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sahjia · Unread post by **sahjia** » Tue Mar 03, 2009 4:56 pm

hi, i'd like to know what can i use for a girl to kick out her so-called boyfriend. i don't want the boy to be harmed. the girl has to kick him out so the boy can come back to his fiance becuase she is the one keeping them apart, so i want her to leave the boy alone herself.

Unread post by **Lukianos** » Tue Mar 03, 2009 9:00 pm

Hi sahjia,

sahjia wrote:hi, i'd like to know what can i use for a girl to kick out her so-called boyfriend. i don't want the boy to be harmed. the girl has to kick him out so the boy can come back to his fiance becuase she is the one keeping them apart, so i want her to leave the boy alone herself.

A Break-Up spell kit on the boy and his current girlfriend,
http://www.luckymojo.com/breakup.html
worked in combination with a honey jar and/or Lodestone spell for the boy and his former fiance
http://www.luckymojo.com/honeyjar.html
would be a reasonable place to start.

You might also consider adding in some Attraction work between the bad girlfriend and her future, currently unknown perfect partner, to enhance the action of the Break-Up portion of the work. If she is quarreling with the boy (the Break-Up work) _and_ finds someone new she likes better (the Attraction work), she is more likely to turn her attention away from the boy permanently.

sahjia · Unread post by **sahjia** » Wed Mar 04, 2009 12:47 am

Hi,

I didn't get the Attraction. For who should i do that? And how i do the Attraction work, if u can explain? i never done it before. What do i need to this work?

I have no accesss to the girlfriend or the boy. Sometimes i meet the boy. I'm just a friend to the fiance and the boy.

Thank u

YouTube · Unread post by **Miss Bri** » Wed Mar 04, 2009 6:15 am

sahjia wrote:hi, i'd like to know what can i use for a girl to kick out her so-called boyfriend. i don't want the boy to be harmed. the girl has to kick him out so the boy can come back to his fiance becuase she is the one keeping them apart, so i want her to leave the boy alone herself.

Hi Sahija,

If I understand this correctly you want to help a fiance get back her intended and break him up from his current side piece--is that right? Now Mary posted elsewhere that in some cases, for some men (and women too!) fidelity is just not in the cards, and if that is the case here then you will have a frustrating time of it. But, if the work needs to be done anyway, then I agree with Edward that a break up Bottle is a great place to start. Add the hair from a black cat and the hair from a black dog to it so that they fight like cats and dogs. I would also add inflammatory confusion formula to the mix:
http://www.luckymojo.com/products-infla ... usion.html

The fiance could then do the suggested honey jar with a candle anointed with Attraction oil, Come to Me oil, and Stay at Home oil:
http://www.luckymojo.com/attraction.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/cometome.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/oil-stay-at-home.html

Or some other similar combo. The idea is that while the couple is breaking-up, the man will at the same time be influenced to return to his fiance and what's more, stay put.

take care,
Bri

sahjia · Unread post by **sahjia** » Fri Mar 06, 2009 11:12 am

?You might also consider adding in some Attraction work between the bad girlfriend and her future, currently unknown perfect partner, to enhance the action of the Break-Up portion of the work. If she is quarreling with the boy (the Break-Up work) _and_ finds someone new she likes better (the Attraction work), she is more likely to turn her attention away from the boy permanently.ELKnapp
You might also consider adding in some Attraction work between the bad girlfriend and her future, currently unknown perfect partner, to enhance the action of the Break-Up portion of the work. If she is quarreling with the boy (the Break-Up work) _and_ finds someone new she likes better (the Attraction work), she is more likely to turn her attention away from the boy permanently.
Hi sahjia,Preview: Re: How to Make a Girl Kick Her Boyfriend Out?
bri thank u but i don t know how to do the breack up bottle .is there spell kitt for this spell or should i order one by one ? i have seen the breack up candal . and also i like to know about the attraction work . what is it .and how dose it work ?

sahjia wrote:hi, i'd like to know what can i use for a girl to kick out her so-called boyfriend. i don't want the boy to be harmed. the girl has to kick him out so the boy can come back to his fiance becuase she is the one keeping them apart, so i want her to leave the boy alone herself.

A Break-Up spell kit on the boy and his current girlfriend,
http://www.luckymojo.com/breakup.html
worked in combination with a honey jar and/or Lodestone spell for the boy and his former fiance
http://www.luckymojo.com/honeyjar.html
would be a reasonable place to start.

