Re: Spells For True Love, True Commitment, Moving In, Engagement

colorfulsky · Unread post by **colorfulsky** » Thu Jan 27, 2011 12:14 am

Dear ConjureMan Ali,

only two of my berries burned, the rest were just strewn around the candle. But wow that was magnificent to watch... an eerie smoke came out of those two berries and they sizzled and popped. It really helped me with my intent, watching those two berries fizzle away dramatically. I just have to find a way to get the other ones burned as well.....

Thanks for your help!

colorfulsky · Unread post by **colorfulsky** » Thu Jan 27, 2011 2:35 am

Just a word of caution!
As with all workings with fire, of course we are careful, but with cubeb berries I can only stress, that the candle be placed in a bathtub, as the berries jump when burning. They can jump a foot or more and start a fire where ever they land!!

lol I am going to go air out the house, as it smells like a wood fire in here

They are fascinating to watch while they burn though.

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Thu Jan 27, 2011 9:35 am

Don't stress over whether they burned or not. Remain focused. And yes candles that have been studded do pop. Black pepper pops like that too and its fascinating to watch.

truzzie · Unread post by **truzzie** » Fri Jan 28, 2011 12:56 pm

Quick clarification on the first spell with the jumbo candle - should it be done over a series of days or should it be burned down all the way in one go? Or is it an either/or thing, depending on your circumstances?

tigerlily · Unread post by **tigerlily** » Sun Jan 30, 2011 9:16 am

ConjureMan Ali: Those two tricks you suggested are totally awesome! I will try it and let you know how they work

goddess70 · Unread post by **goddess70** » Sun Jan 30, 2011 1:44 pm

Hi I need help to convince my lover to let me live with him what can use for this situation?

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sun Jan 30, 2011 6:53 pm

You did not give much to go on, such as the reasons he is resistance to your living with him. Resistance in a lover was discussed in great deal in this post resistance-in-a-lover-t9109.html

Read through this list and see if something fits your issue. Good Luck!

goddess70 · Unread post by **goddess70** » Sun Jan 30, 2011 8:28 pm

You are right I did not. My lover is my ex and we have been trying to work things out we have two daughters. But he does not want me to live with him because he fears that I will take his home away from him. If we dont get along he says I will take his home away since I have two daughters of his and the law would side with me. But he does not understand that I love him and I want things to work between us. I did let him know that he needs to love me as I love him so our relationship will go well and we need to trust each other. But he is hard headed I dont know why his is being that way. Thanks I will look in that link that you posted.

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sun Jan 30, 2011 9:51 pm

Get a reading to see if this is really the issue and work from there. I mean he should want his daughters to have a home... AIRR: http://www.readersandrootworkers.org.

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Mon Jan 31, 2011 8:04 am

You need to get a reading FIRST. Because there are a lot of issues here. BUT you can start with a honey jar, and I would work on specifically a reconciliation honey jar or even a spell kit to help work out the problems in this relationship. In addition, you can work some road opener products to help remove any lingering obstacles so that you and him can get going on the right direction.

www.luckymojo.com/reconciliation.html
www.luckymojo.com/products-reconciliation.html

www.luckymojo.com/roadopener.html

goddess70 · Unread post by **goddess70** » Mon Jan 31, 2011 10:54 am

Hi
Yes I think I will do that . Thank you so much for helping me out in what I need to do.

gsk2 · Unread post by **gsk2** » Wed Feb 09, 2011 3:38 pm

I'm going to add myself to the queue of people admiring these spells!

I just wanted to ask a question for the first one... What day and planetary hour would you recommend for this? I would say Venus hour on a Thursday, however I would really like to know what more experienced people think.

Thanks!

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Wed Feb 09, 2011 3:45 pm

Please refer to the link if you are interested in working with the planetary hours and days of the week.

There is not one answer to this question. But since this is a resistance in lover spell, I would work it on a friday perhaps during a saturn hour as saturn can be worked with to remove obstacles. Or you can work it on a saturday during a venus hour. You can work it on a Monday with a venus hour as well.

I mean there are several answers to your questions. But since this a love spell and then getting rid of the resistance. You can center the use of the hours and days of the week around that
http://www.luckymojo.com/planetary.html

gsk2 · Unread post by **gsk2** » Wed Feb 09, 2011 3:55 pm

Thank you for the response. I find planetary hours very fascinating, because of the different answers!

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Wed Feb 09, 2011 6:37 pm

The way I do do this work is usually by hours of the clock, but when I do enjoy planetary hours from time to time. I think you are definitely on the right track and Starsinthesky's suggestions are great too.

