I don't have any of that, I'm a very private person

I never thought about that she would wash her clothing before she shipped it, dang. On the site she wrote that the outfit was worn only once. So I thought she might just sent it out without washing it, but this makes sense. I would have to smell it once I do have her clothing, trying to find that detergent smell.
I actually already did one round of spell on her. I lit some love vigil candles. I usually print my target's picture using the HP Sprocket, and stick the picture on the candle glass with the petition at the bottom of the candle glass. I am doing a second round just to add more power toward the spell.
I never thought that a person's picture is a strong personal link, but from the way you worded it, it might as well be a very strong link. I'm hoping that she handwritten her return address and my address, so I can also use that as her personal concern, her own handwriting.