Spells for Divorce or Separation in Court Case or Mediation

Mel2 · Unread post by **Mel2** » Sat Apr 11, 2009 12:40 am

Hi All, I'm a newbie and am going through various obstacles in my relationship with my boyfriend. I've known my boyfriend for 5 years and we've been in a serious relationship for the past 2 years. Now this whole time we've been together He has a wife of 9 years. I was fed up with the back and forth and divided attention I gave him an ultimatum and he kicked his wife out the house and chose me. They have no children together, She is an immigrant with a Green card and has threatened to take everything he owns. He does not want anything to do with her, he no longer loves her and has not spoke to her for almost 6 months. He wants to divorce her but he knows she's not willing to sign it or leave empty-handed. So what we want is for her to file the divorce and ask for nothing, he signs it, and it'll go smoothly without all the extra costs in legal fees. Please advise me on which spell is most appropriate for this. Thank you.

nati1 · Unread post by **nati1** » Sat Apr 11, 2009 5:23 am

Mel,
Here is my response to your legal side of your problem. If your boyfriend wants a divorce than HE should file. Depending on how much community property they have the courts will divide appropriately. If she refuses to sign the courts can and will proceed without her. I live in Texas and am a paralegal, you can also do basic family law research for your state. There are cases where it is mutual and it is discussed as to division of property and in less in 60 days from the day it was filed it is over. Then there are cases where they fight over pillows (not kidding). Find a good divorce attorney file the proper paper work and proceed. Good luck to you.
Nati

YouTube · Unread post by **Miss Bri** » Sat Apr 11, 2009 6:14 am

Hi Mel,
I agree that your boyfriend can and should file for divorce if that is what he wants. You say that you don't want the wife to ask for anything in return, but that it not a fair or realistic stance to take. When a marriage is breaking up it is a big deal on some level and in most cases neither party should walk away empty-handed. Your work will be more effective if you are working within the realistic parameter of the situation.

Basically you are asking about two sets of work though, break-up and court case.
Here are the links for both:
http://www.luckymojo.com/breakup.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/courtcase.html

take care,
Bri

Mel2 · Unread post by **Mel2** » Sat Apr 11, 2009 10:57 am

Yes, I do realize that her asking for nothing in return is a little far-fetched. I guess we should put our Primary faith into a good attorney who won't ask for an arm and a leg. It's not like they have any assets between them, The title of the house is in his and his mother's name and there are no cars or big ticket items to divide. I will conduct the spells with realistic intentions, Thank you Nati 1 for the legal enlightenment and thanks Bri for the appropriate spells.

sandy360 · Unread post by **sandy360** » Mon May 18, 2009 5:41 pm

Some one please help me, After being married to an abusive husband since 6-17-02. I owned the property before I knew him and we have no children together.

my father became sick in nov 06 and my husband filed for a divorce. when he had strung that out as far as he could he with drew, so I filed.

in the meantime my dad got sicker and sicker. my dad died on 4-30-09 and the divorce hearing is 6-18-09 my husband is now trying to take half of everything and we havent lived together since sept 11, 07 .

the lawyers say that there is a good chance that because we are still married he can , in his words "take me for everything I 've got"

please help me with a spell that can protect me and my children from this man. I don't have a problem giving him half of my home but I don't think I should share my inheritance.

is there a spell out there to make him be fair????

Unread post by **Dr Johannes** » Tue May 19, 2009 4:31 am

Check out http://www.luckymojo.com/courtcase.html for different ways to handle court cases.

But by the sound of your current situation you might want to consider having someone set lights for you instead. Having a look here might help you out:
http://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatcandleservices.html

Good Luck!
Johannes Gardback

Reynolds · Unread post by **Reynolds** » Thu May 28, 2009 3:53 pm

Or, you may consider getting a reading/consultation with Miss Cat, in which she can advise you on a one to one level about what your options are. I'm recommending this as a possibility specifically becasue I remember Miss Cat speaking on one of the Lucky Mojo Hoodoo-Rootwork radio hour shows (about Court Cases) about how she has always thought about creating a line of " Amicable Seperation products" , so since she's put some thought into situations like yours already, and also because she's a treasure-trove of info to begin with, that might prove helpfull.

Though it depends on the time frame, so perhaps you might want to see if you can set up an apointment to discuss this, and ALSO have some lights set for you.

Good luck, especially if you live in Cali!

And also
: kudos to you for wanting to be fair, as so often in Divorces BOTH sides want to fleece the other out of spite and greed.

- Reynolds

Unread post by **Chagrinedgirl** » Thu May 28, 2009 5:43 pm

On the mundane side, if you don't have an attorney, you really do need one. Inheritences, etc can make a divorce much more complicated and very difficult to negotiate through by yourself.