KitKate · Unread post by **KitKate** » Sat Feb 12, 2011 1:50 pm

Hello Everyone!

I am a new member, so please forgive me if I am posting incorrectly in any way! I'm extremely new to spells and spellwork, but I have been reading this site and this forum thoroughly as well as anything else that I've been able to find online with regards to relationship spell matters.

I have been reading about all of the different kits, spells, and materials that relate to relationship matters on this site, and I'd like to have some input as to what I can purchase and do at home that might be able to help with my situation.

I have known this man for about 9 months now. We had been in contact ever since, and started to see each other regularly about 4 months ago, but the issue of being an exclusive committed couple, as in a "boyfriend/girlfriend" relationship hasn't come up yet. And while he and I are in contact somewhat regularly, we see each other about once a week, and we are physically involved, but not an exclusive couple yet. I haven't met his friends. We only speak mostly through IMs and text messages daily. I would like him to increase his desire to want a real relationship with me and to want our relationship to be exclusive. I would ultimately like for him to feel that he is ready to only date me, and actually want to be in a serious committed relationship with me. And overall, I'd also just like for him to be more interested, or to show more interest in pursuing me, and an increase in communications and desires-- all of that. My real ultimate goal, of course, if for him to ask me to be his girlfriend.

I have been reading about the spell kits, but I'm not certain which one would work best for my situation and my desired outcome. I'm also considering using some oils, or possibly lighting a candle with some oils and some written wishes, but I'm not sure which oil or mixture of oils seem best for my situation. Perhaps an altar vigil candle?

I'm considering possibly trying the Love Me spell kit, but incorporating the Follow Me Boy oil, Marry Me oil, as well as the Dixie Love oil. I'm also considering maybe trying the Follow Me Boy spell kit, but incorporating the Marry Me oil. I've also been reading about Jar Spells, but not sure if I should start with that or something else.

Any suggestions at all would be so dearly appreciated!

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sat Feb 12, 2011 3:38 pm

As you have researched LM has several resources that is designed for various levels of commitment, love, sex, attention, the ones you listed and your ideas are appropriate for what you want from this man. But I would get a reading to identify the route to a commitment with this man. Call an AIRR (http://www.readersandrootworkers.org) worker and schedule a 10, 30 or 60 minute reading and ask appropriate questions.

Unread post by **MissMichaele** » Sun Feb 13, 2011 11:44 pm

I also recommend a reading. Otherwise you might be singing, along with Muddy Waters,

I got my mojo workin'
But it just don't work on you.

Miss Michaele

Unread post by **catherineyronwode** » Sun Feb 13, 2011 11:53 pm

I recommend that you work with Love Me supplies. This is the sort of thing that should take you past sex and into love.

Here are the URLs for these products:

http://luckymojo.com/loveme.html information page

http://luckymojo.com/products-loveme.html/products page

I think that these pages will help you find what you need.

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 1:55 pm

Love Me products is definintely the way to go. Along with the spellkit you might consider getting yourself the honey jar so as to keep the relationship sweet.

I find that the combination of the spell kit with the honey jar is not only effacious, but can keep the work going long term.

You can find them here: http://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatspells.html

KitKate · Unread post by **KitKate** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 2:12 pm

Thank you for that suggestion. Would it be okay to do BOTH the honey jar and the spell kit at the same time or should I complete one before starting on the other? Also, would it be better to follow the Love spell kit with a honey jar that is more specific to a related, future issue, such as a Stay With Me honey jar, perhaps?

cynthiam · Unread post by **cynthiam** » Wed Feb 16, 2011 1:24 pm

would this type of ritual be done from full moon to new moon?

eagerspirit81 · Unread post by **eagerspirit81** » Thu Feb 17, 2011 8:10 pm

I don't know what's the problem. I have no problem attracting men but they are either crazy, I'm not mutually into them or something goes wrong within a month... Literally.

I have not had a serious relationship for the past 11 years. I am tired of it and so lonely.

Is there is anything I could do to change or influence a change for the better? I welcome the advice. Thank you.

Eagerspirit

Unread post by **Joseph Magnuson** » Thu Feb 17, 2011 9:02 pm

Honestly, I would need a lot more information from you regarding these situations before I would be able to offer clear advice. Where do you meet these men? Do the relationships follow a pattern? Etc, etc...

