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Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Fri Aug 20, 2010 11:42 pm

Sounds very off base to me as well. If they know you are doing spiritual work then it may all be psychological reactions as a result of fear and ingorance of spiritual work. If they don't know then I'd get a reading to find out what's going on, because their reactions are indeed unusual.

maduro01 · Unread post by **maduro01** » Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:51 pm

Is Cut & Clear the best way for me to go, if my petition is a general request not to EVER, EVER, EVER cross paths again with anyone I have ever been sexually or romantically attracted to in my life?

thelightfantastic · Unread post by **thelightfantastic** » Fri Aug 27, 2010 1:36 pm

If you want someone removed from your life permanently without any chance of running into them or anything, I believe the black walnut bath is actually a better choice. You need to be sure you truly want them out of your life though. It is my understanding that a cut and clear is the "nicer" version to break a link with someone - it simply cuts emotional ties to the person while they can remain in your life if you so choose.

That said, I'm not sure if you can do a blanket petition to cover several different folks from your past. You may have to do a bath/ritual for each person individually.

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Fri Aug 27, 2010 6:29 pm

I agree with thelightfantastic....Black Walnut (found here) http://www.herb-magic.com/walnut-whole.html is a good choice.

illey · Unread post by **illey** » Mon Aug 30, 2010 11:20 pm

Hello all! I have several questions I am hoping can be answered. If you can even only answer one, any help would be greatly appreciated!

1. I was doing some work on my ex but I've finally been able to open my eyes and see the situation for what it really is it. Now I really want to be able to get him out of my mind completely and never think about him again. I just feel I have wasted so much time and energy already but my mind is still on him so often. I would like to perform the cut and clear, but is that enough to quiet my mind and help me start thinking about other people and focusing my energry elsewhere? Or are there additional things I could do to help with my thoughts?

2. Related to the first part, I had a honey jar going for him. I would like to dispose of it at this point but I'm confused as the best way to do this since I no longer want the influence of it around. It seems like it should either be burned, buried at a cross roads or thrown into moving water. I've tried searching the forums but I've only found suggestions on how to dispose of a honey jar made in error, not one that you no longer wish to be active. Suggestioins, thoughts? Is it an option to do one thing with the contents (burn, bury, etc) and recycle the jar?

3. My self esteem has taken quite a hit this year and I would really like to recover it/make it better and help myself get to place where I can move on completely and find new love. I'm definitely putting myself out there and meeting new people/going on dates but I could use some more confidence and security in feeling like I'm doing the right thing/I deserve love. What products would be good for spiritual cleansing, self esteem boosting and moving on (and calming/quieting the mind, as with part 1). I have used 13-herb bath and found it helpful but that was before this final falling out so it's like I need even more. (I'm also getting some counseling also, so I'm definitely seeking help eveywhere.)

Thank you so much for all of your help forum readers! I appreciately greatly!

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Tue Aug 31, 2010 1:18 am

1.I would do the cut and clear which will deaden your feelings for him, and help you be able to move on from what you had with him. I would do some clarity, and wisdom work to help you clear and focus your mind on better decisions for other things.

2. If you are done with the jar, you can dispose of it in moving water to get it away from you, or at a crossroads (recycle the jar). You could burn the contents as well and put them in a crossroads, or moving water.

3.I would do some healing baths, and do some road opening work as well. To help yourself esteem you can do some john the conqueror work to help improve your personal power. It is great that you are willing to seek out counseling services. I think that will help as well. You can definitely use that 13 herb bath, but in your case focus on healing products too.

Bella_Dellanotte · Unread post by **Bella_Dellanotte** » Tue Aug 31, 2010 6:05 am

ultimately the will of the mind is more powerful than anything. you need to believe in yourself for any self esteem boosting stuff to work because even if you perform cleansings if your mindset is still negative you will still create more negative energy that will eat at you and you will have to be constantly cleansing. know and believe that you are better than anyone who has felt the need to put you down. put that intent into any cleansing and boosting work you do and keep positive thoughts in your head. focusing on the positive intent and making a mantra out of it that you repeat to yourself is as good as any spell. nothing matters but what you think about yourself and your self is not defined by anyone but you. get or make a protective energy shield around yourself to help deflect any negativity people throw at you, whether it's intentional or not

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Tue Aug 31, 2010 8:51 am

Back up the Cut and Clear with new activities, hobbies, and interests that you enjoy, where you will have the opportunity to meet new people. Don't just sit at home and think about the past. Get out of the house. Talk to people.

lunatrix · Unread post by **lunatrix** » Wed Sep 01, 2010 12:22 pm

Yeah, this one is getting old for sure.

