Hi all,
As a member of this forum for the past 3 years, the focus of the majority of the conjure I’ve done was on love work, dealing with different targets.
That said, I just wanted to offer some of the tips I’ve learned over time from my trials and errors when doing love conjure. This is for those new to the forum and pre-existing members alike.
The first tip I would like to offer is if you are dealing with a person (or “target”, as is often termed in Hoodoo) and you have to use magick to manipulate them in the first place, then that is your first indicator that perhaps it was not meant to be. Ideally, a person who is into you and willing to do right by you would do so naturally without the influence of magickal means.
However and unfortunately, things aren’t always so perfect for many of us so in order to get things going the way we want them to go, we have to resort to “puppetry” – as I like to often it, because that’s basically all it is.
When you feel that you have to resort to magick to manipulate a person’s actions to your will, you have to think long and hard about what it is that you REALLY want to accomplish and also the consequences that may result because of it. SERIOUSLY, think long and hard about this before doing any magickal undertaking on a target, especially when it comes to love!
If you have met someone new, try to get to know the person first. This goes back to what I said in the beginning, if a person is naturally inclined to do right by you then you shouldn’t have to influence them with magick to begin with. However and I must admit, even then sometimes certain areas could use a “boost” in the right direction and there is nothing wrong with that.
If you have someone that you’re already involved with then the same rule above applies, except that you are more intimate with them so therefore you should already be familiar with their energy. Depending on the level of intimacy, you should also be able to have access to any personal concerns of theirs, which would help boost the success of the work needed to be done.
If you find that you have to do love work on a target, I HIGHLY recommend getting a divination on the target first in order to determine the trajectory of the work. For divinations, I would recommend using the AIRR (that is, Association of Independent Readers and Rootworkers). These are the following tips I would recommend for your reading(s)…..
- You need to first find out as much as you can about the person and ask questions from every angle possible.
- You need to find out if the person in question is right for you or even worth your time and effort to begin with, and what could become of it in the long run IF things work out according to the work you wish to do.
- You need to find out if the person is even open to loving you or having the connection with you that you desire.
- You need to find out the areas of problems AND the underlying resistance that may be present.
- You need to find out if the person is secretly involved with anyone else or have any existing baggage from any previous relationships or affairs.
- Know that when getting your readings, different readers often read using different methods of divination and thus may not see a given situation in the same way as another reader might. It is OK to shop around with different readers to see which reader you connect with the best and can overall give you the most insight on your situation and the target at hand.
If the divinations check out and everything looks ok, you may begin to do the "work". However, if there are underlying problems or resistance then those areas MUST be addressed first or else your work will not go anywhere! For example, if you have a target that you are trying to woo and they are single, make sure there aren't any other love interests behind the scenes and put spiritual protection around the target to prevent anyone else from getting to them first!
The next tips I would like to offer is to be REALISTIC about your expectations when doing love work. If you try to do a “job” on a person and put them under a love spell (which is not recommended, although I’ve done it), know that the spell is only as strong as you make it. If you have enough energy to muster to put them fully under and you are able to make them “fall in love with you”, know that the person will not love you truly. They are only under the “illusion” of being in love with you until it wears off – and IT WILL. In most cases it usually doesn’t turn out good. Either the person will go back to their normal selves, they will repel your energy because they did not naturally feel that way for you in the first place, or you won’t be able to get rid of them completely because some of that energy is still tied to them and it makes them miserable. The reality is that you distorted that person’s natural energy, but this really depends on the type of job that you do on them, so you MUST be careful!
Instead of going this route, I would rather recommend doing work to instead opening that person’s energy to connecting with you in the way that you desire instead of trying to unrealistically change them. If a person is already naturally inclined to that, then the work you do is gonna boost that pre-existing energy. But if the person has no pre-existing feelings for you or is not naturally inclined to do certain things then that means the work is going to be more difficult because you are essentially trying to create an energy that is not there! Even if your work does sway them it may only be temporary and the target may eventually spring back to their natural inclinations, which means that you may have to continue to work on them on an ongoing basis and that will eventually become exhausting for the both of you! Of course there are exceptions, as each situation is different!
When doing love work on a target, BE PATIENT. You have to keep in mind that the energetic changes you are making to the target has to be processed in their thoughts and feelings before there is actual movement – a target is an actual human being, after all. Sometimes a target may be feeling the energy but may show no obvious indication that your work is manifesting within them. In Hoodoo it is traditional to watch out for signs from the universe that may indicate manifestation. It is also somewhat traditional to give yourself 3 days, 3 weeks and 3 months to wait for successful movement, but that is just a general rule of thumb. The reality is that it could take any amount of time, but DO give yourself a time frame when working on a target – love work or not! You just simply do not want to waste too much time and energy.
Keep in mind too that a lot of what you’re trying to accomplish may have to be done in baby steps or perhaps worked on from various angles. You may find that if you tried pushing a target's energy in one way yielded you only limited results or none at all, but when you hit them from a different angle then you got the movement that you wanted!
Again, divination is important to keep you up to date on what is going on behind the scenes with your target, what exactly needs to be done, and whether or not there is any hope for your desired outcome.
Overall, I have to say that if you have to use magick to manipulate a target for love, romantic or sexual means, it’s best to BE REALISTIC, BE CAREFUL, and try to only use magickal means to sway things in one way or another instead of trying to fully control a person’s overall will. And if it’s not meant to be and you’ve already exhausted all possibilities, it’s best to “Cut & Clear” (which is one of Lucky Mojo’s line of products) and move on. If anything, it’s better to “conjure up” a person who you will not have to manipulate at all, and will give you the level of intimacy that you desire naturally.
These are just a few of the tips I wanted to offer for those who are undertaking or wish to undertake any love work.
Best wishes!