Unread post by **Paradox** » Wed Oct 14, 2009 5:05 pm

Hi everyone,

My client in this case is a good friend who asked for help breaking up her daughter's bad marriage.

Problem is that the daughter's husband is my ex boyfriend, he left me for the daughter. He has re-established some contact with me, which complicates this for me. The daughter has told her sisters she wants out but isn't comfortable facing his friends and members of the community. I'd love to help my friend have her daughter back but there is too much risk for me to be involved. When I have spoken to him in recent times it's obvious that there are still feelings on both sides though I don't need him back.

I've let her know that I'll provide her with the materials and instructions. If anyone has any additional suggestions as to how to proceed, please let me know.

theredc6 · Unread post by **theredc6** » Thu Oct 15, 2009 12:58 pm

I'm sorry to hear that you are conflicted over this situation. I cannot help you decide whether to help your friend or not because I do not know the full situation and that is a decision you will have to make on your own. But I can advise that you do a clarity spell on yourself to possibly help you make your decision. Perhaps it would be a good idea to see a tarot reader to look into the outcomes of different scenarios. If anything, you should weigh the pros and cons of helping your friend's daughter.

But, if you do decide to help your friend's daughter then there are a few things I can suggest: the daughter may not be comfortable facing his friends and the community, but if she wants out, then you need to do something to give her strength to face opposition and favor in all of the court proceedings/influence over authority figures.

Hope I've helped.

truelove99 · Unread post by **truelove99** » Thu Nov 05, 2009 2:47 pm

my son wife is divorcing him. first she was willing to move out of the house, she is having an online affair,then she told him if he give her half of his 401k, she would give him a quick deed to the house, she spends hours online. she moved out of the bedroom in June, now she has changed her mind and filed the papers in court wanting the house to be sold and divided and she wants the furniture I feel that the person she is talking to is telling her to do this, they were not having problems out of the ordinary before then. What can he do to stop her from getting everything? there are no minor children

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Thu Nov 05, 2009 4:57 pm

I think that the court case line of products should help you

http://www.luckymojo.com/courtcase.html

stelselv · Unread post by **stelselv** » Fri Feb 12, 2010 11:09 am

hi all,

I am going through a divorce and I have to appoint a power of attorney. to sell my house. .. i don't want the POA (my cousin) to blabber my case to even her mother and to other family members.. i want her to be blinded most of the details in the document, especially where financial matters are concern...

I want the lawyer's office to settle my payment ASAP, in confidence, without any obstructions....

The same spell or method has to apply to my divorce as well......

I want my ex-husband just shut up and yield to my requests.

i am only asking for what he can afford.. i am not greedy...

I would be even better if he doesn't turn up for the hearing

.. i get what i want without any problem...

I want all the family members to shut up and mind their own bussinesses and not create any problems for me or until the divorce and sales of my house is completed (at least) and not even to utter a word about the matter... i just want them to be blind, deaf, dumb, mute and paralyzed, when it comes to this case...

i placed an order for - do as i say, st martha, influence, victory, stop gossip, court case sachet powders... what spell do i do (besides freezer bottle), or doll spell with a figure candle, but there are so many of them who i have to deal with or what more to buy from LM?

thanks for your valueable reply...

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Fri Feb 12, 2010 11:35 am

If I didn't know what to do and had a legal issue, I would order the court case spell kit that includes instructions. Do as I say can be used to command what you want, and stop gossip to shut their mouths. Candle spells will put some steady heat on the situation.

stelselv · Unread post by **stelselv** » Fri Feb 12, 2010 1:36 pm

thanks Jw, the court case spell kit, i completely forgot about it.... will consider that... thanks again...

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Fri Feb 12, 2010 11:42 pm

I don't know if one spell can do all that. Your divorce is a separate issue from gossip, but you can certainly try.

I would personally place them all in a Slander Jar. Take a jar, fill it with Stop Gossip powders, Slippery Elm, Calamus, Licorice, the personal concerns of the people involved then put a cork on the bottle. Shove 9 pins through cork and shake it daily as you demand that everyone stop talking about you, that they stop gossiping. I'd follow this up by dusting letters to your family members with Stop Gossip powder, or going to their homes and sprinkling a bit of the powder there.

You can also petition Saint Ramon to keep people from gossiping about you.

You may also consider using protective conjure to target your home itself and keep people from talking about it. A cleansing wash followed up with some Peaceful Home and Stop Gossip products would go a long way to keep things quiet about your property.