You might also consider adding in some Attraction work between the bad girlfriend and her future, currently unknown perfect partner, to enhance the action of the Break-Up portion of the work. If she is quarreling with the boy (the Break-Up work) _and_ finds someone new she likes better (the Attraction work), she is more likely to turn her attention away from the boy permanently.You might also consider adding in some Attraction work between the bad girlfriend and her future, currently unknown perfect partner, to enhance the action of the Break-Up portion of the work. If she is quarreling with the boy (the Break-Up work) _and_ finds someone new she likes better (the Attraction work), she is more likely to turn her attention away from the boy permanently.
Hi sahjia,

sahjia wrote:hi, i'd like to know what can i use for a girl to kick out her so-called boyfriend. i don't want the boy to be harmed. the girl has to kick him out so the boy can come back to his fiance becuase she is the one keeping them apart, so i want her to leave the boy alone herself.

A Break-Up spell kit on the boy and his current girlfriend,
http://www.luckymojo.com/breakup.html
worked in combination with a honey jar and/or Lodestone spell for the boy and his former fiance
http://www.luckymojo.com/honeyjar.html
would be a reasonable place to start.

You might also consider adding in some Attraction work between the bad girlfriend and her future, currently unknown perfect partner, to enhance the action of the Break-Up portion of the work. If she is quarreling with the boy (the Break-Up work) _and_ finds someone new she likes better (the Attraction work), she is more likely to turn her attention away from the boy permanently.

hello and thank u bri what kinds of brack up should i do the candal or bottal which one can work more on the girl because 2 times the boy left her but she dosen t leave him alone i want this gril to be out of the pictur .and also if u can tell me about the attraction work .thank u again and take care

Unread post by **Lukianos** » Fri Mar 06, 2009 6:17 pm

Hi Sahjia,

sahjia wrote:
I didn't get the Attraction. For who should i do that? And how i do the Attraction work, if u can explain? i never done it before. What do i need to this work?

I have no accesss to the girlfriend or the boy. Sometimes i meet the boy. I'm just a friend to the fiance and the boy.

I give Miss cat full credit for teaching me about this more nuanced approach to working break-up cases:

There are 3 parts to this work:

1) Break-up work on the boy and his current girllfriend (standard break-up candle/spellkit)
2) Reconciliation / Attraction work to draw the boy back to his former fiance (likely a honey jar combined with some lodestone work)
3) Attraction work to draw off the current girlfriend toward her unknown, future perfect partner (ie: someone who is not the boy) (likely a moving candle or lodestone spell)

For the work outlined above, you could get by just working the first 2 aspects--one break-up, one attraction. If you were to work all three aspects, you would have 1 break-up spell, and 2 attraction workings, total.

Attraction work is often done using moving candles and/or moving lodestones, the latter described here:
http://www.luckymojo.com/lovespells.htm ... oneattract

While personal concerns would be a benefit for the honey jar (hair, etc), none of these workings require the physical presence of any of the parties involved--name-papers or carving a name into the candle wax are sufficient to mark and name the lodestones and candles.

Hope this helps!

sahjia · Unread post by **sahjia** » Tue Mar 10, 2009 1:37 pm

hi thank u now i got some of the work about the breack up .but attacat i didn t the bad girl leaves with the boy dosen t he get more close to her if no so lodeston and candles moving to eachother don t they get closer or should i do other way that i don t know about it so please if u can give some more info about this it ll be helpfull i did read the page on side but i didn t get it tahnk u and take care

Unread post by **Literarylioness** » Wed Mar 11, 2009 3:14 pm

sahjia wrote:hi thank u now i got some of the work about the breack up .but attacat i didn t the bad girl leaves with the boy dosen t he get more close to her if no so lodeston and candles moving to eachother don t they get closer or should i do other way that i don t know about it so please if u can give some more info about this it ll be helpfull i did read the page on side but i didn t get it tahnk u and take care

I love the moving away break-up spell too, because it is so nice

Although, I don't know if it is so great for someone who is very new to moving spells and spell work in general. Sahjia, what you are doing is moving the "intruder" (the girl you want to get rid of) towards another man for her, where she will leave your guy alone. Each day you move her candle closer to a male candle that represents the new guy. As she is moving towards the new guy, she will be leaving the one you want alone. I would use figure candles for this and not lodestones.

Does that make sense?

Mary

sahjia · Unread post by **sahjia** » Thu Mar 12, 2009 1:20 pm

thank u for all info i got it only if u can tell me when i move the candal when it s burning or when ever only one time each night til night 7 and u r right i m new i know every one has diffrnt wish but if some can tell me about the what should i say ? if u were me what ll u say just exmple when u moving the candel ?