Still waiting for court, so I do not think it is wise to perform the black walnut bath until after
court is over. Hope springs eternal that this person will stop lying and I can file a dismissal.
Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. But it is getting down to the wire.

My point(yes, I really have one

)...I performed the Cut and Clear Spell from the spell kit, have been taking many spiritual baths,
and wearing the cut and clear oil. Unfortunately, I still am not over this person.

What would you recommend to do? I just received Road Opener oil.
This isn't a plea for reconciliation, but for me to have some peace of mind and move on.
After court, I believe much of this will dissipate, but until then, it is taking up way too much of my mind and energy.
This has been going on since March and am looking for it to be over soon.

Have what I need for court. This question is for me being able to let go,move on, and be open
to someone new who is not a Peter Pan man.

ms.cat's book arrives tomorrow and I hope to find some answers in there, too.

sassafrassblonde · Unread post by **sassafrassblonde** » Wed Sep 01, 2010 1:11 pm

Walnut bath. I do not think it will interfere with court proceedings, and may give you eveness of emotion when dealing with him. It's what I had to do.
I did the walnut bath, then cut and clear in that order. Same night.
Slept like the dead for 10 hours, and woke feeling way lighter of spirit, renewed hope for my future, and cleaned my house, top to bottom, then cleansed it. It took a whole weekend, I was exhausted, but it was soooo worth it.
Then voraciously read Ms. Cat's book and the LM website for things I could do for MYSELF and beloved family members. Especially peaceful home and road openers.

Sassy

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Wed Sep 01, 2010 1:19 pm

I would do some healing work on yourself to heal yourself from whatever happened between you and this man. Then I would do some things on a mundane level. Get rid of EVERYTHING that reminds you of him. I mean everything. If you have to get a bbq grill and toss all his stuff in the fire, then do so. I'm talking about pictures, things he gave you...everything. Give it away to someone else. Whatever you have to do. Next, I would recommend improving yourself such as start exercising, or just engaging in things you love. Get a hobby, and activity you enjoy with family and friends. And I would recommend going to therapy. When I broke up with my ex, it wasnt until I entered graduate school for counseling, and I had to get a therapist that it made me realize so much about myself. I am not sure why but speaking about it with someone, and having them reflect my thinking back at me...did something for me. Try it...and if you dont like your first counselor or therapist try another one....make sure its a good fit.

Hoodoo and rootwork is great, but sometimes you have to do other things to accompany it to help it work as well.

lunatrix · Unread post by **lunatrix** » Wed Sep 01, 2010 1:57 pm

Thank you both.

Stars, this girl is doing it ALL.
Therapy, lost 50 lbs, hanging out with friends, exploring new things.
Well, the exercise thing needs work...a lot of work! But that's always been an ongoing battle.

Thank you for the recommendations...they are truly sound advice. Hoodoo is not the cure all, but it helps.
I need to get rid of his stuff. I just threw it all in the garage so I wouldn't have to look at it.Won't sell the engagement ring
and jewelry until after court...you never know what these boy/men will do.

I think healing work is definitely in order. Will search the site and see what I can start now...like tonight.

Many blessings.

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Wed Sep 01, 2010 2:23 pm

Well good for you for losing 50 lbs, and all of that good stuff. It is going to take time to get over this man...but just keep doing what you are doing. I do agree with the above poster to do the wal nut bath as it will not effect the court proceedings. As for his stuff in the garage...get rid of it. Have a garage sell, or give it away to the goodwill, or a thrift store. You need to rid his energy from you. I would cleanse your house as well.

I would work with balm of gilead, and some healing oil/powder to help you heal from a broken heart. In addition, you might want to do some love uncrossing work as well.

Unread post by **catherineyronwode** » Wed Sep 01, 2010 3:03 pm

... And the Black Walnut bath! -)

You're doing fine, and as one who has "been there, done that," i can tell you that you'll look back on this later and realize how much better things are now that it's over.

lunatrix · Unread post by **lunatrix** » Wed Sep 01, 2010 3:07 pm

Well, it seems like the consensus is ...Black Walnut Bath!
And I've got them on hand : )

Thank you all!

ngreen35 · Unread post by **ngreen35** » Mon Sep 13, 2010 2:23 pm

Hello All,

I have been wrestling with a very difficult situation for over a year now, and I have decided to ask the forum for help.

