca for Faith?

[JayDee]

RisenRaven ,

I personally think of Cut and Clear as a product for people to use on themselves to remove feelings, but you certainly can use it in this method.

I would suggest a freezer jar to put Becca on ice to cool her down. You can also use products like Influence or Commanding to change their mind on how they feel. Lastly, I would suggest a moving candle spell (with four candles, for you, Faith, Becca, and Becca's future lover) to move Beccaaway from you and Faith, toward a new unknown lover, that would help them let go as they have a new interest.

Cut and Clear: https://www.luckymojo.com/cutandclear.html
Freezer Jars: https://www.luckymojo.com/freezer.html
Bottle Up and Go: https://www.luckymojo.com/bottleupandgo.html
Influence: https://www.luckymojo.com/influence.html
Commanding: https://www.luckymojo.com/commanding.html

JayDee

[RisenRaven]

Thanks Jaydee!

[Chanfe]

I am not quite sure where this post goes or does it makes sense but this is what it is:

I want to do a cut and clear but only for myself. I do not want to be so in love with this guy like I am because it is driving me crazy.

However, I do not want him to cut and clear on me. I want him to call, text and chase me.

What should I do?

[JayDee]

Chanfe,

Cut and Clear are used to cut the emotional connection with a person and open you up to new options. You want to cool your love while he stays the same, essentially. The product is used on the person doing the spell, meaning it would affect you, not him.

JayDee