Unread post by **Literarylioness** » Thu Mar 12, 2009 1:24 pm

sahjia wrote:thank u for all info i got it only if u can tell me when i move the candal when it s burning or when ever only one time each night til night 7 and u r right i m new i know every one has diffrnt wish but if some can tell me about the what should i say ? if u were me what ll u say just exmple when u moving the candel ?

You move the candle before you light it. Just say you want her to find a new love.

Mary

sahjia · Unread post by **sahjia** » Fri Mar 13, 2009 9:36 am

thank u i m glad i asked and thanks again

Angelina2 · Unread post by **Angelina2** » Wed Apr 08, 2009 10:44 am

Hi all,

My husband has this one friend who is unhappy in his own marriage and is constantly complaining about it to my husband. They are good friends, and hang out about once a week. His wife also calls me and is sometimes hysterical, I have tried giving her advice but it doesn't do any good-Bottom line is there is no trust in their marriage because he had an affair years ago. I told her she needs Psychological help now from a professional.

My husband (and I at times) have been stuck in the middle of their problems- They used to hang out a lot and that is when i did some Hot Foot working and also had a candle set for that friend to stay out of our lives.

It did work quite good, but i have noticed recently that as busy as my husband is with his jobs and as we barely have enough time for each other, this friend has to bring his problems into our marriage and my husband is the one all his friends seem to need to "fix" their problems-I am getting very annoyed- We are expecting a child in a few months and i have talked to him telling him we have to concentrate even more now on our own life and marriage. He is always there to lend a favor to everybody and just can't say "No, I'm sorry i can't help you".

What can I do? I don't want to cut them completely off, but want them to solve their own marital problems and stop calling on my husband for every little thing.
Thanks.

YouTube · Unread post by **Miss Bri** » Wed Apr 08, 2009 4:02 pm

Hi Angelina,

I would do some more Hot Footing work on the situation and I would also do a candle spell for the friend and his wife that brings the two of them closer together and moves the needy friend away from your husband. You also might benefit from Peaceful Home products and a little work to get your husband to pay more attention to you.

http://www.luckymojo.com/peacefulhome.html

good luck,
Bri

Unread post by **Literarylioness** » Wed Apr 08, 2009 4:17 pm

It is time to Cast Off Evil! You can find that kit here: http://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatspells.htmlI would do a Cast Off Evil kit on the hubby to get him away from these bad influences.

He needs to make new friends and you can work on him finding appropriate friends who will not take advantage of him. I would do a King Solomon wisdom kit for this. That way, he will be wiser in who he befriends.

Good luck!

Mary

Angelina2 · Unread post by **Angelina2** » Wed Apr 08, 2009 4:33 pm

Thank you both! Always so helpful

tjack · Unread post by **tjack** » Fri Apr 24, 2009 7:42 am

what kind of spell do i cast to break up a friendship and an affilliation with a group?

Unread post by **Leah Rivera** » Fri Apr 24, 2009 8:17 am

There are a number of herbs that are best for this kind of work, the herb pages have some simple spells listed there.

Black Mustard Seed: http://herb-magic.com/mustard-seed-black.html
Poppy Seed: http://herb-magic.com/poppy-seed.html

The Lucky Mojo Products your going to want to consider are Inflammatory Confusion, Banishing and Hot Foot.

You can look at the lucky mojo pages on break up: http://www.luckymojo.com/breakup.html
That break up bottle which causes people to fight light cats and dogs can be adapted to work on a friendship as well as a romance. Instead of a divorce candles, you can get plain black candles and name them for each person, tie the candles together in a bundle with black thread and light them together.

You can also purchase a Hot Foot spell kit, which can be used to send one of the parties away from the other:
http://www.luckymojo.com/mojocatspells.html

Hope this helped.
Lara

Unread post by **Lukianos** » Sat Apr 25, 2009 5:08 am

Hi tjack,

tjack wrote:what kind of spell do i cast to break up a friendship and an affilliation with a group?

Is this friendship / group affiliation a relationship between other people that you are trying to disrupt (in which case, Lara has given you solid advice on how to go about it) or is this a friendship / group affiliation of your own that you are trying to separate yourself from?

If it is the latter, then Cut an Clear formula and spellwork may be of interest:
http://www.luckymojo.com/products-cut-and-clear.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/cutandclear.html

sammywel05 · Unread post by **sammywel05** » Wed May 20, 2009 1:42 am

I am trying to get someone to stay clear of his friends. They are a very bad influence on him and causing problems. What can i do for this or to shoo them away for good?

sammywel05 · Unread post by **sammywel05** » Wed May 20, 2009 7:27 pm

Part of his family on his mother side are trying to brainwash him as well? What can be done to get him to exclude himself from some of his family members and friends?

