Thanks all for the great insight.
Cat I got starstruck reading your response! Lol. But again thanks to all for taking the time to reply. I've ordered my kit and few extra things as well, so hopefully it will be in before the new moon.
So excited, I always get positive energy when I come to the forum, especially when I want to give up on the situation. Ie. The devil somehow got into my head and I was having some negative thoughts about him and despairing on the situation as a whole so I decided to just let it go and cancel the order, as I was calling lm, literally as I was going to hit the talk button he called me that instant, just to check up on me and the baby. Coincidence? I don't think so, I also had a dream about him the night before.
1) Cat you mentioned to put the semen in the candle by digging a hole at the bottom and loading it. Well the semen is on some tissue that I've put in a tightly lidded bottle with some water, you know to keep the juices juicy

. So its really liquidy.
2) I also have some magnetic sand, how do you think I could incorporate it into the spell?
3) With the male member candle that I ordered in pink, I read to ummmm put my own juices on it, and also read you could do it in an x rated way. Do you think that's ideal for a honey jar?
4) I also had a black candle that I visualized as their once relationship, marked it the ex and lit it on top of my toilet bowl, the little wax that was left I flushed it down the toilet? Good idea? But to be honest I'm not worried about the ex at all, because its just a gut feeling I'm getting that's telling me she isn't part of the equation, that this man is yours. To be honest I am also getting the gut feeling that if I do this honey jar its going to work toooooo well, he will become borderline obsessive . He gets very angry if I mention the idea of another man in my life, but trys to conceal it and act nonchalant but he wears his emotions quite clearly.
5) Last question I lit a 7 day pink candle that I anointed with john the conqueror and come to me oil. I also drew a star of david in the wax, wrote our names, dug a hole to put the name petition in that was loaded with semen and magnetic sand. I also placed a picture of us underneath the candle. The candle has been burning clean, a little bit of a double flame when it the fire caught the paper in the wax and occasionally it will make popping sounds? Any clue as to what that could mean? Also, as I was typing this he called me.
Anywho I will give you an update as things go on. I pray God continues to bless us all.