As for your court case work, consider a Court Case spell kit worked in conjunction with Saint Expedite. Bind up your husband to keep him from interfering. I'd make a dollbaby of him and bind up his hands, feet, and eyes so he has no power to effect you any further.

stelselv · Unread post by **stelselv** » Sat Feb 13, 2010 1:28 am

A cleansing wash followed up with some Peaceful Home and Stop Gossip products would go a long way to keep things quiet about your property.

this would be difficult, i am living in another country... is there an alternative....

As for your court case work, consider a Court Case spell kit worked in conjunction with Saint Expedite.

the divorce and the sale of the house, is just legal documents movement and signature... do i have to buy a court case kit?? i just placed an order for the crown of success kit. I also read on the website that i could sprinkle court case sachet powder (while doing the spell) to succeed in legal matters..

I would personally place them all in a Slander Jar. Take a jar, fill it with Stop Gossip powders, Slippery Elm, Calamus, Licorice, the personal concerns of the people involved then put a cork on the bottle.

can i also add inflammation and confusion, hot foot and break up powder to it, i want then to get out of my house, break up and fight among themselves.

my ex-husband seems to be immuned to magic, why is that, i will try a doll spell on him for 1 last time... nothing worked on him in the past, he only got worst..

all you other suggestion are great... thanks again CM....

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sat Feb 13, 2010 5:56 am

Stelselvs, have you got a reading on this, there are so many variables involved and you do not want to run here and there but at the least for now, follow the stop gossip ritual, keep you and your home cleansed and protected. As for your ex- he may have someone working on his behalf...a reading may show that.

stelselv · Unread post by **stelselv** » Sat Feb 13, 2010 7:42 am

Stelselvs, have you got a reading on this, there are so many variables involved and you do not want to run here and there but at the least for now, follow the stop gossip ritual, keep you and your home cleansed and protected.

thanks JW, i have had a reading, now is the right time, i waited for 4 years... i am taking all the precautions i can, thro magic, law and paternal family support..... i am just afraid of my enemies creating problems...because that is the only thing they are good at.....

As for your ex- he may have someone working on his behalf...a reading may show that.

i have checked, nobody is working on him, he is like a demented person....must be a past life or childhood ''thing''.. ''he would die if he does the right thing'' he is that kind of a person...

thanks for your advise again i am reading up on the stop gossip and court case kit.... appreciate all your help....

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sat Feb 13, 2010 8:16 am

Sorry to add more fuel to your decision but have you considered Saint Martha, she dominates men (in my experience with her) and she would hate what he is doing....

stelselv · Unread post by **stelselv** » Sat Feb 13, 2010 8:46 am

St Martha, not yet, but considering buying her vigil candle... but St Muerte and Goddess Kali had been very good help to me... i believe that is why i have come his far... thank you for your consideration...

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Sat Feb 13, 2010 1:18 pm

No one is immune to magick. People may claim this, but its not the case. Now because each of us are different, different upbringings, different personalities, different forms of magick work better than others. For example, skull candles seem to work well for people who pay attention to their dreams, who are thinkers, who are penseive by nature. People who simply disregard their impusles and such may not feel the same effect, or will feel it but it will not create action. A person's stuborness and internal resolve also play a role. For example one of the reasons why divorce spells are hard to work on a married couple may be due to the financial obligations, to the wife's tenacity to hold on to her man etc. Its not that they are immune, but rather other factors play a role. The trick is find the button that you can push to bring about action.

You can certainly dust your papers with Court Cast powder to get things moving along with getting a result that favors you. Usually the kit will help you work an overall conjure, but its up to you.

As for the slander jar you can add whatever products you like to create the conditions you seek...

If you cannot wash down your house, you can wash yourself. Cleanse yourself then take a bath to keep yourself safe and protected.

Unread post by **cabriellenil** » Sat Feb 13, 2010 6:42 pm

Wow. ConjureMan brought up a great point. You've got a reading and some ideas, and everyone else chimed in too... but have you checked what forms of magick would work best on your ex.?

I can do some divination but just to make sure, sometimes I'd check with a rootworker about what would work best on my targets. E.g. are they more vulnerable to mind work (skull candle, or dream visits) or to stuff being put in their food and drinks? would it be better to do a mojo or a bottle spell?

In my experience, I'd agree with CM that people who're naturally perceptive and pensive are quite prone to mind work. Some folks aren't so sensitive or self-aware, or they're stubborn and it takes more sweetening or whatnots...there're a lot of variables, really.

stelselv · Unread post by **stelselv** » Sun Feb 14, 2010 3:09 am

People who simply disregard their impusles and such may not feel the same effect, or will feel it but it will not create action. A person's stuborness and internal resolve also play a role

thank you CM, for clearly that up.... he just could not do the right thing, he MUST do the opposite of it..