Unread post by **Lukianos** » Thu May 21, 2009 3:42 pm

Hi sammywel05,

sammywel05 wrote:I am trying to get someone to stay clear of his friends. They are a very bad influence on him and causing problems. What can i do for this or to shoo them away for good?

There are two major courses one may take: 1) spiritual cleansing and protection of your friend--13 herb bath, Cast Off Evil, Cut and Clear, and Firey Wall of Protection are all formulas that may be useful in this work:

http://www.herb-magic.com/13herb-bath-one.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/products-cast-off-evil.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/castoffevil.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/products-cut-and-clear.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/cutandclear.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/products-fiery-wall.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/fierywall.html

2) Hotfoot the bad influences:
http://www.luckymojo.com/products-hot-foot.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/hotfoot.html

Both courses of action will be easier against the so-called friends than against the family, especially if it is a parent who is a negative influence. That said, spiritually cleansing and protecting the person can make a significant positive difference in changing patterns of interaction and reducing exposure to toxic people, even if those people are blood.

sammywel05 · Unread post by **sammywel05** » Tue May 26, 2009 7:43 am

i want to do this underwraps without him knowing about it, how would i go about doing a cut and clear for him to cut the friends, mother and cousin out of his life, so he doesnt want to be around or talk to them ever? I dont want the cut and clear to cut me out just the friends and family? and when i do the c&c do i do one individually for each person? thanks

sammywel05 · Unread post by **sammywel05** » Tue May 26, 2009 7:47 am

Also i know where some of them work and/or live, especially his mother is there something else i can do for that such as sending junk mail or discreet mail to them and do you think if i have some C&C candles set up on the alter with the spiritual church that it might help?

YouTube · Unread post by **Miss Bri** » Thu May 28, 2009 5:12 am

sammywel05 wrote:i want to do this underwraps without him knowing about it, how would i go about doing a cut and clear for him to cut the friends, mother and cousin out of his life, so he doesnt want to be around or talk to them ever? I dont want the cut and clear to cut me out just the friends and family? and when i do the c&c do i do one individually for each person? thanks

Hi Sammy,

E. Knapp has given you all of the links you need to get the job done. When we work against people, we use their pictures, personal concerns, and since you state you know where some of them live, you can actually go to their physical homes and lay down tricks like hot foot powder. This is how we set our intention that they be affected by the work and not us. With that said, I feel it would be irresponsible to not point out to you that it is considered a very difficult task indeed to separate someone from their family, especially the mother. There are of course exceptions, but a different approach that may get you better results would be to sweeten the individuals involved by using a honey jar, and dong cleansing and protecting work around him.

good luck,
Bri

sammywel05 · Unread post by **sammywel05** » Thu May 28, 2009 7:51 am

What about using a sweetening jar on her to sweeten to me, thinking of me, etc? she has never met me with him, i use to work for a dentist and oddly enough she was a patient there so i have met her before but she didnt have a clue him and i were seeing eachother but does know about me. i was thinking of sending letters or junk mail to the friends with hot foot, some of them i can go to their offices and was thinking of dusting there as well, which is easier for me i was also thinking of setting some type of candle on the friends as well . Using a white one for him, dont know what i should dust it with and using black ones on the friends and moving them apart from his candle each day for 7-9 days. I am trying to move him back to me again but the friends are not helping, and i know he still has feelings its just the friends are in the way of things and i need to get his mother to have good/sweet thoughts of me and nothing negative. I dont know what is a good way to approach this.

Unread post by **Lukianos** » Fri May 29, 2009 6:27 pm

Hi sammywel05,

sammywel05 wrote:What about using a sweetening jar on her to sweeten to me, thinking of me, etc? she has never met me with him, i use to work for a dentist and oddly enough she was a patient there so i have met her before but she didnt have a clue him and i were seeing eachother but does know about me. i was thinking of sending letters or junk mail to the friends with hot foot, some of them i can go to their offices and was thinking of dusting there as well, which is easier for me i was also thinking of setting some type of candle on the friends as well . Using a white one for him, dont know what i should dust it with and using black ones on the friends and moving them apart from his candle each day for 7-9 days. I am trying to move him back to me again but the friends are not helping, and i know he still has feelings its just the friends are in the way of things and i need to get his mother to have good/sweet thoughts of me and nothing negative. I dont know what is a good way to approach this.