I was dating a man for 3 years. The entire time we were together, there was one particular girl that I was absolutely sure he had a heavily involved relationship with because she popped up all over every aspect of his life. He would lie and tell me of course she is around she is a very close family friend and best friends with all of my sisters. He would deny having any interest in her except as a friend he'd known forever. I should mention he lives in the basement of his family home and all of his sisters still live at home, so she was over almost everyday.

Throughout the relationship, I would constantly have readings performed to ascertain how much bull I was being fed, and oddly enough, each reader and spiritualist (I went to a total of 9 different practitioners from varying backgrounds), would tell me a similar version of him not being interested in, but he enjoyed the attention and lust she threw at him. Every reader, also expressed in no uncertain terms that this girl was crazy in love with him, knew all about me, and was working on breaking us up, and making him her own. I was told she was feeding him things, cutting pieces of his very long hair while he slept, stealing articles of clothes, pictures of the two of us etc.

His family would try to reassure me nothing was going on, and the girl just had a crazy crush on him. We worked together for years, and one day after a two week vacation, he never returned to work, and essentially stopped speaking to me. Everyone was beyond confused because he never resigned and he was just given a raise before the vacation.

I assume it was some of her doing. He went missing for 9 months, but he would randomly text me every so often during this time to say hi which I thought was weird, and then he started asking if it was possible to come back to work and for us to try again. He eventually was allowed to return to work after much penance with the president, and we were friendly, but I did not trust him after the crazy stunt he pulled. He never told me during his missing in action time that he got this girl pregnant.

When I found out, via pictures he saved to a work laptop we shared, I asked him about it and he declared the baby was not his, he never touched that girl, blah, blah,blah. Baby was born, he then tells me it is his, but said it wasn't because there was another guy involved, her longtime boyfriend to be exact. So I have readings done across my nine readers again to see if the child was indeed his, eight came back with a no and one said a weak yes came up during the divination, but in my first conversation with this reader he gave me a strong no...I have been checking from the day the kid was born in August 2009-now.

I was also told this girl still works against me, and I am completely justified in some type of revenge. Here's my question...is there a way to expedite him finding out this child is not his?? She talked her way out of doing a paternity test, by calling the cops and saying he attacked her. He never pursued the issue again, and takes care of this child. He still pushes for us to get back together and I feel like once a scum bag always a scum bag so getting together is not an option. However, I am absolutely interested in this girl and her dirty little lie and her home wrecking ways to be made to face the music.

Are there any LM products that can get the ball rolling on this?

Unread post by **catherineyronwode** » Mon Sep 13, 2010 4:32 pm

You're probably not going to like my advice, but here it is.

Do a Hot Foot Spell followed by a Fiery Wall of Protection spell to get this woman out of your life.

Do a Cut and Clear spell to get this guy off your mind.

Let them build and live in their own world. It's not your problem.

IBube · Unread post by **IBube** » Mon Sep 13, 2010 5:09 pm

I second what Cat just said. Sounds like you've given enough of your life to this situation.

ngreen35 · Unread post by **ngreen35** » Mon Sep 13, 2010 5:33 pm

Cat,

Thank you for the sound advice, will do!!

Ashley · Unread post by **Ashley** » Mon Sep 13, 2010 10:27 pm

Recently always feel unhappy or moody with no reason.
Is there any method to help with this?

Is it suitable to use blessing to myself?

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Tue Sep 14, 2010 2:11 am

I would recommend that you get a physical to make sure that there isn't a medical reason as to why your mood is changing. And follow up with a reading to see if anyone is causing this through the means of tricks

I would recommend that you do a cleansing of yourself, and your home.

www.luckymojo.com/uncrossing.html

Then you are going to follow up with van van work to get away the old stuff, and bring in some new things

www.luckymojo.com/vanvan.html

Feel free to work with Sun oil as well, as it can help with happiness, and to increase the happiness.

Darth Rosa · Unread post by **Darth Rosa** » Tue Sep 14, 2010 4:12 am

It could also be that you're being affected by negative influences in your surroundings. So it might behoove you not only to do a cleansing, but also work with any kind of protection products at Lucky Mojo.

Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Tue Sep 14, 2010 6:29 am

I would definitely start with some cleansing baths, such as 13-Herb Bath, Uncrossing, or VanVan. This will help lift away any negativity that has gathered around you due to you low mood, and may be contributing to it. You may wish to do a series of 3 baths on 3 consecutive days to help cleanse your energy deeply. I second the recommendation to do a cleansing of your home as well - some Chinese Wash would be perfect for that.

If there are specific issues that are causing you problems, you may wish to consider using Cast Off Evil baths and candles to help you break free from those issues.

Healing, Blessing, and Tranquility products could all be very good to follow up with, to support any medical efforts that you pursue and help sooth emotions and help you stop worrying.

If self-confidence is a problem, then you may wish to try Crucible of Courage, Master, or John the Conqueror products to help build yourself up and start standing in your power.

So depending on what is contributing to your mood problems, different condition products may be indicated. You should certainly get some tests run by your doctor to test things like thyriod function, and also see a naturopath who can help you determine if you have any nutritional or supplimental needs that may be causing a problem.

Unread post by **Joseph Magnuson** » Tue Sep 14, 2010 7:24 am

I can't add anything to Devi's post... Van Van and 13 Herb Bath are amazing. I have more experience with Van Van than the Bath, but they both work very well for me. Good luck!

-Joseph M.

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Tue Sep 14, 2010 11:57 am

In addition to the above, you can petition the angels Michael for protection, Raphael for healing, and your Guardian Angel. I would also recommend getting out of the house, limiting television viewing, and eating healthy foods, such as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, nuts, seeds, and legumes (beans and peanuts).

Unread post by **Miss Tammie Lee** » Tue Sep 14, 2010 1:38 pm

All of the above recommendations from Lucky Mojo and the, medical recommendations along with a healthy diet sound wonderful. Depending on whether it is just a "slump", environment, or major life issues (just everything happening at the same time) again the recommendations were super. My only addition ( if just situational of course) is this:
"Your life won't change 'till your thinkin' changes", (said-- to me --about 10 years ago).
There are many ups and downs that come with life. We take the best of the opportunities and we learn from the mistakes, and we pull ourselves up by our boot straps and walk forward not backward.
You can start any bad day over at anytime. Choose to be the best, choose to be happy, choose to succeed, choose to love, choose to believe, choose to have faith, choose the life you want for you.
Be Blessed!

Ashley · Unread post by **Ashley** » Tue Sep 14, 2010 11:25 pm

You all are so sweet, so helpful. Thanks.
Thanks all of you giving me suggestions in all directions.

And I love Triplethreat's words so much, "Your life won't change 'till your thinkin' changes", I'm totally agree with you.

By reading the reply, I try to think hard what I am facing, what really makes me unhappy.

In fact I face sth for long, but I just don't notice those are reason, as, I am a bit get used to those things.

1) I have pressure from my family, not going to deep, it's financial problem, and our relationship is not good, not share feeling, not saying good words. I used to hide my feelings, the difficulties I am facing to them, and always stay in my room once I back home.

2) I am easily get influence by others, and really care how people think I am. Afriad I have done sth make people not happy. (Cos I am isolated at school when I was young) I would like to get more friends.

3) I am easily get sick, and always feel tired.

I understand that I need to change my mindset, I have choices, but I would like to see if anything can help me a bit~

BTW, how to use the sun oil?

Thousand thanks again.

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Wed Sep 15, 2010 12:45 am

I think you should definitely get a reading, and seek some professional help in terms of your isolation and feeling sick all the time. I get the feeling you are slightly depressed, and you very well may be. Of course, I am assuming, based on what you have told us. But I do think you should seek some counseling services which never hurt regardless of what your situation is. Its always good to talk to someone to get your feelings out.

As I said, you should get a reading as well to see what you can do to help you on the magical level, but never feel like you shouldnt go and get help from a counselor

1) I think you can work some peaceful home products. I would get a sweet jar going with some peaceful home herb mixture. Or you can at least by the spell kit

www.luckymojo.com/peacefulhome.html

For the financial problems, well is there lack of work? Are you going to lose your home...it would help for you to elaborate on this.

