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by Carpediemsunlover » Mon Oct 12, 2015 1:22 pm
Hi and thanks so much for reading my query. I'm fairly new to hoodoo, having done a few honey pots and some candle work, but that's about it. I'm quite fascinated by it and am always amazed at how much there is to learn. It's a lifelong practice, I feel.
I'm a huge fan of this site and read it almost everyday, no lie. I think I read it too much on occasion because sometimes I feel like I'm getting too much information that's useful and then don't know how to execute the process! Anywho, here's my problem. I hope I'm posting to the right forum and please forgive me if I'm not, it may take a couple of times to get it right.
There has been a man in my life for the past year. For a batter portion of that time, I lived in a different state and we would only see each other when I came to town. When I would see him, it was great; romantic, thoughtful, passionate, loving, caring...all the things a budding romance should be. Now, I've moved to the same state as him and he has cold feet. Says he prefers his life without all of the complications of love and the expectations that go along with it. Says he loves his freedom. I love my freedom as well. I think one can be in a loving relationship that isn't consuming. I think he wants to always fly solo. BTW, I didn't move for him. I had work that brought me closer to him.
My feeling is that he is absolutely terrified at the prospect of losing his independence. It's not that he's not attracted to me or doesn't have feelings for me. He does. We have discussed it. When we are near each other, we touch each other, kiss, hold hands and the like. It's very sweet and then I hit that wall with him and he refuses to budge.
I had a reading done at the church not too long ago and the woman said that it would be a slow process, but that it would come to fruition in unlikely times. She didn't suggest the blockbuster, but did suggest more gentle bits of work, such as a moving candle spell with a road opener aspect to it. I did a honey jar as well as a picture jar. I feel like the picture jar is bringing more success than the honey jar and so here goes my questions:
1) Can I re-do the honey jar, putting in more intent, even if I don't have any personal effects, besides pictures?
2) I ordered a blockbuster candle to be set at MISC. Because his resistance is so great, I felt that something needed to be blown apart in order to THEN do the road opener. After the blockbuster candle, I asked for a fire of love candle to be lit. I was going to do the moving candle spell when I felt the time had come for the fire of love candle to be lit at the altar. At home, I have an Adam and Eve candle that is dressed and was going to move the pink candles that represent me and my intended towards that pinnacle. I was also going to take some road opener baths and start that work on the first Monday of the waxing moon.
I also have crucible of courage and clarity candles that I was going to light after the road opener to help ease him out of his resistance and fear and into moving forward into love and a loving relationship without fear of losing his independence.
I'm at a loss and am feeling like I don't know where to go with all of this. Any suggestions, thoughts, ideas and/or encouragements are greatly and fondly enjoyed.
Thank you SO MUCH for taking the time to read this and respond.
Have a blessed day.
. He moved in about two months after we began dating and we have now started a life together in a new state. It's VERY hard to work him since we live together and spend all our time together (both work from home) but I want to start using marriage products on him.