From what you describe, a honey jar is your best course of action for approaching the mother:
http://www.luckymojo.com/honeyjar.html
Regardless of whatever else may happen, she will still be his mother at the end of the day, and unless she is truly a danger to her son, she is also someone you should not waste your time trying to cut out of her son's life. Far better to be friends, instead.

Re: the candle work, Cast Off Evil or Blessing would be a suitable dressing for the white candle; Banishing or Run Devil Run would be appropriate for the black candles.
That said, however, you might also want to start a second honey jar for the friends, and try to sweeten them towards you, before resorting to hotfooting them out of your man's life. Removing someone's friends, family, and other social contacts rarely makes that person a better person, or a better partner, and may do damage to your relationship in ways you don't anticipate.

rs_09 · Unread post by **rs_09** » Tue Jun 02, 2009 7:45 am

Hello.

I had a vigil candle lit for me at MISC -- King Solomon, to help me make better decisions and choices as to my situation. And I have to say, that after the lighting of that candle, I felt more empowered and felt a sense of clarity.

I have since put a plan into action to become more financially independent. I also want to be able to find love. Now, I am ready to continue with my goals and need help selecting the proper items to work with.

I want to clean my home to remove negative energy. What products are most appropriate for a full house cleaning?

This negative energy I believe is being dragged in by my current spouse. He is difficult to say the least and I have noticed that when he is home everyone in the household is truly at each other's throats.

I would also like to know if the cut and clear spell is appropriate for a break from this loveless marriage. I do want to part ways as amiacably as possible but he is resistant to change. We have both admitted to one another that the love is not there...sadly probably never was there. But, he has become accustomed to a clean home and clothes, his prepared meals and organized life. I am not and want a split.

I do want him to be a part of our child's life and that is why I question the use of hotfooting him. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Also, would it be recommended that I clear out the negative energy before doing the spell mentioned above or after I begin to see results?

Thanks again for taking time out to read my post.

RS

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Tue Jun 02, 2009 5:25 pm

Remove negative energy
http://www.luckymojo.com/uncrossing.html#chinesewash
Then you would would want to use some blessed products or peaceful home candle
http://www.luckymojo.com/blessing.html
http://www.luckymojo.com/products-peaceful-home.html

A cut and clear to bring about a non-contested divorce would be okay here, but you need to make the moves as far as who will be moving out of the house, and make sure that you are emotionally ready to move on with your own life. Wash the house with cut and clear bathcrystals and Chinese wash. Launder the bedding (if you still share a bed, with the same products. Be prepared to discuss he situation, and wear some Cut and Clear oil as a perfume when you do.

I would recommend getting a white skull candle, and talking to it as if it was him. I would fix it with some black cohosh, yarrow, and compelling oil to give him the courage to move on from you. This would probably be a slightly less forceful way.

If you want to be forceful you could use a commanding, compelling, and control oils on the skull candle -- or a command-compel-control vigil candle to make him move on from you. You could use a bend-over candle as well.

Unread post by **cabriellenil** » Tue Jun 02, 2009 8:46 pm

Chinese wash sounds right. I usually start with ammonia to remove heavy thought forms in my place, esp. after there've been arguments/disagreements. Then Chinese wash will help clear away the mess and open the way. I tend to follow that with an orange candle dressed with road opener oil and/or lemon grass.

After that - if I were in your situation - I'd do some self-empowerment first. That's because you'd need to feel really strong and stable before you can realistically go through the whole break-up/kicking out husband scenario - I'd save the cut-and-clear work for a bit later on.

Since you already have plans for gaining financial independence, I'd say do some Crown of Success work to set you on the right track in what you're going to embark on. Crown of success is an all-purpose spell that could also 'cover' your wishes in other areas as well, like health and love, when you make your petition, so that's where I'd start.

When you're ready to go through the divorce I'd say cut-and-clear and the white skull candle as suggested above. I'd refrain from bend-over and hot-foot though - the former can bring degradation and the latter can cause a rather dramatic split, and you'd just have to make efforts to mend your relationship (as parents of your child) later on.

zombi · Unread post by **zombi** » Thu Jun 04, 2009 9:04 pm

Now, I'm asking this on behalf of a friend who says,

"My boyfriend & I have broken up. We're still friends, but I want to make sure we can be friends without him hoping/trying for the possibility of anything more."

What kind of work would help with that? Clearly, they're already broken up, but how to keep him from wanting more, or trying to return to their old relationship?

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Thu Jun 04, 2009 9:30 pm

I would tell her that she needs to be strong and not give in to his wishes. She needs to be clear, and NOT leave him on. Her words and her actions need to meet up. Often times, people like to lead other on because they like the attention, and be misleading with their actions.