But I would recommend that you cleanse your home with some chinese wash, and then follow up with some money house blessing as well.

http://www.luckymojo.com/moneyhouseblessing.html
www.luckymojo.com/chinesewash.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/spells.html#green

2) I think it would help to give you some personal power I would look into getting a john the conqueror mojo hand, and help build up yourself esteem. You should definitely do some cleansing work for yourself as well.
http://www.luckymojo.com/johntheconqueror.html
www.luckymojo.com/uncrossing.html

and then you can follow up with some attraction work along with some look me over products to get some friends going for you. Make sure you right down what characteristics you want your friends to have otherwise you might attract all kinds of people that do not have your interest at heart

www.luckymojo.com/attraction.html
www.luckymojo.com/lookmeover.html

3) I would go to a doctor and see why you always are feeling sick. You may need more vitamins, have some other kind of illness, and if you are depressed...feeling tired all the time can lower your immune system. But I would go to the doctor for this.

As for the sun oil, you can anoint yourself with it, or bath in the bath crystals if they have them.

Unread post by **cognitivedissonance** » Wed Sep 15, 2010 2:20 am

Get some sunlight, or barring that, try some tanning. Take some vitamins and drink lots of water, get on a regular sleep schedule.

Unread post by **Miss Tammie Lee** » Wed Sep 15, 2010 6:15 am

Ashley, thanks for the sweet response,
Stars also gave some great advice about talking to someone a conseling service, a reading just to "get it off your chest". And a great list of Lucky Mojo ideas.
I like the idea of the Sun Oil--
And a little direct sunlight (provides vitamin D)-- especially if you are indoors a lot-- that cognativedissonance provided.

Badgerwoman · Unread post by **Badgerwoman** » Wed Sep 15, 2010 8:22 am

I emailed him yesterday and asked him to call me. He did. We talked about things, and he told me that things had been fizzling out on his side for a while, and that he desperately wants to keep my friendship, but that he just doesn't think he's right for my needs, romantically. Okay. I told him, quite honestly, that it would take some time for me to heal, and to expect not to hear from me for a while, but that yes, we could still be friends. What I told him was "I want you in my life. I love talking to you, I love listening to you ramble, whether it's as friends or lovers. And while obviously I'd like the latter more, I'll take what I can get." This was actually the most mature "break-up" I've ever been through. Nobody screamed or anything. He expected me to, I think; he kept saying things like "When you're done cursing my name," and stuff like that. *shakes head*

ANYWAY, what I'm wondering is if there are any tricks, powders, or anything to help me break the "romantic" part of things while keeping the friend. I'm not sure Cut and Clear is right for this; I've read the spell several times, and I'm afraid it would cut him out of my life for good, and that's NOT what I want. Black Walnut bath is definitely also OUT. But right now, a cleansing is in order, I think, and something to help me heal my heart. And maybe protect it, so that when we do start talking again, I don't fool myself into thinking he's into me again.

Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Wed Sep 15, 2010 8:24 am

If you target your romantic feelings in the Cut and Clear, rather than just ALL feelings, then it can work for your needs.
Definitely follow that up with Healing work for yourself.

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Wed Sep 15, 2010 12:41 pm

Violet Leaves can also help with heartache. It is often a remedy that I recommend with great results along with Balms of Gilead. Brew them in a tea and you can bathe in it.

Badgerwoman · Unread post by **Badgerwoman** » Wed Sep 15, 2010 1:18 pm

Thank you both very much.

Ashley · Unread post by **Ashley** » Wed Sep 15, 2010 6:24 pm

For financial problem...I am not lack of work. I try hard to earn more, I have got a full time job and a part time job. I am not going to lose my home, but there is a large amount of debt. Debt for University tuition fee, and my family owe someone and banks.

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Wed Sep 15, 2010 8:49 pm

Hmm ashley

How about you get a reading? I think it would help you to get some advice on what you can do for yourself. I would recommend that you do some uncrossing work...along with money stay with me work along with the other ideas I recommended. But I strongly recommend you get a reading first.

suzyparker · Unread post by **suzyparker** » Sat Sep 18, 2010 9:52 am

I have no idea how to handle this or what to recommend.. but the folks on this board are much more knowledgeable so I come to you for your assistance.

Someone very clear to me is conviced that God hates her and is out to get her. She has lost quite a few people close to her in a short amount of time and is suffering with a chronic illness herself. She isn't bitter or cynical, but seems truly frightened that God is trying to harm her and has been since her childhood. Any recommendations of a candle, an oil, a trick to help someone who is afraid of God or feels cursed by God. I immediately thought of Cast off Evil, but not sure if that applies to this situation. For the record, she is a non-practicing Protestant.