I am considering the CC kit, one thing is i can't spend so much, and another thing is the delay in completing the order...I have to get my hands on something that can be done at the soonest...I have placed an order for CRW of SCS kit.

The black tobacco candle (herb) is it the same as the tobacco sold in the cigarette store? and how to use it?

thanks again for all your help

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sun Feb 14, 2010 6:09 am

http://herb-magic.com/tobacco.html

kmew1315 · Unread post by **kmew1315** » Sun Feb 14, 2010 9:26 am

cabriellenil wrote:In my experience, I'd agree with CM that people who're naturally perceptive and pensive are quite prone to mind work.

Or you could be like me and have to do work on someone who is perceptive and pensive and pays attention to her dreams AND is also stubborn.

NotDorianGray · Unread post by **NotDorianGray** » Sun Feb 14, 2010 12:06 pm

I had a great set up for untangling red tape i the health system, and I'm sure it would work for legal stuff as well.

Grab one big brown candle. Dress it with Court Case and Road Opening oil. Write a petition for an easy and unobstructed sale, and stick it under the candle.

Next, take 4 smaller candles. White ones are fine. I used birthday candles because they're cheap.

Place the 4 candles around the larger one to form an X pattern.

Light the small candles, and as you do so say something to the effect of "all the obstacles to my goal are melting away." Once they burn down, light your big brown goal oriented candle. Say something like "my goal is unobstructed" or somesuch. Whatever works for you. Burn it all in one go or over several days. Whatever candle working method is most successful for you.

I'd also throw your meddling relatives into a freezer jar.

stelselv · Unread post by **stelselv** » Mon Feb 15, 2010 2:02 am

o great, the famous NDG is back..... how have you been, how was your summer holidays ???????

nice to read your post again.....

I have put my relatives in freezer jars many times and have thrown them in the river...... will start on a new one soon....

I will buy a Court Case kit and will back up the work with the spell above....

about black tobacco candle, i have read the website many times , that is why i am asking what other ways to use it, instead of putting it in a mojo bag and is it the same as tobacco...

by the way NDG, i am still drinking the chai with spring water (once in a month, can't drink tea - medical condition) as you suggested, that is also one reason, why i have come a long way, trying to get back all my assets and my financial independence....

thanks very much.... welcome back......

stelselv · Unread post by **stelselv** » Fri Feb 26, 2010 5:26 am

by the way, i forgot to mention that the same spell or method has to apply to my divorce as well......I want my ex-husband just shut up and yield to my requests.. i am only asking for what he can afford.. i am not greedy..

which sachet powder should i use??
Inflammatory Confusion Sachet Powder or Confusion Sachet Powder, with poppy seeds and black mustard??

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Fri Feb 26, 2010 1:19 pm

Inflammatory Confusion causes miscommunications and fights and general anger. If you want to keep your husband from interferring you can use Stop Gossip to keep him from talking and toss in some Poppy Seeds to weaken him to your dominance.

stelselv · Unread post by **stelselv** » Sat Feb 27, 2010 12:48 am

thanks CM, right now i have already started to light a black candle sprinkled with poppy seeds and black pepper... i will place an order for stop gossip... thanks again...

ohwhygeorgia · Unread post by **ohwhygeorgia** » Tue Aug 03, 2010 8:39 am

Don't judge.

He filed for divorce, but she's been lagging on finishing and signing the paperwork to finalize everything. It's been six months, now I hear from him yesterday and he says it's being
finalized this month, and done with.

He's cut communication, and all ties to her finally.

What can I do to aid the situation?

She's always playing games and breaking the poor guys heart.
He deserves soo much better

...

me.

Anyways; I would like to know how I can achieve her having control over him emotionaly. I would also like to speed up this divorce process, and help him heal. I'd prefer not to do a break up kit, I feel this is more complex. I'm interested in learning more about divorce products.

Thanks

Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Tue Aug 03, 2010 9:06 am

I would get a reading and see if St. Expedite would work for you on this case.

Elveta · Unread post by **Elveta** » Tue Aug 03, 2010 9:29 am

ohwhygeorgia wrote:Don't judge.
" I would also like to speed up this divorce process, and help him heal. I'd prefer not to do a break up kit, I feel this is more complex. I'm interested in learning more about divorce products.

Thanks

I don't know what state you live in,but in CA you can't get a final divorce decree until six months from the date of service of the Summons and Request for Dissolution of Marriage are served on the other party. If he has an attorney than he needs to get him/her to file the necessary pleadings to have it finalized. It doesn't just happen on its own.

ohwhygeorgia · Unread post by **ohwhygeorgia** » Tue Aug 03, 2010 10:13 am

I do live in CA, And they are young and have only been married a year before deciding to get divorced. From what I hear, the paperwork is going through like a we the people, or something. Basically just being done by themselves.