I do not wish for you to actually answer these questions for me, but I do urge you to get a reading, even a quick one, on the situation with Cat or another of the qualified AIRR readers. I KNOW that this would shed some real light on your situation and lead you on a path that would help you greatly!

Good luck to you and welcome to our forums!

-Joseph Magnuson

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Thu Feb 17, 2011 9:33 pm

Wonderful advice by Joseph. Insight can definitely help you discover what is going on.

Sometimes we give off a "vibe" that attracts all the wrong people. This is usually perpetuated by a cycle of bad relationships. We may not consciously do it, but we seek out these cycles.

What I recommend is a thorough wash and cleansing of yourself followed up by a Cut and Clear to help break ties with the past and open the way for a brighter lover.

Start with a 13 Herb baths just to clean out the detris and debris that's been gathering on your spirit and drawing these nasties to you. Follow this up by the full Cut and Clear ritual, which you can get via the spell kits.

http://www.herb-magic.com/13herb-bath-13.html

http://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatspells.html

antm422 · Unread post by **antm422** » Thu Feb 17, 2011 11:07 pm

Hello All and thank you for reading!

My boyfriend broke up with me about two months ago, saying that he wants to find himself and establish his own identity. This is understandable, since we got together young and had been together for four years.

I posted previously and got some great responses! I started working a honey jar with amazing results! He is back in my life, we see each other fairly regularly, and are sexually active with eachother! Yay! I have yet to perform the reconcilliation spell kit that I purchased, but if it works anything like the jar, then we should be in business!

Here is where my problem comes in: I am really looking for his commitment.....I know for a fact that he has commitment issues. I am looking to get him to commit to me and be happy being with only me! I am not sure if he is looking to experiment with other people, etc, but I just want this separation to end and us to be together and commited.

I have not gotten a reading, even though I would really like to, however, money is very tight at the moment (I had to buy a new car) so I am not sure I can afford it.

I will keep working the honey jar, and do the reconcilliation spell. I have a bend over candle, I am thinking about setting this so that he remains faithful and doesn not sleep with anyone while we are in this limbo phase.

Any advice is greatly appreciated!
Thanks,

Antm422

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Thu Feb 17, 2011 11:58 pm

Instead of the bend over candle consider following up the reconciliation work with the Love Me Spell kit. This can help acheive the level of emotional and physical committment that you seek.

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Fri Feb 18, 2011 2:22 am

The bend over candle could help, but I would recommend doing some stay with me work. But you should definitely sign up for a reading. You need to find out what is going on and his true current feelings for you. But I highly recommend going with stay with me products as that is the way to go as that will go with the fidelity issue. Since money is tight you can get the love me and stay with me oils or powders, and put that on a candle on top of your honey jar.

www.luckymojo.com/loveme.html
www.luckymojo.com/staywithme.html

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Fri Feb 18, 2011 11:27 am

Stay with Me is a great addition. I would do this *after* I did Love Me work. Stay with Me will get him to spend more time with you and stick around, but to really solidify an emtional committment do Love Me work first.

To quote the catelogue, Love Me products are "designed to draw a person of the opposite sex closer and cause him or her to openly declare feelings of love."

Follow this up with Starsinthesky's suggestion of Stay With Me, which will "keep one's mate from wandering, engaging in adultery, or even going out on the road alone"

So in your situation use Reconciliation to heal the hurts, Love Me to get him to confess his love and committ, and Stay With Me to keep him with you and faithful.

amber lotus · Unread post by **amber lotus** » Sun Feb 20, 2011 2:04 am

I have been seeing someone for little while, things are good.

I would like to knudge this person to start pursuing the next level of our relationship.

Any ideas?

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Sun Feb 20, 2011 5:55 am

I would go with a love me spell kit.
The love me products will get them to love you, and show their love to you.

http://www.luckymojo.com/loveme.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/products-love-me.html

amber lotus · Unread post by **amber lotus** » Sun Feb 20, 2011 9:40 am

Thank you for the suggestion

I looked at the kit and I already own most of the products that are included with the kit

Is there something else that you could suggest?

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Sun Feb 20, 2011 10:06 am

You could get a honey jar going too....if you dont have one going already. I would make sure that you have gotten a reading just to see where their head is at. I mean sometimes people are scared to carry on to the next level because they are scared, and have hurt still from a past relationship. So just make sure there is anything else left out.