Has anyone ever heard of anything like this? If so, how to handle. Please, I'm concerned about her.

Thanks to all - love and light

SP

Unread post by **catherineyronwode** » Sat Sep 18, 2010 11:39 am

This is not an uncommon delusion or form of mental illness. It is not treatable by hoodoo except through palliation on a temporary basis. It results from a form of paranoia so intensely personal that every naturally occuring loss or setback -- of the exact same kind that eventually besets every plant and animal on Earth -- is seen as a personal attack by God. She needs mental health help.

tboy1977 · Unread post by **tboy1977** » Mon Sep 27, 2010 8:43 pm

I wanted to work some magic..... but my mood is depressed. How do I remove this negative energy so I can cast a good spell?

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Mon Sep 27, 2010 10:03 pm

A stable mind and stout heart are all important characteristics to have when it comes to conjure and rootwork.

Cleasing baths can help you remove the negativity and dark mood after which you should dress yourself with Tranquility, Blessing, or Healing oils.

Good luck.

Shirl83 · Unread post by **Shirl83** » Tue Nov 02, 2010 8:41 am

Throughout my childhood I was sexully abused by different family members. I believed my parents suspected something and never did anything about it.

I met my husband at 19 and got married at 20. I am now 27. To be honest it was more an escape than love and finally I was away from my hometown. .

I am not happy in my marriage and to be honest I do not want to remain with my husband.

I am also having dreams of my painful childhood, and now its difficult to sleep. Is there a spell to make those nightmares go away?

I have to visit my parents next month and I dread this as I have to see those family members mostly everyday.

Is there a spell that I can use so that they stay away from me? Its hard for me to look at them in the eye while I serve them tea.

Finally I've met an old friend online and I feel an attraction to him. I say attraction because I believe I cannot love anyone.

I feel I need to get my past out of the way before I can move on and finally be free and really find myself. I've been carrying a heavy load for a long time and now I cannot do it anymore.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post and if you think a reading would be best.

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Tue Nov 02, 2010 8:53 am

I strongly recommend Cut and Clear and reading the following:

Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up, do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland. Isaiah 43:18,19 (NIV)

Unread post by **catherineyronwode** » Tue Nov 02, 2010 8:57 am

I have edited your post a great deal as it was very long and went into detail about sexual abuse. As a sexual abuse survivor myself, i understand your situation, but i am also sure that this is not an appropriate venue to post such material.

I sincerely think that you need social counselling and therapy in addition to spells. Speaking from the heart, i would counsel you to prepare to spend at least one to three years in a therapeutic situation -- which need not be expensive, but can be a self-help group facilitated by a social services program.

Mama Micki's recommendation of a Cut and Clear spell is wonderful, as is the prayer she gave you. However, until you were in some sort of therapy or counselling, i myself would not take you on as a rootworkeing client, because i believe that social and family issues must be dealt with on the mundane level at the same tiime that spiritual healing work is undertaken through prayer and rootwork.

Speaking as someone who has come through this same sort of abuse, i can tell you that it will get better, and there is a life of happiness waiting for you. You do not need to live as a "former victim" or to dwell over-much on what was done to you. However, when family members are your abusers, you will probably need some form of emotional and social support during the transitional time while you are working out your plan to either forgive the family, or walk away from them. Which route you choose (forgiveness and healing or a Cut-and-Clear) is entirely up to you; my point is only that you may need day-to-day emotional and social support as you make the choice.

Good luck!

Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Tue Nov 02, 2010 9:16 am

I'm very sorry to hear of the painful experiences you had to endure. I have to first ask if you've ever sought counselling for the trauma you suffered? You are obviously still very raw and it seems as if it is still actively effecting many aspects of your life. It seems that some therapy may help you find coping skills to help you deal with the past and move forward with more personal power. Especially if you are in the position where you still have to see those people - you need an outlet to vent, gain guidance, and learn tools for dealing with it. Conjure can help support those efforts, but it will not replace mundane methods to address your issues.

When it comes to perpetrators of crimes against children, I don't personally have any problems with bringing hell down upon them! In my opinion, you're more than justified in any actions that you would choose to take against those that abused you.

I would work a Fiery Wall of Protection kit against your abusers, and combine that with a very strong binding that also included measures to kill their natures as well as mirror box them. I would also recommend a very strong protective mojo that you can carry on your person when you go home. Actually, the Fiery Wall of Protection spell kit has a mojo included as part of the work - so that would serve your needs very well.