It has now been 6 months, which makes this the month it can end. But he's claiming it won't be finalized until she signs it.

Elveta · Unread post by **Elveta** » Tue Aug 03, 2010 7:34 pm

ohwhygeorgia wrote:I do live in CA, And they are young and have only been married a year before deciding to get divorced. From what I hear, the paperwork is going through like a we the people, or something. Basically just being done by themselves.
It has now been 6 months, which makes this the month it can end. But he's claiming it won't be finalized until she signs it.

Don't know what "it"mens. Marital Settlement agreement? He needs to consult an attorney. There is also something called"legal aid,"he might contact them.

ohwhygeorgia · Unread post by **ohwhygeorgia** » Wed Aug 04, 2010 11:18 am

Yeah the maritial agreement. Ill suggest it to him. I try not to get involved as far as talking to him about it.

It comes off like I'm pressuring him, or have alterior motives.

Well I do but, not in a bad way I guess

:/

I just care about his well being, he's been through enough.

faith2008 · Unread post by **faith2008** » Tue Aug 17, 2010 8:40 pm

Hi everyone.

My ex and I will be going to court in the near future and I am looking for advice on what I can do to help matters go in my favor.

To make a long story short, we borrowed $25,000 from my father. Shortly after he cheated and we seperated. Thankfully I was smart enough to make my dad put a lien against our property. The money was used to pay off both of our vehicles with a little left over.

When we seperated he took his truck and left me my car. Both vehicles were in his name alone though.

A few months later he cancelled the insurance on my car and since it is in his name alone I could not insure it. This forced me to have to buy a new car.

Now he wants me and the kids to move out of the house and let him move back in. Which would be fine if he'd agree to pay my dad back.

My lawyer is getting ready to petition the court to sell the property on the court house steps. I want to make sure that the judge sees it our way and the property is sold. This has been going on for almost six months now and I've spent over $5000 already and hav to give the lawyer another $2000 next week. I need this to be over with. I'm a single mom trying to raise three boys and I can't afford to keep this up much longer.

So, I have court case oil and crown of success oil and of course brown candles. I am wondering though, other than having MISC light candles for me is there anything else I can get that will help me in this matter.

Thanks for taking the time to read and for everyones input. Hope everyone has a good night.

Unread post by **Turnsteel** » Tue Aug 17, 2010 8:47 pm

I'd strongly suggest you get the Court Case spellkit. It has just about everything you need to work a case like this. Court Case Spellkit

You also might consider getting a reading or hiring a rootworker to do work on your behalf.

faith2008 · Unread post by **faith2008** » Tue Aug 17, 2010 9:42 pm

Thanks HD. I have a reading coming up soon but I figured it wouldn't hurt to go ahead and try to do somethings on my own. I've never done much work on court cases though. I will get the court case spell kit though. Don't know why I didn't think of that, lol. I guess sometimes the most simplests things are the hardest for us too see.

faith2008 · Unread post by **faith2008** » Wed Aug 25, 2010 5:42 pm

Update.

Hi everyone. Just spoke to my lawyer and he is trying to set our court date for Sept 6-10. Due to some things that came up with the kids I was unable to order the court case kit so I am going to have to go with what I have on hand. I did however have a candle lit last month at LM in regards to this. The reading on it was that there was a haze from top to bottom. That was the only negative sign. Which she interpretted as delay. I do plan to order the court case kit still as soon as he pays his child support which hopefully will be this week so it has time to get here. If not I will have to wait until next Friday and I know it won't get here in time then so then I can only hope the case is postponed. Anyhow I want to continue working with what I have on hand just to be on the safe side. What I was thinking was making a mojo hand to carry wih me in court. I also have my court case oil and brown candles which I have been burning. I also have COS oil. My question with that is should I add the crown of success oil to the court case oil and put them both on the candle or should I burn a seperate candle and if so what color candle would I use for the COS? I was also wondering about saints. I have St Martha, St. Anthony, St Michael, the Holy Family, and St Rita. Would any of these be good to petition for help in this matter? Miss Cat did a reading for me last Friday and she did pull the justice card and said that she felt I would get justice in this matter which makes me feel a lot more confident. I just want to back everything up the best I can. I was also thinking of having a COS candle lit at LM if I can.

Any and all suggestions in this matter will be so greatly appreciated. I pray for blessings upon each and every one of you. Thank you so much!