I would get a white male figure candle and get some clarity oil, compelling oil along with some cloves for him to only see her as a friend. If he gets more resistant, I would hook him up with another girl. You could also do a clear cut for him as well so that he will move on from the old love relationship.

rs_09 · Unread post by **rs_09** » Fri Jun 05, 2009 5:15 am

Thank you both for your response. I think I am going to start with cleaning out negative energy with Chinese wash. I just love the idea of crown of success next!!! I agree that I am going to need much strength to deal with the whole breakup even if I know it is what is best for the both of us.

Thank you!!!!

Unread post by **JayDee** » Fri Jun 05, 2009 10:09 pm

hmm i been in the shoes of the boyfriend.... and trust me exs lead you on even if they dont want to because you have an emotinal connection. you can do a moving figure candle for him, having his candle move from hers to a new unknown lover, that would help him move on. really time heals everything and if she wants to be friends I think she needs to let him go for a while otherwise it wont happen... besides 90% of the time we say friends as intention to hold on, we dont want you but we dont want anyone else to either.. clear and cut is good stuff though I use it on me with a break up i dont know how i would be done on another.

cancankant · Unread post by **cancankant** » Sat Jun 06, 2009 6:21 am

Did she break up with him or vice versa? If she broke up with him, he's always going to want to get back with her, since she broke his heart (and bruised his ego). If he broke up with her, he may not want to be friends or want anything to do with her. If it was "mutual", then there might be a good chance to remain friends. Were they together a long time? That's also a key.

I agree with being strong and not giving in. If he is calling her, wanting to hang out and then begging to get her back, she may need to take a break and not see this person for a while. Sometimes time heals the wounds and people can be friendly with one another. I rarely see a former couple that can be very close friends, though. If she's trying to spare his feelings, she may need to hurt him and move on. He will get better and find someone else. If she leads him on, it could end up with him getting angry and/or violent with her. If she is truly concerned, I would work to find him another woman, but then being friends with him would involve seeing him with this other woman and she may not like that, either.

zombi · Unread post by **zombi** » Sat Jun 06, 2009 11:12 pm

cancankant wrote:Did she break up with him or vice versa? If she broke up with him, he's always going to want to get back with her, since she broke his heart (and bruised his ego). If he broke up with her, he may not want to be friends or want anything to do with her. If it was "mutual", then there might be a good chance to remain friends. Were they together a long time? That's also a key.

Actually, I really don't know who broke up with who or anything like that. I know he's in the Marines and she is in the Army herself, and I do also know that they won't be living in the same city much longer because one of them is getting deployed elsewhere? but I am uncertain of the length of time of their involvement, or the conditions in which it ended. I am under the impression that their desire to remain friends is mutual, though.

I think in order to figure out what she could do, I should ask her to evaluate the situation more.
I myself have never remained friends with an ex-lover, at least, not close or comfortable friends, so I don't really have any experience in this kind of matter.

cancankant · Unread post by **cancankant** » Sun Jun 07, 2009 9:00 am

Given what you've told me, I think the best course of action for your friend, if she still has feelings for this guy, is to do something to forget about him. I'm not saying she needs to forget about him altogether. If they truly both want to be friends, then it is meant to be. If one of them wants to be lovers, or wants to never see the other person again, then being "friends" might not be realistic. Given that one or both of them might be deployed, change jobs in the military and/or be sent to another base in or out of the country, then it might be feasible for them to write each other and your friend could use sachet powders on the letters. Depending on the situation, your friend could have someone set lights for her as well, since if she is living in military housing, it might be difficult to do for herself.

Honestly, I think that this situation will work itself out naturally. If your friend was trying to get the man back, she could try Reconciliation. Sometimes it is good to stay friends, but many times, especially when the man wants to remain friends, this is a way to "keep the door open" so to speak. Fewer men are interested in maintaining a relationship with a former lover if there is no prospect of getting back together or at least "friends with benefits", if you get my drift. Many women feel guilty after breaking up with a man and try to stay friends with person out of a feeling of obligation. Not to say your friend doesn't have feelings for this person. Obviously, at one point both of them liked each other enough to date!

A honey jar might work in this application, but the focus would be sweetening the man to platonic friendship, closing the door to romantic love. Distance works in this respect as well.

zombi · Unread post by **zombi** » Sun Jun 07, 2009 5:39 pm

Thanks for all your help!

rs_09 · Unread post by **rs_09** » Sun Jun 28, 2009 11:00 am

starsinthesky7

Hello and thank you for your input. I really like the skull candle idea and wanted to purchase the items to try this. I am not familiar with cohosh and was unable to located it in the catalog. Could you please tell me where I can obtain it. Also, is there a spell that I could read to familiarize myself with the process. Any help is much appreciated!!

