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by sunseer88 » Fri Sep 24, 2010 9:31 pm
I have been dealing with a very difficult situation on the job for the last 18 months. Basically, one of my male coworkers and I had great chemistry when we met about 2.5 years ago. Many people thought we were dating, we would flirt and hang out with each other all the time.
Somewhere along the way gossip and rumors turned nasty and it made both of us uncomfortable. We both dealt with it for a while but I think the constant barrage of comments, teasing, etc. from others just finally got to the both of us.
So rather than cultivating the relationship into something deeper it has sort of fizzled extremely. While we are still solid friends and do business together both at the job and outside. The trust, excitement, attraction etc is weak. I know I know this stuff does weaken after a while, but with us it was intense kept growing and growing.
He and I have never crossed the friend barrier - but we were on our way to doing that when my enemy, my nemisis, started interfering and saying stuff about me at work and to others outside . Do i think she purposely attempted to stop me from getting closer to my male friend? Yes and no.
She is the type who always wants attention, and gets jealous when other women around her get it. I am the only other woman in our office and she is constantly gossipping lying about me, just sending negative vibes. I put up with it for it for a long time, but finally she crossed the line and I had to let her have it, yeah I took it there, verbally wiped the floor with her.
The bad thing is now my male friend, who I thought would respect me more for finally standing up for myself, has shriveled away like a coward. I mean we are still good, but I find that he doesn't really speak to me when I am at work anymore especially when this woman is around. I wouldn't mind that as much if we were still close on the outside. But it seems that as soon as I argued with this woman, he started limiting his time with me. It is breaking my heart not only because I thought we would be romantically involved with each other at some point but more so because I feel like he has abandoned me as a friend. I am all for keeping it professional at the office, but he is blatantly ignoring me in favor of her, who he claims to dislike and mistrust, but with me his friend who has always been there to support him, it feels like he is tossing me aside -- it hurts a lot.
I have tried to do somethings against her.. Mostly LM vigil candles set with reversing, hot foot, stop gossip, and even Saint Martha. All were bad burns with lots of damage to the glass etc.
I have a reading next week with an AIRR reader to see if there is anything I can do, but this woman is driving me nuts. i have tried a box spell, vinegar jar, and ammonia jar, but it still seems like she has the upper hand.
I feel so defeated, and what's worse is I know that's how she wants me to feel.
Regarding him, i had MISC light a Reconciliation spell which seemed to work a little bit so but now its fizzled back down again so I may have another lit.
I just feel like this woman is interfering way to much with my life and my psyche even worse now since we argued- and yes I strongly believe she is familiar with spell work.
I guess I am wondering if there are any suggestions of products to try or any other rituals, prayers, petitions I could try in the meantime to shut her up and just get her out of my head.