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Wed Aug 25, 2010 8:58 pm

Sept 6-10 is not that far away, an it takes sometime for things to work. I would recommend that you get a road opener set by the missionary church along with another court case candle. I mean you can petition St. martha for sure regarding this situation. St. Michael would probably help you as well. That is what I would do since you are potentially not going to have enough time to get the spell kit in time for the court date.

faith2008 · Unread post by **faith2008** » Wed Aug 25, 2010 9:02 pm

Thanks so much Stars. Road opener hadn't even crossed my mind. And I will start my vigils to St Martha and St Michael tomorrow paying special regards to Tuesday of course for St Martha of course.

Thanks again! You're knowledge is always greatly appreciated.

fornaught · Unread post by **fornaught** » Thu Sep 30, 2010 4:58 pm

I've been married almost 11 years, and emotionally abused the majority of this time. Every time I've tried to leave, he's threatened me with dragging out our divorce until my family is "penniless and on the street", and insists that in that case, he would gain custody of our minor son. I have two other children, who are not his, which of course he knows. When he saw that I was serious about divorcing in the past; he puts on a good show and makes promises that he eventually breaks, and just goes back to being his selfish, tyrannical, controlling old self, not caring a lick for any of the three of us. He would not allow me to work, so I have no money of my own. He calls me every other hour on his work days, and more frequently on his days off when he goes golfing. We are not allowed to do anything without his permission beforehand, and he makes sure that I never have even $10 in my wallet, all expenses go through my debit card with his prior approval, and he gets the receipt afterwards, or I never hear the end of it. My family is unable to help me financially, as it seems suddenly they have all had a really bad run of "luck". We live halfway across the country from any of our family, anyway.

I finally put my foot down, tired of being like something worthless that he owns. I told him I was divorcing him no matter what, and he pulled a big act about how sorry he is, and if it's what I want, he swore he'd agree to it. At first I thought that was because he wanted it too--then it came down to getting the paperwork filled out, and now he's putting on the sad act again, swearing that he actually does love me, and he "fears" for us financially if I leave. He is extremely manipulative and constantly badgering me about whether or not I intend to give him another chance, even though I have stated very clearly that I will not. My kids and I have nowhere else to stay but the home he provides, until the divorce is final, so I have to put up with this on a daily basis. He said yesterday that he won't sign the papers. I have already told my family that we will be home before December, because we were using a Do It Yourself divorce service, and he promised to agree to everything in the papers, he helped me write it out.

To further complicate things, I now love someone else, who lives in the same state that my family is from. He's basically waiting for us to come home after my divorce is final. I keep telling him "soon", and the husband keeps pulling out stops against it. He is paying for it, because as I said, I have no money. My move home will depend on a divorce settlement and help from extended family (father has many siblings who have offered to contribute, thankfully, and my love says he will help in any way that he can).

So I am taking the proper legal steps here, but things keep coming up that block my way. I need advice on how to get rid of this nutcase HOPEFULLY soon-to-be-ex-husband, so I can get my kids home to a family that's sane and safe, and try to settle our lives once and for all.

Thank you for any advice.

Unread post by **Miss Tammie Lee** » Thu Sep 30, 2010 5:24 pm

fornaught -- tragic. You need an attorney. Check into free legal aid services that deal especially with abused (this is abusive) women OR better and faster since family and friends are offering-- You could "try" to get a real divorce lawyer or borrow the money if you have to and ask for him to pay YOUR attorney fees as part of the divorce settlement. (this is a common request that is granted in the US-- AND IT IS OFTEN GRANTED)
You need a reading I will get the link to the AIRR Pro Bono Fund and post it.
There are Lucky Mojo Court Case Products, and Protection Products, and a ton of things I want to recommend--but do this first:
http://www.readersandrootworkers.org/in ... ation_Form
Document EVERYTHING. and if you need to call the police call them and if you need (even though you did not mention get to a safe place every city has one in the US)
Be Safe Be Blessed

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Thu Sep 30, 2010 9:17 pm

Excellent advice and support Triplethreat.

fornaught · Unread post by **fornaught** » Fri Oct 01, 2010 4:00 pm

I appreciate the advice, no doubt.

Free legal aid would be the best I could do; asking family for even more money than I already am...I just don't think they can do it. It's going to be expensive to move myself and three children halfway across the country. I have always been afraid to go to an abused women's center to seek help, because emotional abuse is just so hard to prove.