Unread post by **catherineyronwode** » Sun Jun 28, 2009 11:31 am

We carry both species of Cohosh at Lucky Mojo:

Black Cohosh:
http://herb-magic.com/black-snake-root.html

Blue Cohosh:
http://herb-magic.com/blue-cohosh-root.html

Unread post by **Literarylioness** » Wed Jul 01, 2009 5:45 pm

rs09

You got to get clean, before you do anything else and you might have to do some healing work too, before you think about love. Hotfooting would not be good because you have a child with him.

You can use Chinese Wash to clean your house, but if he is still in it, that would not help too much since he seems to be the cause. So I would concentrate on getting myself clean and protecting myself from his negativity, Fiery Wall of Protection is great for this.

You can use a honey jar to get part with him amicably and to make sure you get a fair divorce.

Good luck!

Mary

Moondoggie · Unread post by **Moondoggie** » Mon Jul 20, 2009 8:19 pm

I am looking to leave my relationship, but I do not have the courage. I am in a semi-controlling relationship and I can not really step up. I also feel guilty about leaving although it is not good for either one of us. It is not something I can really do with candles because I would have to explain the candles and I am usually out of the house a lot. Is there any sort of jar spell that can end this relationship peacefully with holistic herbs I can buy at the market?

rickets · Unread post by **rickets** » Tue Jul 21, 2009 1:51 am

Moondoggie,

Get control over them, make a mojo bag and wear it when your around them. Theres a lot you can do.

I'd goofer them by foot track to start with, depending on the nature of the control they have over you.

I also would inform to speak to your ancestors and ask them to assist you on the situation, tell them that this person is controlling me and I don't know what to do, so please help me. You'd be surprised to know that ancestor reverence is very very powerful because you are dealing with spirits that have a personal connection to you and care for you deeply, if they found out that someone was controlling you, they'd do all they can to stop that and maybe give you the courage to break up. I always ask my clients to speak to their ancestors and sometimes give them a traditional conjure spirit communication ritual for ancestors, it's one of the best things you can do, in all honesty. You can also do rootwork under the eye of your ancestors, by putting your jars and tricks and rootwork ritual items and doing rituals on the alter you speak to them at, they give it more power and it seems to be a great spiritual space.

You can also do a cut and clear spell to see if the love on his side is still there, if its not it'll show itself soon, if it is, then you need to gather courage:
http://www.luckymojo.com/cutandclear.html

Theres also break up:
http://www.luckymojo.com/breakup.html

That black break up candle is powerful from my experience, put that in a tray of sulfur and drip commanding oil over it. You need to take charge of the relationship before the ties can be undone.

zitaholiday · Unread post by **zitaholiday** » Mon Oct 26, 2009 2:14 pm

I'm curious what I can do to make me and my boyfriend break up peacefully or at least mutual between us so there's minimal fighting and what not. Is there something I can do?

--Zita Holiday--

Unread post by **catherineyronwode** » Tue Oct 27, 2009 12:11 pm

zitaholiday,

Separation candles, oils, powders, and incense are customarily used when the idea is for a calm, strong path toward disentanglement with no fights, problems, or left-over hard feelings.

Some folks think of Separation as a "weaker" form of the famous Break Up product line, but that is incorrect. It is not "weaker;" it is different -- it is deliberately made with a measure of healing and calming herbs as well as those that will tend to drive folks apart.

Separation products and spells are especially useful when there are issues of child support and child custody involved or when the parties who are breaking up will continue to be employed at the same job site or attend the the same school.

See this "Hoodoo in Theory and Practice" page for more details:

http://luckymojo.com/separation.html

If you have any doubts before undertaking the work, start with a Cut and Clear spell. That will satisfy you mind. Then follow with Separation. For your own personal courage, use Crucible of Courage oil blended with the two other oils and wear them or dress candles with them.

zitaholiday · Unread post by **zitaholiday** » Tue Oct 27, 2009 1:35 pm

Thank you so much that sounds perfect! There will be issues of child support and child custody involved which is exactly why I am requesting a peaceful seperation.

--Zita Holiday--

Orchidclimbing · Unread post by **Orchidclimbing** » Fri Nov 27, 2009 12:24 pm

There's a girl in my life who used to be my best friend for years. She treated me poorly and said horrible things about me behind my back but I still trusted her completely. She told all my secrets and was a horrible friend, and she's still in my life and friens with all my friends.