Now I would recommend a skull candle. You can get a red one, and dress it with love me, orris root aka queen elizabeth, catnip, and rose buds. You are going to put in a few drops of influence oil and/or compelling along with some deer's tongue, and crucible of courage to encourage him to speak about how much he loves you, and wanting to take it to the next level.

http://www.herb-magic.com/deers-tongue.html
http://www.herb-magic.com/queen-elizabeth-powder.html
www.luckymojo.com/products-influence.html
www.luckymojo.com/products-compelling.html
www.luckymojo.com/products-crucible-of-courage.html
http://www.herb-magic.com/catnip.html

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Sun Feb 20, 2011 10:21 am

All good recommendations starsnthesky7. amber lotus, exactly what do you want from the guy, 'the next level' may mean different things for different people. For example, do want love, a commitment, etc? starsnthesky7's recommendation 'Love Me' is idea if that is the next level meaning a loving relationship (that you want).

amber lotus · Unread post by **amber lotus** » Sun Feb 20, 2011 10:45 am

wonderful! thank you so much for the suggestions.

I would like to explore our options. While I am not ready to complety dive into a commited relationship, I would like to work towards that abd build this relationship into something wonderful, meaningful and loving

Unread post by **Joseph Magnuson** » Sun Feb 20, 2011 2:16 pm

I'm with starsinthesky7, the Honey Jar is a real good "slow & steady" work that can (and should...if you want to do it, of course) be started RIGHT NOW. Also, the skull candle is a great idea and, honestly, one that I often forget about. I look forward to you posting in the future about what work you decided to do and about the results you get. Good luck to you amber lotus, and thank you to starsinthesky7.

-Joseph Magnuson

KitKate · Unread post by **KitKate** » Sun Feb 20, 2011 3:33 pm

Thank you for all of your help!!

I will go with the love me spell. I have been reading on the forum about adding additional oils and other ingredients to the love me spell. Are there any additional products that might be helpful to add to my love me spell for my situation? I was thinking about Marriage Oil to encourage commitment, or/and maybe Stay With Me (to keep him faithful), Follow Me Boy, or one of the Commanding/Compelling/Controlling type of oils to bring out some type of commitment?

Shany · Unread post by **Shany** » Sun Feb 20, 2011 8:58 pm

May I ask... how am I supposed to do this if that person is a woman? (I am also a woman)

rs2010 · Unread post by **rs2010** » Mon Feb 21, 2011 11:15 pm

I completed the first option with the jumbo red candle along with the herbs listed and follow me girl (female target). I followed the directions completely. I worked this for seven days and it burned high and clean. It left a bit of wax residue (but no solid wax or puddles) and the herbs burned as well. That was about two weeks or so ago. The past few days I have been getting signs. Of the target's name (two different times), state where they are, and their birth date. I believe it worked.
I had a question about how long does it take for a target's resistance to be gone? Or is this case by case?

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Mon Feb 21, 2011 11:43 pm

cynthiam, waning moon is good for eliminating someone's resistance.

Shany, this work can be done for either sex by anyone. It is not gender specific.

rs2010, how long it takes to work is a very generic question in spiritual work. It gets asked all the time and the answer always is the same: it depends. Depending on the obstacles in your way, the resistance, in your target, and a variety of other factors it may manifest faster or slower.

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Tue Feb 22, 2011 2:51 am

I second that Joseph and good luck amber lotus!

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Tue Feb 22, 2011 2:59 am

Amber lotus,

If you are not ready to move towards a committed relaitonship, then you have your own issues to deal with. You asked for a spell to help him become more committed however you are not ready? Well I would do some healing work for yourself, or whatever is holding you back from moving into a more committed relationship. I say this because you're mind set and emotions are not inline with the spellwork you are going to be doing. So lets say you do a love me spell kit, and then later you dont want him anymore because you are not ready...thats going to create problems.

I think you should get some healing products, and perhaps even some cut and clear to cut you away from PAST emotions/situations with others that make you apprehensive about moving on.

www.luckymojo.com/products-healing.html
www.luckymojo.com/cutandclear.html

amber lotus · Unread post by **amber lotus** » Tue Feb 22, 2011 12:41 pm

I apologize if I gave anyone the wrong impression.

I would like a committed relationship with this person, I see great potential in him. What I meant is that I don't want to rush into something. I want to take the time and really make this a wonderful and amazing loving relationship. But I would like to knudge him in that direction. As we all know, it always works better when a man thinks that it is his idea and he makes the move first

Thank you so much for everyone for the advice

eagerspirit81 · Unread post by **eagerspirit81** » Sun Feb 27, 2011 8:18 am

Thank you guys.