Apparently by being honest with him, I've made the situation worse for myself. He knows that there is someone else, and he told me today that he asked a mutual friend of ours for information on him so he can "check him out". While I don't exactly blame him, I still think this was a really underhanded thing to do, considering what I've had to put up with from him over the years. He could have either waited it out and found out after the divorce, which would have been simple--or he could have asked me at a less stressful time, once things had smoothed out between us. My guess is, he does not want things to "smooth out", just as he doesn't want the divorce (because that means that he has to find someone else to control), so he simply couldn't wait and had to go behind my back and find out right now. He's just making all of this such a mess, when all he needs to do is accept it and walk away.

route95 · Unread post by **route95** » Fri Oct 01, 2010 4:12 pm

I have always been afraid to go to an abused women's center to seek help, because emotional abuse is just so hard to prove.

As someone who has gone through different types of abuse I just want to tell you that (in my experience) places that provide services for the abused do NOT judge. They don't ask for "proof" of what you went through. These people know their stuff and know that it'd be ridiculous to ask for some documentation about being abused. They know that emotional abuse is extremely damaging and should not be taken lightly. I still struggle with identifying as a survivor of abuse and rape to this day (society puts an idea that only a small amount of scenarios are 'true' or 'serious'), but I just want to share my experience with organizations designed to help. They know their stuff.

I hope you do feel like you can go to a place. Perhaps find a place on Google that mentions emotional abuse if that helps.

Best of luck.

Unread post by **Miss Tammie Lee** » Fri Oct 01, 2010 4:30 pm

The verbal abuse can turn physical in a heartbeat.-- especially if he knows this is it! He is unstable and controlling. -- He could be bluffing you (yet another way to control about the contact to a mutual friend-- if he is a narcissistic sociopath his ego might get in the way)
Go to the center please. Many abusive relationships start off verbal, (I see the timeline) and while I understand nothing has happened yet--(yet is the operative word) If he is backed up against the wall he may come out swinging or worse.
Has he ever accepted your input, your talents, your love, your devotion before or your opinion?
He is also facing a finacial deficit with child support and alimony, also.
They (The Center) might be able to help you or even refer you to the right attorney (Pro Bono). They will most certainly have something vital for you. (from information to referencing examples "without names") Please.

You also owe him no explanations. It is over. Do not share any information with him at all. I'm telling you this because he has "manipulated" you on that too. This is very common and it is not you it is him.
Also please look into the AIRR Pro Bono Fund.
Take Care and Be Safe.

fornaught · Unread post by **fornaught** » Fri Oct 01, 2010 4:37 pm

Thank you all very much. I truly appreciate your advice, and it will definitely come in handy. While it's very sad, it makes me feel better to know that there are people who do know how I feel, and how it really is. I wish you all the very best!

angelorb · Unread post by **angelorb** » Sun Oct 10, 2010 11:11 pm

Hello!

I have access to my soon-to-be ex-husbands house for the next few days while he is out of town. (and also most weekdays while he is at work. He is ok with me going there.)

I'd love to get some advice on what kind of rootwork I could do that would be unnoticeable to him (powders? oils?).

I want to do two spells: One would be a sort of "stay amicable throughout the divorce" spell, and the other one would be a "give me money" spell. I'll spare you all the long story, but I'd be glad to share more via private message. He's amicable 90% of the time but then I never know when his 10% "I don't care if you have no food I'm not giving you any money" side will kick in.

In a recent episode of the lucy mojo hoodoo rootwork hour, one suggestion was hiding a tiny tin-foil "honey jar" inside a hollow candlestick and that is a fantastic idea. I have to go to the luky mojo page on honey jars and read up because I don't know if I can leave a candle burning in his house unattended, etc.

I would love any advice. I hope to get a reading by calling the show sometime, or even just making an appointment with Dr. K or Cat when I have the funds. Meanwhile, I welcome any and all advice. I've seen on this forum how helpful you all can be as a group.

Thanks in advance.

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Sun Oct 10, 2010 11:29 pm

I would definitely recommend getting the reading. However, my first thought was for you to make a honey jar. I would get a honey jar, and put in his personal concerns. Then add in some pay me now, compelling, cleo may, and some five finger grass. i would do that to keep him sweet, and to make it so he is willing to give you money. You can have this constantly burning at your own home.

If you want to do tricks in the home, I recommend perhaps putting some powders in the carpet, lightly putting some powder in between mattress and the bottom piece of the bed. You can do the same with lightly spraying the carpet with some appropriate bath crystals and spraying the floor.

You can hide a small bottle or small baby food jar with lavender, cloves, honey, rose petals, and peace water to keep the peace between you and him to keep you and him on friendly terms. This can be considered a bottle spell, and you do not have to burn candles on top of it at his home. But you can work with bottle, and then dispose of it on his property, such as near the door, or anywhere else in the home where he will not find it. Better yet you can be creative and perhaps make him a gift or something and hide the bottle in there.