Does anyone know a curse/hex to make all her friends leave her? I'm already in the process of making a vinegar jar to break up her and her boyfriend. I'm aware that vinegar jars work really well on friendships too, but I'm trying to sever so many friendships that it's not really practical. I need a hex that will specifically to make her friends leave her, although other side effects would be welcome too.

I have access to photos of her and all her friends and to an item she gave me a long time ago as a present.

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Fri Nov 27, 2009 12:30 pm

Generally, crossing and hexing work often manifests itself in things like financial issues, a shattering of personal relationships, poor health etc. You cross and hex this friend of yours. You might also think about working with hotfoot conjure. You can hotfoot her right out of the lives of your circle of friends. A hotfoot jar tossed into a running river could do the trick. Make sure to include stop gossip products to keep her from talking about you. Working with a dollbaby to cause her to drive the people around her away may also be a good option. While your circle of friends are too many people to work on at one point, it would be eaiser to focus on this friend of yours and have her drive the other friends away.

Orchidclimbing · Unread post by **Orchidclimbing** » Fri Nov 27, 2009 12:36 pm

Thanks for the speedy response! Could you please post a link to the recipe for a hotfoot jar?

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Fri Nov 27, 2009 12:40 pm

I think I mentioned the hotfoot conjure here:

getting-rid-of-a-boyfriends-ex-t3716.html

Orchidclimbing · Unread post by **Orchidclimbing** » Fri Nov 27, 2009 1:54 pm

All it really says is "create a jar spell with lots of hotfoot powder" and then tossing it into the river. Could you please give me a list of what goes into the jar other than hotfoot powder?

Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Fri Nov 27, 2009 3:48 pm

Well just thatm with your links to your target. You COULD add extra stuff if you wanted any other specific effects - then you would just add those herbs or curios. But it's really not anymore complex than that! Just pray your intentions over it and let it rip!

Unread post by **ConjureMan** » Fri Nov 27, 2009 10:51 pm

Yeah, its pretty simple. Fill the bottle with personal concerns, hotfoot power, some black pepper and red pepper, if you'd like and toss that thing into a river as you pray for the river to take them out of your life, or the life of so and so. You may add whichever herbs or curios you want to create the conditions you seek, but for regular hotfooting the powder, personal concerns, and some black and red pepper should do just nicely.

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Sat Nov 28, 2009 3:06 am

Add some walnut leaves, red pepper, black pepper, asafoetida, sulphur, and anything else that is used for bad luck and hexing. In addition, you can add some nails, broken glass, rust, and you can even add feces from an animal such as a dog or cat (to make them rot). Oh and poppy seeds, and mustard seeds. And rotten milk is another favorite.

Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Sat Nov 28, 2009 5:19 am

Well, see, unless you wanted to hex them too I wouldn't add all that other stuff. I usually just want the person out of my life when I do this, I'm personally not the type that goes over into revenge or crossing. I do usually put mirrors into my jar so they get back what they've given out, but I don't add to it.

But, of course you can totally go that route if that's what you want!

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Sat Nov 28, 2009 11:54 am

Oh I was going off the initial post where she said she wanted to curse, and break them up. Thats why I recommended adding the other stuff.

Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Sat Nov 28, 2009 1:55 pm

Oh sorry stars, I didn't see that she DID want to curse as well. I misread things. My bad! Your suggestions are great, of course.

Orchidclimbing · Unread post by **Orchidclimbing** » Sat Nov 28, 2009 4:21 pm

Thanks for all your help!

Do I need to do anything afterwards to cleanse once I've done the jar and thrown it into a river? Hyssop, etc? And what would you reccomend if I had no access to a bath?

(A bottle is as good as a jar, correct?)

Unread post by **starsinthesky7** » Sat Nov 28, 2009 5:07 pm

You should always cleanse yourself after you do enemy work. And I dont know a bottle might melt if you decide to light candles on top of it. You can get a jar from a 99 cent store. If need me get a baby food jar and clean out the contents.

Simpleme · Unread post by **Simpleme** » Sun Jan 10, 2010 1:37 pm

Hello Everyone.
I knew to this, but desparetly need some help. I read through the forums and didn't see anything specific to breaking up friendships, only male and female relationships.

So I would like to know, how to break up the friendsip between two guys. They are really good friends, but the guy I don't like keeps telling me friend bad things about me and encouraging him to end our friendship. If it helps any, I'm a guy also.

I want to keep my friendship with this guy, but I want the other guy to go away forever.

Can someone please help me.?
Thanks

Unread post by **Devi Spring** » Sun Jan 10, 2010 1:48 pm

Use a vinegar jar. They have been discussed many times, so search the forum.