KIMSSECRET · Unread post by **KIMSSECRET** » Mon Mar 07, 2011 2:57 pm

Dominating lady... how did you do it. Let me know I need help I'm in the same situation

beautiful · Unread post by **beautiful** » Fri Mar 11, 2011 12:28 am

Hello everyone,

It's been a while I have not post here but I am still reading and purchasing supplies. Anyways the guy I have been waiting for all my life after 3 years is finally in a relationship with me. He's much more open to expressing himself now. I think he wants to take things slow and steady so he hasn't wanted to introduce me to his family yet.

I need some recommendations to get him to fully move our relationship in full speed like a relationship should be and treat me like the one who deserves all his love and trust. I love him and I don't want him to let his fears conquer him. He went through a lot in his past so he's become the type that doesn't trust people easily.

So anyways your knowledge and insight is fully appreciated.

I look forward for some quick help. Want to place some orders tonight. Thank you all.

Unread post by **Mary Bee** » Fri Mar 11, 2011 4:17 am

Hi beautiful:

Love Me products are good to keep the love flowing in your relationship. I don't know if you two live together but if you did, and you wanted him to stay at home with you instead of "running around", you could try Stay With Me or Stay At Home products.

And while you're waiting for any products to come in, remember: the oldest love spell in the world is to add a drop or two of your menstrual blood to his coffee

If he doesn't drink coffee, put it in some tomato-based food and give it to him. It will make him attached to you.

Good luck,
Mary Bee

virgosleo · Unread post by **virgosleo** » Thu Mar 17, 2011 2:47 pm

My problem is that my "man" has an issue with making a commitment to me. The love, chemistry and friendship are there, yet he won't commit.

I would like to light a vigil candle but am not sure if I should be doing a compel, command or bend over.

I'm not really liking the whole degradation thing with the bend over.

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Thu Mar 17, 2011 6:03 pm

I am taking for granted that by 'commitment' you mean marriage? In my experience, it is a good idea to understand the type of person you are working with to know which spell will get the desired results. A reading will answer that question. ConjureMan discussed dealing with reluctance beautifully in this discussion...resistance-in-a-lover-t9109.html#p60065

beautiful · Unread post by **beautiful** » Thu Mar 17, 2011 11:12 pm

Thank you MaryBee. We don't live together and I don't think the time is right yet. He cares, he spends time with me, he loves me but his trust is still lacking. He has a hard time trusting people. I am going to try a pink male candle and apply that with some chupparosa sachet and love me oil.

I even made a nation sack too and it works fantastically. I have a honey jar as well for him. I will see things through where it leads with my magic.

Olivialeigh · Unread post by **Olivialeigh** » Mon Mar 21, 2011 6:15 pm

Im currently in relationship with someone. However, he wont update his facebook relationship from single to in a relationship with me. While I know facebook stati are not the end all be all, but I want people to know that we are together and that he is no longer single.

Im wondering what products might be recommended for this? We love eachother very much, but this seems to be a little roadblock for him.
Im wondering if a red candle dressed with love me and come to me products with a petition saying x changes his facebook status to be in a relationship with y might be appropriate? again, we are already in a relationship so in theory this shouldnt be too hard should it? He doesnt have commitment issues because I am officially his girlfriend. However, a recent reading said that he uses his facebook status as a work tool. But women are constantly flirting with him on it.

thanks!

Unread post by **jwmcclin** » Mon Mar 21, 2011 6:51 pm

As you said he uses his Facebook status as a work tool; which may mean he doesn't mix business with pleasure. Have you talked with him about updating his status to 'taken'? It sounds like you may need influence products (http://www.luckymojo.com/products-influence.html) while you are having this discussion, to get him to listen and favor your opinion.

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Tue Mar 22, 2011 12:04 am

Compelling products are the way to go. It isn't too harsh, but has enough of a push to make him keep to agree to update his status.

thewriteguy · Unread post by **thewriteguy** » Tue Mar 22, 2011 1:28 am

a non-conjure suggestion.....you can choose what people see in your privacy settings... maybe the 2 of you can compromise and his "relationship status" can be hidden from everyone...that way he can use fb as a "Work tool" and you won't feel so bad about it saying "single"...if that's not an option, i'm sorry, just trying to offer up some help.... if you want it to say "in a relationship" and won't be satisfied until that's what his fb page reads, then i'd go with conjureman alis advice. he is very wise....