Then I would work some strong healing and blessing work for yourself. Doing the Cut and Clear will really help, and if you want those people permenantly out of your life then follow that up with a Black Walnut spell. St. Dymphna would be an excellent saint for you to petition and work with, as she is the patron of incest survivors, as well as healing mental and nervous traumas and imbalances. She has such a lovely gentle presence, and she really does come through strongly for those who petition her with faith. I work with her often. If you are looking for a good counsellor that can really help you, you can concurrently petition the Blessed Dr. Jose Gregorio Hernandez to help guide you to the proper health care giver. I find that he works very well with St. Dymphna to find solutions to emotional and mental distress.

If you are working to rebuild your personal power, then I would personally work with the Hindu warrior-mother goddess Durga for that. She is an AMAZINGLY strong presence that can work wonders in giving strength, courage, confidence, and power to those that struggle with that. She is also a very protective figure. If you are not comfortable with Hindu deities, then you could continue to work with St. Michael (who is who is invoked through the Fiery Wall kit) on those same issues. He and Durga have very similar energies. I just really like Durga for empowering women and helping them find their righteous warrior energy! But St. Michael can definitely help with that as well.

I would concentrate most of boxing up your attackers, and then healing yourself. Let the marriage resolve itself one way or the other as you heal and are ready to open yourself to changes in your life. But you definitely need to seek counselling.

Now being in the position that you are in, you may not feel comfortable and able to stand in your power enough to do all that work effectively at this time. So you may wish to hire a rootworker to work on your behalf. They will want to do a reading on the matter first, and will formulate a plan based on the info that comes up.

Best of luck to you.

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Tue Nov 02, 2010 7:16 pm

One the greatest first steps is a simple white candle lit with a prayer asking for the Lord to help bring you a helper who will be able to guide you through this process of healing.

Then look for different therapy groups and/or professionals who can assist you.

sassafrassblonde · Unread post by **sassafrassblonde** » Thu Nov 04, 2010 9:52 am

Actually, I am wondering why you must be near them at all?
You MUST visit your parents?

Anyway, I've been around victims of both stranger / friend-of-family abuse, as well as incest, and please do what Miss Cat asks. You really need a place to be with someone on YOUR side. In order to love someone else, you must learn to love yourself first. Your hardest step is the one you've already taken.

In no way are you alone. Statistically, 1 in 3 females and 1 in 5 males are abused in some way before the age of 18, and a large percentage of those by the age of 12. No one actually knows the exact numbers.

You are taking control of your life, and you know what you don't want, now figure out what you DO.

Good luck and blessings to you-
Sassy

Grizzly · Unread post by **Grizzly** » Sat Nov 20, 2010 6:26 am

I was counseled by a Facebook online counselor with a reputation of a monk. Over a 6 month stretch, we became very close in private e-mails and I fell in love with him. He constantly told me how I enthralled him, he gave me a cuddly nickname and told me that he loved me. He later told me outright that my love was returned a hundred fold!

But somehow it came out that he had feelings for me among his people he counsels, and it alienated him completely and he asked his friends to tell me never to contact him again, as he is strictly a counselor (all of a sudden) and he posted on his wall that the fact that he had feelings for me was just a cruel rumor of someone who wanted to destroy his reputation! Needless to say, I am DEVASTATED!

I had never known heartbreak like this. I started cutting. I started drinking (I am a non-drinker) and taking overdoses of pills to numb myself. Together!

This man literally haunts me! I can't stop thinking about him and the injustice he did me. Not a second goes by that I do not think of him and I am sick of being misrable.

Please please please help me.
Is there any way to un-love? Or to make myself completely numb to any form of romance? He was the man of my dreams and there is just no substitute, so I want to remove my capacity to love, so that I will be apathetic to him...to be numb and not care about him anymore.

PLEASE HELP?

Unread post by **Turnsteel** » Sat Nov 20, 2010 6:36 am

You need a good Cut and Clear. Cut and Clear is a conjure formulas designed to help people move on from things like this. Here is the link to the info page http://www.luckymojo.com/cutandclear.html I suggest you buy the Cut and Clear spellkit, it has everything you need to do a Cut and Clear spell to help rod you of your feelings for this man. You can find the kit here: http://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatspells.html

Now that will help you get over him, but no conjure is going to remove your ability to feel love or make you "completely numb to any form of romance" Human beings are meant to love one-another, and it is foolishness to try and undo that part of you, that's simply the heartache talking.