Unread post by **carolina_dean** » Tue Oct 12, 2010 12:46 am

starsinthesky7 wrote:I would definitely recommend getting the reading. However, my first thought was for you to make a honey jar. I would get a honey jar, and put in his personal concerns. Then add in some pay me now, compelling, cleo may, and some five finger grass.

I second this, however, I would also try to obtain some coins that he has given you from his own hand and add this to the honey jar too. You could also get a dollar bill (or higher denomination, if you like) from him and write your petition on the bill. Wrap some chamomile flowers in the bill to make him more generous with money and to increase the money-drawing power of the other herbs, then add this bill to your honey jar.

Good luck,

angelorb · Unread post by **angelorb** » Tue Oct 12, 2010 7:59 am

Thank you both for your suggestions. I really appreciate it. I'm definitely going to put your ideas to work.

kitadst · Unread post by **kitadst** » Mon Apr 11, 2011 7:26 pm

Im in love clearly, he says he's not, we're just friends and he loves and cares for me, he just doesn't want a committed relationship right now.

even though we treat our friendship as a relationship, my mind tells me to walk away and Im being played for a fool, my heart tells me to stay, it will all work out,

however, he's even told me that he doesn't want to hold me back

I think he's the one and I don't want to give up on him or us but I don't know how much more of this I can take.......

any and all suggestions welcome?.........

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Mon Apr 11, 2011 10:09 pm

Two options:

First, pray for guidance and sleep on it. In the morning you'll know whether to proceed or not.

Second, get a reading to find out the feasibility of proceeding and what is holding him back from loving you. Insight can go along way towards helping you decide. You can find a list of reputable readers here: www.readersandrootworkers.org--check us out.

Product-wise, you are looking at a honey jar and a Come to Me spell kit or Love Me spell kit. I like to work with Come to Me first on such situations, but that's me.

You can find both of them here: http://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatspells.html

Good luck.

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Mon Apr 11, 2011 10:40 pm

On the flip side of that....

I think its very important to get a reading to not only see what is holding him back from loving you...but to see if this is a relationship that can even happen. If it is not, and its not mean to be than I would move on.

I think during a reading its very important to get a spellwork plan no matter which way you go. This way if this relationship has the potential to come to be, then you will know what products to buy. On the other hand, if its time to move on than you should ask what should be done as well. Before leaving your reading have a clear cohesive plan of knowing what to do and what products to buy.

It may take a few steps more than a spell kit or repeating of some spells to get what you want.

I would get a reading first before proceeding.

Unread post by **cabriellenil** » Tue Apr 12, 2011 4:49 am

I've found that praying for guidance - leaving it in God's hand - in such situations to be very helpful. It could give you not just the clarity but also the strength to handle things.

I second starsinthesky7's suggestion that you should ask about what you should do if it's time to move on. Whenever I get a check-up on a potential relationship, I always save a couple of questions for what emotional ups and downs I'm going through and what I should/could do about it, spellwork wise, so I can get myself in a good state to do the work regardless of which way the relationship may be heading.

kitadst · Unread post by **kitadst** » Tue Apr 12, 2011 7:17 am

Thank all of you....and I've chose a reader....ConjureMan Ali of course for my reading.....however,I've been praying about this for a little while now,and all of the difficulty started once I started praying actually,so maybe it was being revealed to me but I chose to hold on for longetivity,companionship,etc,etc,he was comfortable and that's it.....now Im ready for LOVE....MY LOVE...MY REAL LOVE......and thank you guys for opening my eyes to NOT forcing him to love me....I will keep my new family posted on my new found happiness with Self..and hopefully Mr.Right.....btw.......I would like a lil revenge in this situation though,any recommendations, nothing to dramatic,however I would like to make a small impact on him....and I do have some personal affects of his....dirty underwear and semen....any suggestions?

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Wed Apr 13, 2011 9:18 am

kitadst wrote:btw.......I would like a lil revenge in this situation though,any recommendations, nothing to dramatic,however I would like to make a small impact on him....and I do have some personal affects of his....dirty underwear and semen....any suggestions?

My suggestion? Reconsider. He was "up front" with you from the start, and you discovered he was telling the truth about not being able or ready to settle down with you.

What will revenge work accomplish? It may, for a little while, put a spring in your step, but will it put money in your pocket, a roof over your head, or food on your table?

Instead, do some Cut and Clear work so you can move on -- with his good qualities in mind as a benchmark for Mr. Right, and his bad qualities banished from your life.

Cut and Clear spells and supplies
http://www.luckymojo.com/cutandclear.html

Miss Michaele