Olivialeigh · Unread post by **Olivialeigh** » Tue Mar 22, 2011 6:38 am

I dont think this is a conversation that Im comfortable having with him. Only because his last girlfriend pulled the same "we have to be in a facebook relationship" thing with him, I dont want to push him or feel like Im forcing him. I think last time he felt forced. While our relationship is different, I dont want him to feel the same way. My issue is getting him to make the first move here instead of me prompting this. Like him just updating it without me doing anything.
Would compelling products still be appropriate if Im not asking him first? I want him to think this is his idea and dont even want to bring it up to him.

Learning-Doing · Unread post by **Learning-Doing** » Tue Mar 22, 2011 4:19 pm

thank you so much for this information, truly appreciated . is there an incense that you recommend to burn along with doing this work? i went thru the posts , sorry if i missed that info anywhere.

Loripots · Unread post by **Loripots** » Thu Mar 24, 2011 5:29 am

Hi Everyone,

I'm not an expert yet - awaiting my LM course enrolment. But, I have tried this for reducing or breaking resistance - It involves the use of Follow Me Boy Oil.
One purple candle (I think you can use white, if that's all you have) with your name under or written 3 times on this.
One white candle with the name of the other on or under (do not dress this candle).
Anoit purple or YOUR candle with FMB oil.
Get a few pieces of sting and put one inch apart on the other's candle from top to bottom. Light both candles, as the strings break, so does their resistance to you.

Be good to know if anyone tries this and if it works for them

Stay blessed.

Hollie · Unread post by **Hollie** » Fri Mar 25, 2011 9:16 pm

Hello, hard question to ask: Almost a year ago I met my boyfriend and even though I knew we were very different in ways, a couple months later I moved in with him. He's from New York and he's a Leo, he's eccentric, has an i.q. of 133. He told me from the beginning that he is the most misunderstood person I would ever meet. He was right.

I'm from the same small town in Georgia all my life. I'm a Libra and do not do well in debates, I do not like to be challenged in conversation and do not like having to go into detail about most topics (even the simplest of news of the day) when we talk. Most of his reaction to things said and done is on the other end of the spectrum than mine. I love him and would be satisfied to know he is the person I will spend the rest of my life with. Can anyone give me advice on how we could possibly merge our perspectives that they might at least meet somewhere in the middle. The arguing and misunderstandings make me feel I"ll have a heart attack and well before my time.

Every blessing you give to me I give back to you threetimesthree.
Hollie C.

Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Sat Mar 26, 2011 4:09 am

Well, it sounds like what you're dealing with is just a fundamental difference in core personalities - a basic compatibility issue - something you can't change with conjure. However, you could certainly try to keep things generally more peaceful between the two of you, and see if doing so can help you two mesh a little better. But please understand that if you are planning on trying to spend your life with this person, that maintaining a peace would then become ongoing work since the issue is just a large difference in personality-types.

I would make a Peaceful Home honey jar on the two of you, to sweeten and generally calm the relationship, discourage arguments, etc. You might want to add some balm of gilead buds to it to help keep emotions soothed and promote healing and forgiveness for any rows that may still occur. Also get some Peace Water and regularly sprinkle it around your home, and in your shared bed to help keep things calm and amicable.

If there is something in particular he does that stirs up the most arguments and misunderstandings, then you could try making a doll baby of him, and then working it in such a way to curb that specific behavior. Basically working to dominate his behaviors so they suit your temperment more.

But I would definitely recommend a reading and consultation with a rootworker to help you determine if this man is actually a good long-term prospect for you. Sometimes it is a sad but very true fact that love is just not enough. I've been in that position before - where a man and I loved each other very much, but the basic compatibility just wasn't there making a long-term relationship impossible. You may be in such a situation. Or it may be salvageable with some ongoing conjure. A reading will help you determine that. You can find a list of skilled workers at http://www.readersandrootworkers.org

Hollie · Unread post by **Hollie** » Sat Mar 26, 2011 6:13 pm

Thanks for responding Devi Spring. A honey jar? ha, I wouldn't be able to set it anywhere because he puts everything but the kitchen sink in the fridge-fear of bugs. But thank you for the suggestion and I know what you mean about love being not enough. I hope we can work together, both of us willing to do so. I know I've done more in this relationship than I ever have in any other, maybe because I'm older or maybe because I really would like to be with this guy all the rest of my life.

Have a blessed night,
Hollie C.

(Hollie, you selected a shade of honey-yellow for your text that was very difficult to read against this forum's pale background, so I scraped off the color formatting. Maybe a nice, deep, rich blue, green or purple next time? Something contrasty. Thanks. -- Miss Michaele)