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sat Nov 20, 2010 7:13 am

Exactly, I think we all go through that feeling when our hearts have been broken. But the Cut & Clear spell can help remove those feelings and get you on the road to a clearer frame of mind. Another idea (some perform both spells in this situation), the Walnut Spiritual Bath http://www.herb-magic.com/walnut-whole.html

Grizzly · Unread post by **Grizzly** » Sat Nov 20, 2010 7:29 am

Thank you for the info, guys.

I had never been a "boyfriend" person. I'm a loner.
In 1994 I had my heart similarly broken, and I wrote a song in which I "cursed" myself never to love again, and you know what? It held for SIXTEEN YEARS!!! In all that time I had not fallen in love even once, not even a crush! I was just plain oblivious to romance. It was wonderful! If I could just mimic that spell again, I'd be good to go.

By the way, is there any other way of doing the spells you suggest? I am in South Africa, unemployed and living in a shelter....I can't exactly buy these kits. Is there maybe a similar "recipe" for it?

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Sat Nov 20, 2010 5:01 pm

I would at least go ahead and do the walnut bath as suggested on the clear and cut website. You are going to have to purchase some supplies in order for things to be somewhat successful. In addition, you can take a lemon bath along with with the walnut bath. The walnut bath is the cut, and the lemon is the clear. You can purchase the walnuts form lucky mojo in the link above.

kelly103 · Unread post by **kelly103** » Thu Dec 02, 2010 2:35 pm

Hey supper, I do hope things went well with your mate there just wanted to say everyone should have a friend like you , well at least once in their life though............. have a good day

MsHooDooPrincess · Unread post by **MsHooDooPrincess** » Sat Dec 04, 2010 10:26 am

Detailed post about heartbreeak deleted by MsHoodooPrincess for privacy reasons, and the only note she left us was "thanks for all the advice LM family."

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sat Dec 04, 2010 2:06 pm

It's heartbreaking to hear your situation MsHoodooPrincess. Perhaps, because this is such a complex and long-standing series of events, you should start with a reading rather than rootwork.

To get a reading, call one of AIRR (Association of Independent Readers and Rootworkers) found here
http://www.readersandrootworkers.org .

Read through the list on the left and read the profiles of each and select one that speaks to you.

Good Luck!

MsHooDooPrincess · Unread post by **MsHooDooPrincess** » Sat Dec 04, 2010 2:44 pm

Thank you so much, thats a great start

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sat Dec 04, 2010 3:19 pm

You are definitely welcome!

Unread post by **zenrez** » Mon Dec 06, 2010 9:45 am

Hi Guys
I was wondering if someone could help me with my fear of flying. I have a little bit of anxiety and I dont know how to deal with it.
It likes to poke its head every once in a while and I would love some help.
I am going on vacation soon and need to fly, the anxiety is already starting up. Any ideas?

Thanks
Rez

Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Mon Dec 06, 2010 9:55 am

Firstly, I would recommend talking to your doctor about a course of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It's extremely effective for overcoming phobias and anxiety of all kinds. It does not involve medications, instead simply training your brain and reactions to respond normally to situations or stimulus that is currently causing a nervous reaction. In many places, CBT is covered by insurance since when you get a referral from a doctor.

Mindfulness meditation, which in its secular form of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) has many things in common with CBT but is a bit different in its approach, is also very effective. Many cities now how MBSR programs that are run by hospitals and doctors, and insurance again will cover most of the cost of these MBSR programs if you have a referral from a doctor.

Many people also find hypnosis to be very effective in overcoming situational anxiety - so you could also ask around for recommendations of a good hynotherapist

You can back up your therapy with some Cast Off Evil to help you leave behind your fears, as well as some Crucible of Courage and Master products to help you be brave and master your reactions. I like cooling baths for Cast Off Evil work, and then add some fire-based work (like candles, &/or bottle spells) when you get into the Courage and Master work. A mojo that you can carry on you may also be very helpful through the process, and when you go to fly.

Best of luck!

Unread post by **Mama Micki** » Mon Dec 06, 2010 10:53 am

I'd also recommend Safe Travel.

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Mon Dec 06, 2010 11:13 am

My personal favorites for anxiety is Tranquility, Curible of Courage and Power.